"To Avoid Being Seen as Rude for Eating Now! When Should the Newlyweds Eat During the Reception?"

2021.11.04 published

The bride and groom don't have time to eat!

"The bride and groom can't eat during the reception!"

Don't you often hear this story?

There are many highlights during the reception, such as speeches, performances, and outfit changes, which lead to the bride and groom having little to no time to eat.

Therefore, it is quite true that the bride and groom have no time to eat their meals.

@hito.bear

When should they eat?

The only time the bride and groom can eat is during "times when there are no performances during the reception and when guests are not coming to the main table to take photos."

However, in reality, those times are quite rare during the reception.

During the time reserved for guests to mingle, they often come to the main table to take photos.

So, it’s safe to say that the "time when the bride and groom can focus on eating" is almost non-existent.

@syueri.wd

A big no! Eating during speeches or performances is rude.

What about during guest speeches or performances?

During the time when speeches and performances are happening, the bride and groom often sit at the table.

Hence, it's tempting to think it's okay to eat during this time, but this is a point to be careful about!

Eating while guests put in effort to give speeches or perform dances for you can come off as rude ><

They might think, "After all their hard work for the bride and groom, how disrespectful to be eating while watching...!"

It may appear as if you're not listening to the speeches.

Even during speeches and performances, the bride and groom are being watched, and if they are munching on food, it can become quite noticeable, so it’s best to concentrate on the speeches and not eat at that time.

@haruno45

Do the bride and groom need to eat during the wedding?

This is a fundamental question...

Do you think the bride and groom need to eat during the wedding?

The meals at weddings usually cost around 10,000 to 30,000 yen. Since it’s not often that one gets to eat such expensive meals, feelings of "It would be a waste not to eat!" or "I want at least a bite!" are completely understandable. You also want to "check the dishes served to the guests!"

But, let’s think it through.

Isn’t it a more fulfilling way to spend a couple of hours at the reception focused on the happy faces of guests, savoring happiness with the groom on such a special day, and capturing wonderful photos rather than on eating several thousand yen worth of food?

(While the food is worth several thousand yen, the wedding itself costs millions!)

Rather than thinking, "It's a waste not to eat," or "I absolutely want to eat the food!" or "It was a shame not to have time to eat," you might find it easier to adopt a mindset that "it's natural not to have time to eat," "If I can eat even a bite, that’s lucky," or "I couldn’t eat the food, but instead, I enjoyed more!"

@yuih_wd

Are you okay with the timing and mindset for eating?

The sight of the bride and groom eating food at the main table stands out quite a bit.

Especially, seeing them eating during times other than the free chatting time feels awkward for the guests.

(Like during performances, guest speeches, or while the emcee is talking, etc.)

The bride and groom are the stars of the event and the ones who are hosting.

The food is served for the guests.

Even if the bride and groom have no time to eat, let’s not feel disappointed; instead, let’s think of it as "a fulfilling reception where I was so busy I had no time to eat!"

Many couples end up eating in their private room after the reception!

If you want to enjoy the food together with your guests, it would be a good idea to increase the mingling time and reduce the performances for a more dining-oriented feel to the wedding.

@hit_me1212