Cute... But do hydrangeas have negative meanings? Should they be used or avoided in weddings?

2018.10.13 published

I Asked Brides for Their Opinions＊

Hello, I'm Haruno Tsuzaki, the editor-in-chief of marry＊

Yesterday, I tried a project I've always wanted to do!

It was a counseling session where brides answer questions from brides organized by marry!

Planning a wedding is a first-time experience, and I believe there is no one in the world who has exactly the same situation as you.

Various unexpected incidents come up, leaving you perplexed.

I wish everything could go smoothly without any issues... but somehow, that's not how life works.

"But, I want to overcome those challenges and make my wedding a success!♡"

At marry, we want to support brides who feel the same way♡

Surely, what brides are looking for is real voices.

☑ What did everyone actually do?

☑ What do everyone actually think?

I believe that’s the case.

Therefore, we decided to share the concerns gathered at marry on Instagram Stories and consult our 130,000 followers!

➡ Here is marry's Instagram

【Consultation Content】 Hydrangeas are cute, but I'm concerned about their flower language.

So, the issue we received yesterday is as follows!

<<Content>>

I have a concern!

Recently, bouquets and dresses featuring hydrangeas have been trending, right?

However, I learned that the flower language of hydrangeas includes "infidelity" and "changeability," and now I'm hesitating to use them for my wedding.

I'm curious if brides who used hydrangeas were aware of this or not!

I asked the question＊

Not just brides who actually used hydrangeas, but I asked everyone!

Here are the results♡

Those who care and won't use them: 38%

Those who use them without concern: 62%

That’s how it was!

Now, I will list the opinions of each individual who replied.

Those who won't use them due to the negative meanings of flower language【38%】

①

I didn't know that! But now that I do, I can't help but worry about it, so I won't use them(:_;)

But I think they're cute♡

②

I voted for not using them, but I believe meaning is the most important thing.

If it has a meaningful reason like "It's a flower that represents our memories," then I think it's okay to use it.

③

I pressed that I won't use them because if there's an older guest who knows about the flower language, it might be concerning.

Instead of using just hydrangeas, I think it would be good to incorporate them among other flowers＊

That way, I think it would be cute and not a problem♡

④

I think that people who know the meaning (guests) might think it’s lacking common sense, so I would not use them and opt for other similar flowers instead＊

⑤

Although I want to use flowers that I personally think are cute, I feel like some of my relatives, parents, or grandparents might be concerned><

If you can think it doesn't matter, then that's good, but it might be wise to consult both families just in case.

⑥

Hydrangeas are my father's favorite flower, so I thought about using them because they're cute...

However, I got embarrassed thinking that older attendees might see us as unaware, so I decided against it><

Especially, I didn’t want the groom's family or work-related guests to have a bad impression.

Those who use them without concern

①

I had hydrangeas in my hair accessory. Initially, I was concerned about the flower language, but since they were cute, I used them without worrying!

I think it depends on your feelings.

②

I knew there was a negative flower language. However, since a lot of petals come together, there’s also a meaning of family togetherness and prosperity for descendants, which I thought was nice♡

More than anything, I wanted to use my favorite flower. In May, hydrangeas were on the shelves, and seeing them reminded me of my wedding♡

③

I used hydrangeas for the cake! I didn’t know about the flower language, so I just learned about it now from this question and laughed w

I believe the most important thing is to create a wedding that you are satisfied with! In the couple's relationship, I think it's fine to just believe in the good meanings of flower language♡

④

Since hydrangeas are composed of small flowers, there’s also a flower language of family togetherness and family bonds♩

⑤

This is the opinion of a makeup artist rather than a bride.

Only mothers seem to care about it. Nowadays, many people think if it looks fashionable, they won't mind.

While the commonly seen blue and purple hydrangeas have negative imageries such as coldness and cruelty,

white hydrangeas have the meaning of tolerance, and pink hydrangeas symbolize energetic women, so if you’re concerned, it would be better to use white or pink hydrangeas instead of purple or blue.

I think it’s good to have the emcee introduce those flower languages.

⑥

I'm a bride-to-be with a ceremony in June. I was also thinking of using hydrangeas for my wedding.

There may be negative flower languages, but there are also positive meanings, so I was told by the planner that it would be okay to have the emcee introduce those.

Older people might care about it...

I think hydrangeas are cute and wonderful.

⑦

There are various meanings related to flower language, and because of the family togetherness meaning, it has recently become popular as a Mother's Day gift, so I’ll use them without concern!

⑧

My sister-in-law loves hydrangeas and used them at her wedding!

I remember her saying that the flower language isn’t very good, but she prioritized her love for the flower♡

My mother innocently asked my sister-in-law, "Using hydrangeas for a wedding? You don’t see that often," but...

It was a beautiful and stylish wedding that showcased my sister-in-law's personality♡

⑨

I had a wedding in September and wore a dress filled with lots of hydrangeas, using them for the flower crown, bouquet, and table decorations♡

⑩

Since there is flower language referring to family togetherness, and it's commonly used overseas for ceremonies, I think it's great＊

⑩

Some people may care about auspicious days or bad days, so I think there are also those who might care about these detailed flower languages.

Even if I wanted to use them, I’d keep it to a minimum, perhaps a little in the welcome space or just as an accent, which would feel reassuring＊

⑪

I believed in the good flower languages and used them for my hair accessory♡ Nowadays, many brides wear open-toed shoes, and although anemones are popular, their flower language means "fading hope," so I think it doesn’t matter at this point!

Using what you love is the most important thing♡

⑪

This is just one opinion among many…but I think the way they bloom in clusters symbolizes couples staying close together. I’ll prioritize that♡

I hope the questioner feels relieved♩

⑫

There are flowers like hydrangeas sewn onto dresses, so I don’t mind at all!

I think the concept of flower language is really wonderful, but a wedding is a rare opportunity where you can spend time surrounded by everything you love: people, things, and places!

Flowers are essential for weddings, and whether it's a flower I love or not is hugely important, so I want to use the flowers I like without worrying about their meanings!

⑬

The florist I commissioned for my wedding said they don’t mind flower languages at all!

They focus on the atmosphere, colors, and balance when coordinating.

I was extremely satisfied with the venue decorations and clutch bouquet. I love hydrangeas♡

⑭

Flower languages are something people have arbitrarily assigned. I don’t think nature has good or bad qualities.

⑮

My wedding is in October, and I think they’re cute, so I’m incorporating them without concerns♩ I believe it’s better to not worry about the small stuff.

⑯

I used blue hydrangeas as my something blue♡

Nobody around seemed to mind, and the flower coordinator didn’t say anything particularly, so I think it was fine!

⑰

Since there's a flower language of family togetherness and I love them for being cute, I gave my parents preserved hydrangeas at the meeting with them♡

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Above all, what's important is not to regret!

I shared the responses regarding the flower language of hydrangeas＊

Those who use them without concern made up 62%, while those who care and won’t use them constituted 38%,

It was impressive that among those who voted not to use them, many seemed to think it would be acceptable to have the emcee announce it or to only use a little and still be okay.

Also, a notable point was that most of those in the 'not using' group were directed more by how guests would perceive them rather than just caring about the flower language themselves.

Considering how the spouse's family and workplace might perceive it and how it might reflect on the groom is a very thoughtful approach＊

Both sides, whether using or not, likely share a common underlying desire: the wish to avoid regrets.

☑ I don't want to regret giving up on a cute or favorite flower.

☑ I don't want to regret being looked at strangely by people who care about flower languages.

If you're uncertain, it might be good to judge based on which feeling is stronger＊

What do you all think???

I hope all brides can hold a wedding without regrets!