"Don't Want to Be Viewed as Rude! Is It Taboo to Send Wedding Announcement Cards While in Mourning?"

2018.12.09 published

Is it okay to send a wedding announcement postcard during a mourning period?

After getting married, it is common to send a wedding announcement postcard to those who attended the wedding or acquaintances (like mentors or distant relatives) whom you did not invite, saying,

“I got married. I look forward to your continued support.”

Many people now include wedding photos in their New Year cards to send a combined "wedding announcement New Year card."

There must be brides who are looking forward to saying,

“I’ll use our wedding photos and send New Year cards with my husband’s name on it!”

However.

What should you do if you are in a mourning period that year...?

(There are discussions about not holding a wedding during a mourning period, but

☑ It may be difficult to postpone the wedding

☑ It may be held due to the deceased's wishes

These situations may apply as well.)

Even though it is generally understood not to send New Year cards during the mourning period, what about a "wedding announcement postcard"?????

When and how should it be sent???

If you are in mourning, it is recommended to report simply via summer or winter greetings.

First of all, if the other person is in mourning, do not send wedding announcement postcards or combine the wedding announcement with New Year cards.

It is smart to incorporate a simple wedding announcement into the summer or winter greetings.

➡ Detailed way to send congratulations during a mourning period

Therefore, if you are in mourning, it is generally better not to send a cheerful wedding announcement postcard, similar to when the recipient is in mourning.

Sending a simple wedding announcement during the timing of summer or winter greetings is recommended.

If you are in mourning until summer, make a simple wedding announcement with summer greetings and send out a mourning postcard at the end of the year.

If you are in mourning from summer to the end of the year, send a mourning postcard at the end of the year and make a simple wedding announcement in the winter greetings shortly after the New Year.

【Examples of summer and winter greetings】

It is recommended to create a wedding announcement postcard that doubles as summer and winter greetings in the following flow:

① Seasonal greetings

② Wedding announcement

③ Closing remarks

④ Date

⑤ Address and name

《Examples of seasonal greetings - Summer》

☑ Although it has been hot recently, I hope you are doing well.

☑ It’s extremely hot every day; how are you holding up? It seems this summer will be even hotter than usual, which makes me worried.

☑ As soon as the rainy season ended, the heat has become intense; how have you been?

《Examples of seasonal greetings - Winter》

☑ I hope you are holding up well in this severe cold. Please take care of yourself in this season.

☑ The bustle of the New Year has passed, and the cold is becoming more piercing every day. I hope you are doing well.

☑ With the arrival of the full-fledged cold wave, it has been extremely cold every day. I hope everyone is holding up well.

《Examples of wedding announcements》

☑ On a personal note, I got married last year in [Month]. We hope to build a warm household together.

☑ We got married last year and are starting a new life. Please feel free to drop by if you’re in the neighborhood.

☑ Thank you for all your assistance during our wedding last year.

《Closing remarks examples - Summer》

☑ It seems that this heat will continue for a while. Please take good care of yourself.

☑ During this extreme heat, I sincerely hope you take care of yourself.

The intense heat will continue for a while, so please be careful with your health.

《Closing remarks examples - Winter》

☑ As the cold days continue, please take care not to catch a cold.

☑ I look forward to our continued relationship this year.

☑ Spring will soon be audible; please take care of yourself.

If you are in mourning, send summer or winter greetings!

For those who came to your wedding or helped you, when sending wedding announcement postcards (or wedding announcement New Year cards),

if you are in mourning, it is recommended to make a simple announcement through seasonal greetings, such as “summer greetings” or “winter greetings.”

(Let’s skip using our wedding photos!)

If you feel, “I want this person to see the photos!” you can share them via LINE or invite them to your home or new residence to spend some time together.