Groom's Honest Opinions Revealed! What Do Men Want to Avoid at Weddings?

2019.08.28 published

Can't Say It to the Bride? The True Feelings of the Groom

Wedding preparations are often led by the bride. While grooms usually respect the bride’s opinions regarding the venue, attire, and decorations, there are certainly things they might secretly think, “I don’t really like that.”

This time, we asked several grooms who are either about to get married or have recently gotten married about the things they can’t say to the bride – the truths they actually find unpleasant.

The assumption is always that if it’s what the bride desires, they want to fulfill it! However, there are things they honestly find disagreeable, which they laid out in a candid conversation.

Perhaps your partner might feel the same way…!?

Groom's True Feelings Exposed! Truth #1: Too Many Dress Fittings

For brides, choosing a wedding dress is often a major highlight of wedding preparations. Thinking it's a once-in-a-lifetime event, they want to try on various dresses♡

However, it seems that for grooms, the reality is, “There are just too many dress fittings, and accompanying is tough.”

“Taking several days off for dress fittings is quite difficult.”

“I honestly feel conflicted when asked for my opinion.”

“I’d prefer it if it were entirely up to you for a surprise.”

These are comments that may disappoint the bride a bit when viewed from her perspective.

That said, grooms noted that if it’s three or four times, it’s not an issue at all! So if you're considering having him accompany you, keeping that number in mind could help alleviate his dissatisfaction.*

Groom's True Feelings Exposed! Truth #2: Video Creation

Many brides might think, "I can manage paper items and welcome boards myself, so I’ll ask the groom to handle the video!"

However, some grooms expressed that, “If I’m being honest, I would prefer to hire a professional.”

They feel hesitant to say that they want to order the video because their bride is putting in effort on DIY projects.

Although it's easy to think, “You don’t do anything else, so you should at least help with the video!” grooms recognize that “it’s definitely a hassle, so outsourcing would be more efficient.”

Nevertheless, preparing for a wedding shouldn’t feel like one side is being forced to do things, so it’s important to find a distribution of roles that can be enjoyable for both partners.

Groom's True Feelings Exposed! Truth #3: Too Cute Pre-wedding Poses

There was a unanimous agreement that too cute pre-wedding poses are “quite tough.”

Especially photos with character plush toys or kiss shots with comments like, “It’s too embarrassing to be seen by coworkers or superiors,” or “It’s awkward with parents,” emerged.

While it's perfectly fine to enjoy these moments privately as a couple, they seem to feel resistant to being seen by others.

Yet, when asked how they would feel if they saw cute wedding photos at a male friend's wedding, the responses were, “I don’t really feel anything,” and “It’s mutual.”

Although it may not be embarrassing enough for him to be laughed at, it’s worth considering that it might make him feel a little shy.

Groom's True Feelings Exposed! Truth #4: Overly Detailed Profile Introductions

Though this may be a minority opinion, some grooms actually dislike being thoroughly introduced in profiles. They feel resistant to having their background extensively disclosed to a large group of people.

This may not resonate with everyone, but if someone has insecurities regarding their educational background, has switched jobs for particular reasons, or has had gaps in employment, presenting this information widely at a wedding might not feel comfortable.

If both partners wish for their guests to know more about them, it could be good to discuss this with him.

Groom's True Feelings Exposed! Truth #5: Overly Romantic Trends

Lastly, we discuss overly romantic wedding reception performances. For instance, surprise proposals or closing kisses. What brides may dream of can often make grooms think, “I can’t do something so cheesy in front of others!”

Some grooms expressed, “It feels as though the discussions are proceeding with the assumption that I would want to participate, but I can’t say I don’t want to...”

However, in the end, all of them stated, “If it’s what she wants, I’ll do it,” so ultimately, they have feelings for their partner♡ If he manages to pull off a romantic gesture, it could be a moment to appreciate how he has gathered the courage to make it happen.

Various True Feelings

We’ve explored what grooms truly dislike, revealing their perspectives. Listening to their experiences, it seems that men tend to be practical and hold a somewhat dry view about weddings.

(Some might even not want to hold a wedding at all...)

However, the desire to do things that make the bride happy seems unwavering!♡

During wedding preparations, there will likely be many arguments, but it’s essential to remember that, “He is accommodating and trying his best in his own way.”