"Strive to Be the Capable Wife: 4 Essential Lists to Smooth Out Relations with Relatives*"

2021.01.21 published

Be the Complimented Wife ♡ Here's the List to Make After Marriage!

After getting married, you'll become the beloved wife of your dear partner ♡

As a supportive wife, providing meticulous support to your husband and earning the title of "You're a great wife!" from both him and those around him is something to strive for＊

To achieve this, it's good to be able to quickly answer your husband's little daily questions, such as "Hey, how was this again?"

Especially, issues related to family and relatives often have things you shouldn't forget and require strict adherence to manners.

To smoothly navigate relationships as a daughter-in-law, here are four notes and lists you should prepare once you get married＊

List to Create After Marriage ① Address List

At the time of the wedding, you’ll collect the addresses of your guests, right? ◎ This address list is something you should definitely make a note of. It's recommended to compile it in Excel or buy an address book.

It will be useful when sending wedding announcements, New Year's cards, or gifts such as summer and winter presents in the future.

If you don’t know the address when you need it, you’ll have to ask each time, but,

If you keep asking, your husband might think, "Hey, this is the same address you sent the invitation to. Why do you keep asking?"

To avoid being seen as rude or careless, it's advisable to create the address list during the wedding.

Also, make sure to update addresses when you later find out someone has moved!

List to Create After Marriage ② Birthday List

Right now, at this stage of marriage, it might be good to create a "Birthday List" with everyone's birthdays noted. ◎

Having the birthdays of each other’s family members, relatives, friends, mentors, and bosses recorded somewhere is very convenient.

If you set it up in your smartphone calendar with annual notifications, you won’t forget. A friend of mine even makes an original calendar that prints "◯◯'s Birthday" and I thought that was wonderful!

➡️ Calendar shop where you can create one from 500 yen＊＊＊

Even if you’re not in a position to give a birthday gift every year, when you meet around someone’s birthday during gatherings, you can give them a little gift or offer your congratulations ♡

@haruno45

List to Create After Marriage ③ Gift List

Once you get married, you'll likely have many interactions with family. When you visit someone’s home, bringing a gift or sending summer and winter gifts might be required.

In such cases, having a gift list is very convenient ◎

Keeping a stock of 5 to 10 guaranteed-to-please gifts means you can easily give something during unexpected visits♩

What you should list is:

☑️ Gift ideas for purchasing

☑️ Past history of who you gifted what

☑️ Past history of who gifted you what

These three items.

What you’ve given or received tends to be forgotten, so be sure to record them carefully♩

➡ Recommended gift product list here＊

List to Create After Marriage ④ Financial Transactions for Special Occasions

Finally, I’d like to introduce a list to summarize the financial transactions for special occasions.

After marriage, you first receive gifts for your wedding. At that time, make sure to note who gave how much in your list.

Once you have your own family, you’ll repeatedly encounter financial exchanges during various special occasions with relatives and workplace connections.

Weddings, relocations, births, New Year's gifts, admissions, graduations, funerals, and so on.

Knowing the amounts received and given can be useful for future references＊

"I want to gift my friend, who I received a wedding gift from, but what did they give me again?"

"I gave that relative's child New Year's money last year, but how much was it?" To avoid situations like this, make sure to note what you’ve gifted and what you’ve received, including the items and amounts♩

Now's the Time to Create Your Lists ♡ Aim to be a Capable Wife ♩

I've introduced four lists that would be good to have in the future＊

If you’re able to make these kinds of lists and notes carefully, you’ll surely be a dependable wife! I'm sure your husband will feel proud when people say, "He married a capable wife!"

Alongside preparing for the wedding, jot down anything that might be useful in the future♩

@nagisa_marry