"Are You Only Considering Your Own Wishes? A Compilation of Things to Avoid If the Groom Is Uncomfortable"

2020.02.26 published

Is the performance truly what the groom wants?

After choosing the venue, you spend your days gathering information on Instagram and the internet to make the wedding even more wonderful.

Looking at many brides' posts

"This performance is so romantic ♡"

"I want to try this too!"

Your ideal image begins to take shape and expand more and more＊

But!

Always remember to keep asking yourself,

【What I want to do = Is it also what the groom wants to do?】

It's something to consider.

Brides, having a once-in-a-lifetime wedding, often have numerous things they want to do and are eager about,

getting engrossed and convinced that they absolutely want to do it and that their groom will happily join in!

However, men tend to express more clearly what they don’t want to do rather than what they want to do.

Especially when it involves embarrassment, being in front of people, or unusual performances, this is even more pronounced.

Of course, they have the feeling of "for my beloved girlfriend," but they also feel, "but still, what I don't want is just a no...!!!!"

The feelings of love and the feelings of not wanting to do something are completely different...!

In this article, I have summarized a number of things that many men think, "I really don't want to do this at the wedding."

If you find any performances or ideas here that catch your interest, but your partner seems lukewarm about them, it might be better to give them up or compromise＊

If the groom dislikes it, it’s better to avoid: ① Closing Kiss

The closing kiss is a performance where the newlyweds kiss as the door closes after exiting the ceremony.

"The parting moment is so romantic ♡"

"What an exciting finale!"

While it's a popular performance, at the same time,

"It's too embarrassing to kiss again after the vow kiss."

"Kissing twice in front of family and relatives is just unbearable."

"Even if I kiss, it doesn’t make me look good, and it feels like I’m just showing off our love."

"If it doesn’t go well, it would be a living hell..."

Many men feel pressured in this way.

If the groom dislikes it, it’s better to avoid: ② Public Proposal

Many men propose again in front of everyone at the wedding.

Normally, this is something that is done as a surprise for the bride, but

for example, performances like the dozen roses are often something the bride desires to do.

Guests might think, "How wonderful ♡ How heartwarming ♡"

But for the groom, kneeling in front of everyone to present a bouquet while collecting flowers from the guests is a very high hurdle...!

Some have managed to do it while thinking, "Am I a prince or what?" as they make fun of themselves＊

If the groom dislikes it, it’s better to avoid: ③ Flashy Outfit Change Entrance

At the banquet, for the outfit change, you often see unique costumes like mascots or grand entrance methods like appearing from balloons or boxes...

This is also one thing to reconsider.

While it might be an exciting performance and a tasty topic,

many men may wonder if it’s necessary to go that far when they’re not theme park characters or attractions.

They also feel that since they’re not silly characters at work, they'll definitely be teased afterward...

While many brides think they want to show their personality in the entrance method,

it's best to consult together and choose the most agreeable option＊

If the groom dislikes it, it’s better to avoid: ④ Making it all Disney or Pink

The welcome space and main table decorations at the wedding are where the couple can showcase their favorite things＊

However, if you want to have a lot of Disney plush toys or decorate everything in pink, it's important to consult with him first.

Since the venue decoration is closely connected to the couple's image,

he might not want to be perceived in that way by colleagues or relatives.

It’s important to know what the groom wants and doesn’t want＊

A once-in-a-lifetime wedding is a space and time to fulfill your wishes＊

But at the same time, if you consider, 【Is this truly something the groom wants to do as well?】

Then, surely it will lead to a truly wonderful wedding for both of you.