Real Opinions from Newlyweds: What Do They Regret About Their Weddings?

2019.11.02 published

Questions from Brides: What Do You Regret About Your Wedding?

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This time, we respond to requests from brides-to-be about “What do you regret after your wedding?”

We will anonymously share real experiences collected via DM from married brides.

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Wedding Regret Experience 1

I’ll DM you about what I regretted at my wedding ❤️

I regret not taking a photo with my real mother – just the two of us 😭

I have a two-shot with my father when I walked down the aisle and with my brother when we took a break, but I regret not having a two-shot with my mother.

It seems my mother wanted to take a photo, but she hesitated due to being considerate of me and the guests around us 😭

Hearing that makes me regret even more 😱

My mother helped me with the veil down, but I wish I had set aside more time to take photos together.

Wedding Regret Experience 2

I started looking for dresses too late, and by the time I found the colored dress I wanted, all the reservations were booked, so I couldn't wear my favorite dress.

Wedding Regret Experience 3

I regret not taking photos of the welcome trunk! I left it to the venue, and it was placed in a messy way 😭 That's my biggest regret.

Wedding Regret Experience 4

It seems normal dishes were served to guests I had informed as pregnant.

Even if I asked to change the dishes, it can be forgotten easily, so I think it’s better to communicate the details clearly to the planner rather than following their pace.

If there are many points to confirm, it’s easy to end up just saying “yes, yes” 😅

Additionally, even though I had separated the buses for the after-party and relatives, the arrangements were chaotic,

It would be good to communicate that they need proper guidance 🙌

It varies by venue, but on the day of the event, there was no time to talk with my parents and it was all hectic,

I nearly missed the time to hand over the transport expenses to the staff at the reception 😭

The practice for the ceremony was long, and I wish it could have been done in advance 🙌

Also, while my parents think they will greet my guests, explaining beforehand “This person is related to us and we owe them a lot” while showing the seating chart can make things smoother!

Later, I was told someone couldn’t remember and missed talking about what they wanted 😅

If confirmation details are thorough, I think you can just enjoy the event afterward ♥️

Wedding Regret Experience 5

I have no regrets! I sent all guests the map and images for access to the venue and the reception location the day before,

So there were no latecomers, and both the ceremony and reception went smoothly without major troubles ♡

Not knowing if there were drinks in the bridal room, bringing bottled tea and straws was also a great idea!

Wedding Regret Experience 6

There was little time to take photos with all the attendees!

Because we had changes of attire, candle services, and a lottery, I regretted having little time with friends for photos 💦

I wish I had taken more photos 😭

Wedding Regret Experience 7

During the last entrance, when the bride and groom dressed as Cinderella waved their wands, and our son dressed as a pumpkin was spotlighted,

The spotlight went to our son before we waved our wands, leaving us in the darkness waving as if we were rehearsing...

It was a huge letdown since it was the main highlight.

Additionally, I didn't prepare a shooting instruction sheet, and later thought about photos I wished I had requested.

But other than that, it’s only been six months since the wedding, and I still often look back at the photos and videos, thinking it was a wonderful wedding!

Wedding Regret Experience 8

I deeply regret the lack of overall photos of the high table, the hair on the day, and the food. I thought obvious photos would be taken, but they weren't.

You must communicate the shots you absolutely want!

Wedding Regret Experience 9

There was an opportunity to take photos with my parents and family, but I did not have enough time to take proper photos alone with my sister.

I should have asked the photographer in advance.

Since my sister usually hates taking photos, I wanted to take a picture together precisely on this occasion.

Wedding Regret Experience 10

I should have left my phone on the high table.

I thought it was fine since friends could take photos, but since we had longer mingling time, I unexpectedly found myself alone with my husband, and there was more time than I thought.

The attendant was very kind, retrieving my phone and even taking photos for us after the ceremony,

If I had done this from the start, we might have captured pre-ceremony photos! I regret thinking too late 💦

Wedding Regret Experience 11

I was unable to eat the dessert buffet or the meals at all! 😢

Originally, the plan was to wear the white dress for the photo rounds, but I ended up changing into my colored dress, shortening the time in the white dress,

And I have few photos in the white dress with everyone 😭

Wedding Regret Experience 12

After changing outfits three times, I regretted not having enough time to talk and take photos with friends, resulting in few photos at the high table.

