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Who Buys the Wedding Rings? What is the Norm for Couples Contributing to Each Other's Rings?
2023.05.22 published
Who Should Bear the Cost of Wedding Rings??
At marry, we regularly hold a project where readers anonymously answer the concerns of our audience!
This time, the question comes from a future bride.
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How did everyone purchase their wedding rings? Did you buy them with your partner's money or from a joint fund?
Did you gift a ring for your partner?
Did you buy your own?
The full eternity ring I want is expensive, and the price difference compared to the ring he picks is in the hundreds of thousands of yen.
I received an engagement ring too, but such an expensive wedding ring...
Is it a burden for him?
Do you think it's okay to have him buy it?
Are there those who bought their own?
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Here are the responses!
I asked on Instagram stories, and I'll share all the anonymous replies!
Answer 1
I told my partner I didn't want an engagement ring because I often take rings on and off for work.
Either way, if I'm going to wear a wedding ring, I don't think I'd wear an engagement ring.
As for the wedding ring, it's probably from our joint funds. He initially handed me our bankbook and seal, so I manage our household finances.
I paid for the ring from there.
Answer 2
Since my husband was foolish and had no savings, I bought the ring with my savings from my single life, considering that I would become a full-time housewife and live off his income from now on.
I also wanted an engagement ring, so I bought that with my savings.
Answer 3
I also received an engagement ring and gave him a watch in return, but I thought it would be too much burden to have him buy the wedding rings as well,
so I bought his ring, and he bought mine. ❤️ We exchanged rings this way and it made both of us cherish the rings even more. 😊💕
Answer 4
The total cost of my engagement ring and wedding ring was about ten times that of my husband's wedding ring,
but he bought two rings for me as a sign of commitment.
I bought my husband's ring, but as a thank you, he chose his preferred design for custom-made leather shoes and I returned the favor.
I was glad I bought them because I could use them for both work and pre-shoots.
Answer 5
I was encouraged to accept the engagement ring because he said it was a commitment to each other.
But we fully shared the purchase of the wedding ring since it's something we both wear.
We happened to have no price difference, so it worked out to be 50:50, but even if there was a difference, we would have split it.
What’s really important is to discuss it and agree before purchasing.
Answer 6
My ring had diamonds and was more expensive, but we paid almost equally!
The shop allowed payments in installments, so he paid a slightly larger amount for the first one, and I paid the remaining balance.
Answer 7
I bought a set of three rings, including the engagement and wedding rings, so my husband paid for everything.
However, I later had to order a tuxedo for the wedding, so I covered that cost.
So, in return for the engagement ring, I paid back with the cost of the tuxedo.
Answer 8
We both work, so we each bought our own rings. 😌
Reasons are:
- I received an engagement ring.
- I was told that I don’t have to give back for the engagement ring.
- He just started a new job, and my salary is better than his.
It may not be very helpful...💦
Since we keep our finances separate, I chose what I liked without feeling much pressure.
Answer 9
I'm sure I would be happy if I received a ring, but...
We two didn’t save money and got married, so we have neither an engagement ring nor a wedding ring. 😂
Therefore, we already had a pair of rings that we used for our wedding, even though we put the wedding expenses into it! ✨
Since we both enjoy cars, bikes, and skiing, which can be costly hobbies, we thought it was good enough as long as we can do what we both love, but I do think we will eventually buy wedding rings together.
We’ll combine our finances, so it’s practically the same as buying it together. 💡
I think we should talk with my husband and come to a mutual decision.
Answer 10
Excuse my message! 💌
I used the joint savings we had since we were students for the wedding ring! 💍💫
However, I used a lot of it for the rings and wedding preparation costs…💦😂
Now, I’m working hard towards buying our home! 💸😂
Answer 11
My engagement ring and my wedding ring were purchased by him, while his wedding ring was bought from my savings. 💓
There is quite a price difference, but doesn't it usually work out that the woman's ring is more expensive? ❤️
I gave him a watch as a return gift for his engagement ring. 🎁
Answer 12
No engagement ring.
All wedding rings were covered by my husband.
In exchange, I bought the two official seals for us. 🙋♀️
Answer 13
My husband bought my wedding ring!
I had no engagement ring since we had custom wedding rings made, so it was inexpensive. 😅
I believe it is essential to discuss with your spouse how to buy the rings.
