Traditions and Manners Matter: 3 Key Areas Where Modern Brides Tend to Cut Costs, Even if They’re Willing to Spend

2019.09.21 published

Superstitions Surrounding Weddings Are Intriguing.

How much do you care about wedding traditions and their origins?

For example,

"It's good to hold a wedding on a good day."

"June brides are happy."

"A wedding bouquet should be made of fresh flowers."

There are many such traditions and knowledge that most of us have known since childhood.

Recently, many couples adopt a more casual approach,

saying things like, "I don't need to be so formal about it," or

"Let's use something else to save money."

However, it is essential to respect the old traditions and their origins.

By following these customs, a wedding gains elegance and becomes something beautiful that people appreciate, and there is always deep meaning to traditional practices.

@keiko_marry

Therefore, as someone who loves weddings, I have a few points, based on meaning and history,

where I strongly believe "even if it seems expensive now, you should invest here!"

Even if you're thinking, "I need to save money, so this is fine" while preparing for your wedding, you may later regret, "I wish I had spent the money."

Points Where You Should Spend Money, Even If It's Expensive #1: Flower Shower

First, let me introduce the flower shower.

Ideally, a flower shower should use fresh flowers. However, the price of flowers for a venue's flower shower is about 300 to 800 yen per person.

If it's 500 yen for 60 guests, that's 30,000 yen. Some might feel this is expensive.

Therefore, many brides are now using artificial flowers to save money.

However, the flower shower carries the meaning of "protecting the bride and groom from misfortune and purifying the space around them through the fragrance of the blossoms."

Using artificial flowers loses this significance…!

The ceremony itself is a very sacred event.

Since every aspect of the wedding—dress, hair, accessories—is carefully chosen, using beautiful fresh flowers seems fitting, making the dress happy, and makes couples feel they will be fortunate for life. ♡

@__ayanatsu__

Points Where You Should Spend Money, Even If It's Expensive #2: Wedding Cake

You can choose designs for wedding cakes in single or double tiers, but the three-tier cake has long been the standard.

Naturally, increasing the number of tiers also increases the cost, so it's understandable to think, "A single tier could be cute, too."

However, there is a good reason for the three-tier wedding cake!

The three-tier cake became popular during the wedding of Queen Victoria's daughter in 18th century England.

- The bottom layer is for the guests on the day.

- The second tier is for those who couldn't attend.

- The top tier is for the couple to share on their one-year anniversary.

This signifies "sharing happiness."

Nowadays, we typically use fresh cakes (during the 18th century, they used sugar cakes, which were nearly permanent), making it difficult to share with those who couldn't come or to eat a year later.

Still, we should cherish the old tradition of "sharing happiness."

@nagisa_marry

Points Where You Should Spend Money, Even If It's Expensive #3: Lucky Charms for Favors

Many brides today skip the "lucky charms" as part of their favors.

Lucky charms usually include items like dried bonito flakes, kelp, or noodles.

Even though this might seem old-fashioned, some brides choose to forgo lucky charms to splurge on other gifts or petite favors.

However, lucky charms were added to the favors because having only two gifts (favors and sweets) is considered bad luck (as two symbolizes separation, which is frowned upon in weddings).

They are added to ensure three items:

1. A thank-you gift for the monetary gift received from guests.

2. Goodies for the guests' families.

3. Adding a lucky charm to make the total three items, which is good luck.

The lucky charms aren’t included simply because they are good luck items. Rather, they are needed to avoid the bad luck of having just two.

Thus, skipping lucky charms thoughtlessly is actually taboo.

If you feel something like kelp or bonito flakes seems unnecessary, perhaps find something with good vibes to include in the lucky charm category.

@zippo

Cherishing Traditions to Create a Beautiful Wedding ♡

In recent years, weddings have become increasingly freeform.

While the options offered can sometimes lead to overspending or neglecting traditions, I've highlighted three things that I'd like to emphasize based on tradition.

It is not a matter of "you must absolutely adhere to traditions and rules!"

However, it’s very sad to replace or cut things without knowing the background or reasons, only to regret later, "If only I had known such beautiful traditions existed…"

I believe it’s essential to fully understand the knowledge and traditions, enabling you to decide, "This is what I want! This is how I want the wedding!"♡