Wedding Regret Experience 13

I should have been slower in my movements to not miss the camera's shutter opportunities.

During the first bite, I immediately took a bite when I shouldn’t have, leading to everyone asking for a “one more time!!” 😂

Also, I requested a wedding cake topped only with strawberries, but there were blueberries on it instead.

I should have confirmed it during the final check.

Other than that, it was the best wedding!

Wedding Regret Experience 14

I regret not asking for a video, so I should have asked friends to take more footage.

Wedding Regret Experience 15

I was too nervous during the ceremony and couldn't face forward...

I couldn't smile either (´тωт`)

Wedding Regret Experience 16

I thought I should have prepared a schedule and to-do list for the day… 😭

I managed to finish preparations using a to-do list, but nothing for the wedding day.

Due to the chaos, the meeting with the planner was super brief, causing me to miss handing over transport instructions and expenses to the reception staff 😣

Fortunately, I realized it before the reception, and the planner was able to hand over the transport expenses to avoid the issue.

Moreover, I wish I had confirmed details about the attendant.

I only wore the dress on the wedding day, yet for some reason, the attendant was in traditional clothing. A friend even thought they were a relative 😵

Though they were experienced, they didn't make the dress look pretty, and they approached me during busy times, even correcting the bouquet's position… it was a bit disappointing.

Wedding Regret Experience 17

I requested a first meeting photo in instructions, but since I only vaguely communicated it as “first meeting,” there weren't any photos of the “hand on shoulder” image I imagined.

I also still wonder if I should have requested a speech from friends. 😭

Wedding Regret Experience 18

We hadn’t discussed the closing kiss thoroughly on the day, turning it into a surprise,

However, after exiting, the MC said, “Alright, now for the wedding kiss!” which nullified my surprise 😭

(Thanks to that, we got plenty of photos taken, so I'm trying to stay positive, but it still stings when I think back… 😢)

Wedding Regret Experience 19

I have no regrets during the ceremony and reception.

If I had any, I wish I had hosted an after-party.

Wedding Regret Experience 20

I regret being stingy with the transportation costs for guests coming from far away.

That was definitely disrespectful to them, and I still can't contact those individuals…

I feel it will be something I never forget… for both of us. 😭

Wedding Regret Experience 21

My regret at the wedding is not requesting a recorded video.

While we watched the video shortly after the wedding, I assumed I wouldn’t revisit it much after a few years, which is why I didn’t request it.

As a result, I only have the footage my siblings took.

While it’s true you don’t often review footage, I sometimes wish I had it to look back at the guests' appearances and fun memories from the day.

Wedding Regret Experience 22

This might be off-topic, but I can sincerely say I have no regrets.

I believe it’s because I discussed everything with my partner and planner until we reached a satisfactory conclusion. If we couldn’t resolve certain things, I consulted with my parents.

We explored points where we could each compromise, even if it led to arguments 😂

As the wedding approached, it got busy, and sometimes I lost sight of what I wanted, but I remembered who the wedding was for and what I wanted to communicate to everyone.

I think it’s essential to revisit your initial feelings and re-evaluate your thoughts.

Wedding Regret Experience 23

I regret the bouquet pull.

I put a lot of thought into the bouquet, anticipating that my friends would gather, and even prepared beauty-related prizes for those who didn’t win.

However, unexpected issues arose.

First, the location for the bouquet pull was near the groom’s side, making it difficult for friends on the bride’s side to approach from a distance.

Ideally, it would have been best to conduct it closer to the high table, but being at the edge of the venue made it hard for guests to understand what was happening.

Consequently, the women who participated in the bouquet pull were mainly from the groom’s workplace or children from his side.

While I was happy to have them participate, given that it was a special gift from the bride, I still regret how it turned out.

