A Professional Who Has Experienced Hundreds of Weddings! Insights From Wedding Industry Experts on What They Truly Want to Tell Future Brides.

2018.08.08 published

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This time, we asked this question.

Among our 130,000 followers, we asked those who work or have worked in the wedding industry,

"As someone who knows weddings inside and out, what do you want to convey to brides?"

Here are the collected responses ♩

What wedding planners want to tell brides ①

If you can do a tasting of the exact dishes that will be served at your wedding,

it might be a good idea to do it.

Many parents say they are glad they could taste the dishes since they don't have time to eat during the reception.

While the food for the bride and groom is brought to the waiting room,

it can get cold, so the experiencing of the dishes served to guests is different.

Therefore, it's definitely better to have a tasting! 🤗💓

What wedding planners want to tell brides ②

Although I no longer do it, I used to work as a coordinator at a venue.

I also graduated two years ago.

What I've felt is that due to the recent trend of wanting Instagram-worthy photos,

there are just too many directions for photos!

I understand it's a once-in-a-lifetime event, but please don't forget that time is limited.

My honest opinion is that overly detailed instructions and props should be reserved for pre-wedding shoots!

The time spent on photos means longer wait times for guests.

Also, I understand the desire to have performances and events, but it's a bit sad to lose the time for conversation

with the guests who came together for you.

So even though there might be more things you want to do as you gather information from planning meetings and Instagram,

please keep in mind the time constraints and what guests are most looking forward to.

What wedding planners want to tell brides ③

I am a wedding planner.

It's important to carefully check what can and can't be brought in, and whether there are any fees for bringing items in

at the time of the initial application!

The timing for when planning meetings begin differs from venue to venue, so when hearing about other venues,

some people become anxious, thinking "am I okay with this limited time...",

but it will ultimately be fine!!!

As long as you properly complete the tasks assigned by the planner once the planning meetings begin,

there will be no problems.

Regarding estimates, it's essential to understand that the initial estimate will increase by the end.

There’s no way to know what kind of wedding the couple wants with just three hours during the fair.

That's what planning meetings are for.

Therefore, it's natural for estimates to go up.

If you don’t want that, it’s necessary to ask about the price ranges for each item at the time of application!

Occasionally, people get upset thinking “this is a scam” when the estimate goes up,

but that is simply due to a lack of understanding.

That's all!

What wedding planners want to tell brides ➃

I am a planner based in Aichi Prefecture.

Weddings should definitely be done!!

Preparation beforehand is important!

Comparing venues is essential!

What wedding planners want to tell brides ⑤

I used to work as a planner.

I think it's crucial to check the venue's Instagram and Facebook before going to view the venue.

They provide information on what can be done and events that you can't find on sites like Zexy!

I believe many people are particular about their dresses, so it's important to check the selection of dress shops and accessories.

If you find that your favorite dress is not at the partnered dress shop,

additional fees may occur, making it more expensive, so fashionable ladies should take this seriously!

What wedding planners want to tell brides ⑥

To avoid a lag during the re-entry table rounds,

having some kind of performance can enhance guest enjoyment!

For example, a glowing water performance or the simultaneous lighting of candles,

or a mirror-opening ceremony at each table will liven things up 🙆‍♀️

What wedding planners want to tell brides ⑦

I previously worked in a costume room.

Brides have high beauty standards and really push themselves to diet for the dress they want.

Therefore, many can lose a lot of weight from the first visit.

However, many continue dieting up to and including the final fitting, which can result in the dress fitting perfectly at that point

but later being too big on the day of the wedding, causing venues to frequently contact us (laughs).

So please finish your dieting by the final fitting, not on the day!!

I used to tell people, “Decide to reach your target weight by the final fitting!” (laughs).

Not only dieting but also some people lose weight due to stress from preparations,

so I hope brides will maintain their bodies from the final fitting until the wedding day!

This is to look beautiful in the dress!