Answer 14
My ring was more expensive because it had diamonds, but we split the total amount equally. ✨
Answer 15
I lost my engagement ring and chose a half eternity wedding ring instead!
I heard from the store that full eternity rings are often given as anniversary gifts, so I opted for a half eternity, which I would find convenient in daily life!
As a result, I ended up having him buy the wedding ring.
Although present happiness is important, the future life matters too, so I believe it's best to discuss thoroughly as a couple.
Answer 16
We paid from our joint savings.
We put the same amount into the account every month and bought it with the accumulated money.
Mine was more expensive, but he thought it was natural for women to have pricier rings. Thus, we didn’t have any conflict in buying it.
Answer 17
I didn’t want an engagement ring that I wouldn’t usually wear, and my husband paid for both of our wedding rings!
I also chose a full eternity ring. ^ ^
Answer 18
My husband covered the cost of the wedding ring.
It’s something we both will use for life, so I wanted to contribute, but after discussing with him, it seemed he didn’t want me to pay, so he covered it all.
Answer 19
We took the money out from the savings we had accumulated while living together. 😊
Answer 20
We chose together and bought it with my husband’s bonus.
Answer 21
I received an engagement ring and we presented each other with wedding rings.
My engagement ring was 550,000 yen, the wedding ring was 300,000 yen.
His wedding ring was 150,000 yen, so there’s a price difference, but he said that was okay.
When I presented him with a fully tailored suit as a return gift, he was pleased.
Answer 22
I paid for my partner's wedding ring while he bought mine.
The male and female wedding rings are of the same price.
I received an engagement ring, so I bought a watch as a return gift!
Originally, I was planning to spend half the price of the engagement ring, but the one I liked was more than half the price.
However, he said it was fine, so I bought the watch and decided he would pay more for the initial costs of our apartment!
So I think it's okay to have him buy it!
Instead, maybe return a slightly pricier gift for the engagement ring...
But I believe it’s important to explain it to each other and discuss how to decide on this!
Answer 23
We bought our wedding rings ourselves!
I said I didn’t want an engagement ring, so I didn’t receive one, but since we are having a wedding ceremony, we went to buy wedding rings.
Since I am working, I paid for my ring!
Answer 24
We bought from our joint expenses. 🙆
Answer 25
We didn’t discuss much, but on the payment day, I withdrew the maximum amount from the convenience store ATM,
and my husband withdrew the remaining amount that was needed, which I paid for. (ﾟωﾟ)💖
Since our wedding was decided suddenly and I had already said I didn't want an engagement ring, we agreed that I would cover the remaining amount for the wedding ring,
But a few months later, he gifted me an engagement ring for my birthday, even though we had already registered our marriage. 😂
We plan on having a formal engagement ceremony after the New Year, and I hope I can gift him something in return at that time.
Answer 26
My husband paid for both wedding rings.
However, since he is concerned about prices, I couldn’t ask for the ring I wanted.
I mentioned that I could contribute money, but he insisted that it wasn't allowed... I am happy that he bought them, but I do regret not being able to get the ring I wanted.
Answer 27
Nice to meet you! ♡
For my wedding, I bought my own ring to foster my awareness as a partner.
Looking back, I think it would have been nice to gift each other! But it’s okay! 😂
Answer 28
I paid for his ring, and he paid for my ring!
I thought that if we exchanged them, we might cherish them more!
Answer 29
My partner gifted me a wedding ring with his bonus. 💍💓
Answer 30
I received an engagement ring 💍
And we exchanged wedding rings 💗
Since the rings were of original designs, they were of equal value. 😊
I understand that it feels bad if it’s too expensive, but if your husband wishes to buy it for you, I think it's okay to accept it since it’s a one-time opportunity. 😊✨
There were so many patterns!
Thank you for all your responses about how the couple divides the costs of wedding rings.
☑ Men Buy
☑ Both Buy Their Own
☑ Use Joint Funds
I thought there might be these three patterns, but surprisingly, many people also mentioned buying their own rings, which was an interesting learning point!
Additionally, I was surprised that sometimes the men's wedding rings are priced higher!
(Maybe due to the width of platinum or something????)
If you're curious about how couples purchase wedding rings or who bears the costs,
I recommend discussing this with your partner while looking at this article together! ♡
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