"I'm Embarrassed and Not Good with Tearful Moments: How to Handle the Situation When You Don't Want to Read the Bride's Letter"

2018.11.27 published

（´-`）.｡oO（To be honest, I don't want to read the bride's letter...）

Speaking of the bride's letter, it's a classic performance that often brings tears during the climax of the wedding reception.

It's a touching moment that can make not only parents and family but also the other guests end up in tears＊

However, some may feel:

・I find it embarrassing to perform such tearful displays or to speak in front of others.

・I want to express my gratitude, but I don’t think it's necessary to do it in front of everyone.

・I want to skip the letter and spend that time on a different performance.

・On the contrary, my mother told me not to read it.

・Due to family circumstances, reading a letter to specific individuals is a bit awkward.

For these reasons, I think there are brides who consider "not wanting to read the bride's letter"＊

It's completely fine not to read it!

If so, it's completely fine not to read the bride's letter＊

You may have some worries about whether your parents were looking forward to your letter or if the guests have expectations, but

there’s absolutely no need to force yourself to carry out the bride’s letter if it’s not how you feel!

Parents will surely understand when you express your feelings properly♡

So, if you decide not to read the bride’s letter, what should you do instead on the day?

① Hand over the letter to your parents before the wedding starts＊

One of the most common ideas is to hand your parents the letter individually before the wedding starts (during the first meet or family introductions).

At this timing, there’s no embarrassment, and your parents will gain the pleasure of "looking forward to reading the letter"＊

By cutting out the letter at the reception, it also allows more time for interactions with guests during table rounds, making it a two-in-one benefit.

② Just a gift and a word in front of everyone＊

If there are his parents present and you want to prepare something even if you're not reading the letter,

many brides choose to simply present the gift to their parents in front of everyone and express their gratitude with just a simple "Thank you"＊

It's a short phrase, but the feeling of gratitude isn't something that can be measured by the length of the text...!

Ending the reception with smiles instead of tears is also a happy point＊

③ Show a thank-you movie＊

But if you still strongly want to create a special performance for your parents, showing a thank-you movie is also recommended.

Slide small childhood photos or family pictures, and add a little message for an emotional touch＊

A short movie of about 1 to 2 minutes is fine, so why not create a video for the parents who have cared for you the most?

Many brides feel it’s much better than reading an embarrassing letter themselves!＊

@nagisa_marry

What can you do instead of the bride's letter?

If you don't want to read the bride's letter, there's no requirement to do so＊

However, it's best to be able to convey your gratitude toward your parents in some alternative way.

Many brides actually use the ideas introduced this time, so please consider them as references＊