What wedding planners want to tell brides ⑧

As a planner, the most crucial thing I want to convey to brides is that health comes first.

You can leave everything else to us, so please, don’t take on everything alone; even small things are worth consulting.

I completely understand the desire to avoid spending on high-cost items like video production,

but I would like you to entrust professionals rather than spend on half-hearted options that may become burdensome.

It is important to be careful, as compromising your health and well-being is counterproductive!!

What wedding planners want to tell brides ⑨

It's important to clearly communicate your requests to the photographer.

Shots from the bride’s perspective can be captured by anyone, so make sure to include unique requests, like intentionally calling your dad when you ask your mom to come over during the pre-wedding shoot!

What wedding planners want to tell brides ⑩

I do dress counseling and shop introductions for brides considering bringing their own dresses instead of using the venue's partners.

What I often hear is the huge difference between the dress prices listed in the estimates and the actual prices for the dresses they want to rent.

It’s common to hear clients crying and consulting with me because costs have gone up by 250,000 to 300,000 yen from the base plan.

Thus, my advice is to find out how many varieties can be chosen within the estimate plan,

what the average fixed costs are, or to ask to raise the estimate to the maximum!!!

Since I'm involved in weddings, I genuinely want as many people to find happiness as possible, so I hope to be of assistance!

What wedding planners want to tell brides ⑪

I am a former planner.

The wedding day is important, but the preparation period is also highly significant,

as that process will support you in your future life.

Enjoying both the preparations and the ceremony is the best part!

What wedding planners want to tell brides ⑫

I work part-time as service staff at receptions ♩

Brides should pay attention to their posture!

If you slouch, the beautiful back that you worked so hard on and the dress will not look good,

so keep your back straight and shoulders relaxed for a better appearance 💗

What wedding planners want to tell brides ⑬

For example, it’s better to order a DVD for recording if possible...

Since it’s not inexpensive, many consider cutting it from the estimate, but those who do often regret it afterward 💦

Even if they ask family members to do it, the finishes might not be satisfactory,

and guests may not be able to enjoy their meals leisurely because they are busy with recording,

so I still recommend hiring a professional.

What wedding planners want to tell brides ⑭

Hello.

and afterward, I worked as a bridal hairstylist. I am currently in my fourth year.

What I want to teach brides is about bridal undergarments!

Since bridal undergarments are not visible, people tend to overlook choosing them, but they are very important.

Side fat and back fat can appear when the dress is tightened...

While some coverage can be achieved with undergarments, if they are not the correct size or are too cheap, having them is meaningless.

I recommend those that separate the bra from the waist cincher.

While those that connect the bra and waist cincher might be cheaper, their corrective power is reduced.

Next is about hair and makeup.

Some couples ask friends who are hairstylists to do rehearsals, and then do not hold rehearsals at the venue, but that doesn't make sense.

The rehearsal has meaning only when done by the person who will be handling it on the day.

This is true for everything... if there are complaints after the rehearsal has ended,

it’s not good for brides either.

Weddings are a once-in-a-lifetime event. We don’t want you to have regrets.

If complaints are made on the spot, it could have been fixed then, but if mentioned later, it will require another rehearsal or a follow-up visit.

Therefore, I would like grievances to be shared at the moment!

One thing I've noticed while providing services is that...

When attending a wedding, be mindful of table manners.

At the bridesmaids' table, the dishes can become a jumbled puzzle, making it hard to tell who belongs to whom.

As meals are served and the next dish keeps coming out, things get crowded,

leading staff to gradually adjust placements.

Silverware can be placed in specific ways to indicate whether dishes are finished or still in progress, which is something to keep in mind.

The opinions of professionals are important ♡

We have shared messages from 14 individuals who have witnessed and created numerous weddings through their work.

The words from those who support brides-to-be in creating beautiful weddings evoke warmth ♡

Please take these words to heart and enjoy preparing for your wedding!