"Don't Diminish Your Value! A Bride's Plea: 'Please Don't Do These Things'"

2018.10.31 published

Are You So Deep into Wedding Preparations That You Lose Sight of Everything Else!?

A wedding is a major life event. The preparation period, filled with the excitement of choosing venues, selecting dresses, and DIY projects, is a wonderful time full of extraordinary experiences♡

Since getting engaged, many of us focus our interests on wedding preparations, spending much of our leisure time on it, and primarily checking wedding-related information on social media...

This might not be an uncommon situation for some of you.

It’s wonderful to fully enjoy wedding preparations♡ Of course, to create a wedding that is warm and celebrated by everyone, adequate preparation is necessary.

However, becoming so engrossed in wedding preparations can lead to a disconnect with friends who aren't in the same stage, resulting in a misalignment with common societal norms...

Without realizing it, you might find yourself in such a situation.

Although a wedding is a chance to express gratitude to the people you've been connected with throughout your life,

if someone were to think,

“You’ve changed, haven’t you?”

or “Isn’t that a bit inconsiderate?”

it would be quite unfortunate.

In this article, we will discuss things that might seem acceptable to brides-to-be, but would likely evoke reactions from many people saying, “That’s just not right!”

Let’s reflect once more: Am I okay with this?＊

Don’t Do This! Bride’s NG Behavior ① Giving Dollar Store Items as Gifts

The 100 yen shop is a great help during wedding preparations. With a wide variety of DIY materials available, many people probably visit frequently.

There are even items that make you say, “This is only 100 yen!?” and are indispensable during wedding planning.

However, as the dollar store becomes a familiar resource in wedding preparations, it’s easy to get out of touch with the general public's perspectives.

For example, gifting friends who help with the reception or using dollar store materials for parents' gifts.

While you might feel a rush of joy thinking, “I can create such cute gifts with dollar store materials♡”, from an outside perspective, giving items from a 100 yen shop as gifts might come off as inconsiderate...

While it's true that the value of a gift isn’t determined by its price, receiving something from a dollar store as a token of appreciation might not create the desired impression.

In society, dollar stores are seen as places to get basic household items at low prices, and the idea of giving someone something from there can be quite shocking.

During wedding preparations, while it's easy to feel that “Dollar stores are amazing♡”, it's important to remember to utilize them wisely for the sake of budgeting.

Don’t Do This! Bride’s NG Behavior ② Ignoring Copyright

The next NG behavior is ignoring copyright. Every character or brand is owned by companies or organizations that hold a license, and it is prohibited for others to create or sell goods without permission.

However, for personal enjoyment, many things often go overlooked. (If penalties were imposed for themed bento or drawings, it would be terrible!)

Nevertheless, in today’s wedding scene, copyright issues are often unknowingly overlooked.

For instance, many brides DIY items themed after a particular character for their wedding. Since it’s for personal use at their wedding, the risk of being sued is relatively low.

But... what if you upload that onto Instagram and another bride comments, “It’s beautiful! Can you sell it to me?” or “I want you to make one too!”?

While it’s genuinely nice to receive compliments on your handmade items, if you decide to sell it out of kindness, it could result in serious copyright infringement.

It’s essential to be cautious and avoid committing crimes while enjoying the lighthearted DIY atmosphere of wedding preparations.

Don’t Do This! Bride’s NG Behavior ③ Expecting Others to Match Your Enthusiasm

It’s common for brides-to-be to feel frustrated when their eagerness to make the wedding a success isn’t reciprocated by their partner, friends, or family.

You might find yourself thinking, “I’m putting in so much effort, why aren’t they helping me?” and feel irritated.

But if you take a moment to think calmly, it’s normal for your enthusiasm to be the highest as it’s your wedding.

It can be quite difficult to expect the same level of enthusiasm from others.

Whether it’s for performances, handmade items, being a secondary party organizer, or preparing surprises, negative feelings may arise when you think, “Why aren’t they trying harder?” However, try to shift your mindset to appreciate that it’s very grateful for the help you are receiving.

Don’t Do This! Bride’s NG Behavior ④ Desperately Trying to Entertain

Being anxious about whether the wedding or reception will be fun is completely natural.

You might worry whether guests will enjoy themselves or find things amusing, and that could push you to go overboard with funny skits—be careful!

A wedding isn’t a comedy show. Guests come to celebrate the happiness of the couple, not for entertainment, so remember this.

This is particularly important for grooms or groomsmen performances. Attempting to inject humor with inappropriate content can completely turn off guests. (Jokes about baby-making, for example.)

Don’t Do This! Bride’s NG Behavior ⑤ Being Elitist Towards Store Staff

During wedding preparations, you often get treated like a princess at venues or dress shops♡

However, becoming too accustomed to this special treatment can lead to a demanding attitude towards planners or store staff.

If your personality has become stricter or you find yourself irritating others since starting wedding preparations, you need to be cautious.

It’s understandable to expect good treatment because you’re paying a significant amount, but expecting it would only lead to self-inflicted unhappiness.

Don’t Do This! Bride’s NG Behavior ⑥ Getting Too Caught Up in Social Media

Social media can provide motivation during wedding preparations♡ Many people likely enjoy posting dress fitting experiences, DIY items, and pre-wedding photos.

However… if social media has become more than just a search tool for you, take caution. Especially if it’s serving as a means to fulfill your desire for approval, you should uninstall that app as soon as possible.

Before you know it, you might be preparing for your wedding more for social media than for yourself.

If you start feeling superior to others or, on the flip side, feelings of annoyance or frustration arise, consider taking a step back from social media.

Remember, social media should primarily be a tool for gathering information. Be careful not to get too absorbed.

Don’t Do This! Bride’s NG Behavior ⑦ Using Wedding Preparations as an Excuse to Decline Invitations

Wedding preparations involve venue visits, dress selection, DIY projects, and there are many tasks to tackle. However, using wedding preparations as an excuse to continuously decline invitations from friends or colleagues is something to limit.

It would be too sad to exchange “long time no see” with close friends on the wedding day.

While the wedding is a one-time event, relationships with important people will persist long after.

Make sure to create a reasonable preparation schedule to ensure you have time for the people who matter to you♡

Remember Common Sense and Discretion♡

We shared things that we hope brides-to-be will avoid doing at all costs. Some of you might have had thoughts about this.

If you feel like you’ve been too engrossed in wedding preparations, it might be a good idea to take a step back and gain some perspective＊