By the way, the bouquet I customarily prepared for friends ended up with children I barely knew... (laughs)

I should have ensured my friends could participate by encouraging them beforehand and also confirmed the setup with the venue.

Many of my friends mentioned they wanted to join in but felt it was too far and difficult to get closer, making me very regretful.

Wedding Regret Experience 24

I was shocked at how poorly the photographer’s work turned out.

I felt sad thinking I spent money on what didn’t look professional at all.

I should have either looked through the photos the photographer had taken beforehand or hired someone else for the job.

Wedding Regret Experience 25

Due to financial reasons, I went with the smallest photo album option.

Initially, I thought, “I can just create one online later,” but I completely ran out of time and haven’t made it yet.

The albums shown to me by friends were all big and beautifully bound.

The album I ordered was the size of a postcard.

Since it was inexpensive, I thought I would save money at the time, but looking back, since I spent a lot on the wedding, I really wish I hadn’t skimped on the album.

Plus, I made the profile video myself.

I intended to end it in a Studio Ghibli style, so I wrote “The End,” only to later discover that Ghibli films all conclude with “The End” as well, which also disappointed me… I should have checked that more carefully.

Overall, I am satisfied with everything I did, but those two points still linger in my mind.

Wedding Regret Experience 26

If I had to say, I would wonder if I would have had a wider range of choice for wedding dresses and decorations if I had met my husband at a younger age?

Since both my husband and I are in our thirties and approaching forty, it inevitably led to a more adult-themed wedding.

I wonder if, when I was younger, I would have had the freedom to choose colored dresses and hairstyles that only the young can pull off? 🤔

But if I had been younger, I probably wouldn’t have gotten married, so it all worked out in the end! 😂

Wedding Regret Experience 27

It’s about eyelash extensions.

Since it was my wedding, I went all out and had upper and lower extensions done to the thickness of the mascara used on my lashes (as the staff said).

I also usually get extensions that are longer at the outer corners, but I made the naive decision to go with longer in the middle (the cute type).

With full upper and lower extensions, the shadow under my eyes made them appear all black in every photo, giving me a slightly gaudy look 😢

Also, since I opted for the cute type instead of my usual style, my eye width seemed narrower than usual… 😢

I have small eyes, and I should have considered my eye shape instead of getting deceived by the term “cute type” 😢

I regret seeing those photos each time 😢

Additionally, although I relayed to the planner about something I absolutely didn’t want during the wedding, a certain performance (not from my friends) took place, which caused great distress and left little time to engage with guests.

Even during the honeymoon, unpleasant memories surfaced, leading to frustration with the planner 😢

Thus, it's essential to emphasize any undesirable matters to the planner! 🙆‍♀️

Wedding Regret Experience 28

One regret is that while we took a group photo in the wedding dress, I didn’t take a family photo with my favorite dress or color kimono with my mother and siblings even though we were all together at the reception.

It was only after the event, as I looked back through the photos, that I realized we didn’t take it and regretted that.

Wedding Regret Experience 29

I regret forgetting to take pictures of the high table and first meeting moments 😭😭

Wedding Regret Experience 30

Although it wasn't my wedding, I felt disappointed seeing one thing at a senior's ceremony where they took pictures.

It was the bride’s arm during the kiss scene in the ceremony! ❗ No matter how pretty the posture is, if it’s limp, it’s a huge waste 😭

Wedding Regret Experience 31

I have regrets!

The editing of the photos and DVD was so poorly done that it left a bad taste in my mouth.

I don't know why there were over 50 photos of each guest watching the profile movie.

Conversely, there wasn’t even a single front view shot of my entrance wearing the colored dress from the second floor; it was all taken from the side, similar to what the guests captured.

There were no close-up photos of the wedding cake either, and I want my money back.

The DVD lost continuity between scenes, resulting in a choppy presentation.

Learn from Predecessors and Hold a Wedding Without Regrets! ♡

We would like to thank all the brides who shared their “wedding regrets”!

While there may be several small regrets, the most significant regret seems to be “failing to choose the right venue.”

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