[Survey Results] Is it Acceptable for Venue Staff to Discover Your Bridal Instagram Account?

2019.05.27 published

【Trouble Consultation】I don't want my bride account to be seen...

A project to gather answers from followers on Instagram Stories about the trouble we received at marry＊

This time, the concern is as follows.

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A question for brides who run their Instagram bride accounts without a lock.

Since it’s a precious pre-bridal period, I want to gather information and connect with my followers as much as possible, but...

If I add the venue's hashtag or reveal the date, won't the staff find out who I am?? Isn't that awkward??

I've heard stories of staff approaching with, "I saw your Instagram!" but I'm worried and embarrassed about how they might perceive my posts regarding concerns or finances...

How are you all handling this??

Don't you mind if your account is discovered by the staff at the venue or dress shop??

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This time, it’s a very modern concern.

It’s a discussion about whether it’s okay for staff to see your Instagram pre-bride account.

Here are the gathered responses.

Is it okay for the venue to see my bride Instagram? [Response 1]

I haven’t been found out so far, so I'm posting without worrying 😊 If I do get found out, I think it won’t be a problem as long as I don't post about the venue's estimates 🙆‍♀️

Is it okay for the venue to see my bride Instagram? [Response 2]

They didn't say "I saw it," but I felt like the planners and dress shop staff were probably looking at it.

I'm posting negative things without worrying! Since it's social media, I think it's good to be free.

However, I limit my complaints to "close friends" on Stories.

Is it okay for the venue to see my bride Instagram? [Response 3]

I’ve made my account public to the staff as well.

It has really helped me share information about the progress of wedding preparations and handmade items without saying so.

I feel like it has become one of the materials to convey the image of our wedding.

For personal content like finances and concerns, or anything that might negatively impact the venue, if I really want to exchange information, I think it would be best to do it via DMs at a minimum.

Personally, I haven’t had any issues with my account being seen by the staff, and rather, I’m grateful they are viewing it.

Is it okay for the venue to see my bride Instagram? [Response 4]

I was told early on by the planner that they found my account 😂

I thought that they should keep that a secret if they found it, but my mind started to wander... Wondering if it's a kind of warning...

But I personally don't mind at all; in fact, since they are looking at it, I write things that might be difficult to say otherwise! Like, “The floral decorations are too expensive” (laughs)

I’m not sure if they are watching my posts or if they inferred it from our meeting discussions, but they did ask, “You are making various things, right?” (laughs)

However, they haven't acknowledged any other post content, so I'm not worried 😊

Since we are spending millions, I want to have a satisfying ceremony, and I want to gather information and connect with other pre-brides and those who have already graduated, so I run a wedding account,

I won't just write nice things just because I feel bad for the planner or venue 🙅‍♀️ If they want only positive comments, then they should give me corresponding service. (laugh)

Is it okay for the venue to see my bride Instagram? [Response 5]

I'm not a bride, but a former dress coordinator. I hope my perspective from a dress coordinator can be of use ❤︎

When I was a dress coordinator, I had an Instagram account and found customers’ accounts, but I didn’t like or comment until they graduated. (laughs)

By seeing the honest opinions of customers, I could think of better proposals for when they came back for their next fitting ❤︎

Therefore, while it might be difficult for clients to voice their honest opinions directly to staff, I found it very helpful when they wrote them on Instagram!

Certainly, I imagine it would be hard for brides if staff members said, "I saw your post!"...

However, in my workplace, there weren’t any staff who brought up customers’ Instagram during customer service. (laugh)

I prefer not to connect in that way. (laugh)

I may not have been of much help, but that’s the opinion from a dress coordinator. ♡

Is it okay for the venue to see my bride Instagram? [Response 6]

I dislike that, so I’m avoiding putting the venue name and dates!

You can figure out the venue from photos if you see the posts though... (laugh)

I’m too selfish and I’ll definitely complain... (laugh) so I don’t want them to see that... (laugh)

Is it okay for the venue to see my bride Instagram? [Response 7]

I'm someone who has my Instagram public. I also ended up being discovered by the venue staff.

Since I felt awkward, when I truly need to, I post on Stories limited to close friends.

Is it okay for the venue to see my bride Instagram? [Response 8]

I think "staff checking Instagram = caring about how they're perceived" could mean both good and bad.

By seeing my worries or complaints on Instagram, it could lead to improvements in the venue's services, and if there are good comments, they might want to strive harder; either way, I think it could be an opportunity to build a win-win relationship, which is why I didn’t lock my account. 😚⭕️✨

Is it okay for the venue to see my bride Instagram? [Response 9]

I don’t mind. Rather, I was told, “Please keep posting!”

Is it okay for the venue to see my bride Instagram? [Response 10]

Since my planner was male, and the venue's account wasn’t frequently updated, I didn’t mind!

I chose that venue because I won a gift for my ceremony, and they said they’d love it if I promoted it, so I actively posted updates 😊🎶

One thing I pay attention to is to avoid writing negative things in my posts!

Is it okay for the venue to see my bride Instagram? [Response 11]

I speak frankly, and I don’t mind if the venue’s staff or friends see it. After all, it’s the truth. Writing lies won't benefit anyone.

Why feel embarrassed? Is it shameful to become a bride? Is it shameful to do my best for it?

If you're going to put on a facade or lie, it’s better not to have an account at all. If you’re too considerate, it’s going to be stressful forever, and I don’t want that. (tears)

Is it okay for the venue to see my bride Instagram? [Response 12]

I’m generally open, and I’ll specifically write about things I'm a bit anxious about!

If there's something I really don’t want them to see, and I want advice from friends, I limit it to Stories shared with them.

Is it okay for the venue to see my bride Instagram? [Response 13]

I suspect they're watching, but so far, no one has mentioned it...

However, I think it’s a great tool for conveying the image of my wedding, so if they find out, I think I can use it as a means to share my vision.

While I want to share negative aspects in exchanges with other pre-brides, I make sure to be cautious with my wording not to come off as bashing the venue or shops.

Is it okay for the venue to see my bride Instagram? [Response 14]

I don’t even write the date in my profile. (I only write the month of the ceremony)

I'm not writing bad comments about money, so I express my worries openly! (laugh)

I choose which posts to add the venue's hashtag to! (Only for those I'm okay with being seen)

Instead of locking my account, I receive lots of advice and requests to follow from many people, so I intentionally don't lock it 🙌🏻

Is it okay for the venue to see my bride Instagram? [Response 15]

I was complaining about the floral arrangements, and the floral staff suddenly apologized, which made me realize they were watching my Instagram!

It was super awkward, but the planner stepped in, and I got to have another meeting, which resulted in good outcomes!

The planner said, "I try not to see brides' accounts on purpose," but the hair stylist said they sometimes check it, so I think there's always a possibility of being seen…!

However, since it’s a once-in-a-lifetime event, I think it’s better to be able to consult openly with both the staff and fellow brides about everything!

Is it okay for the venue to see my bride Instagram? [Response 16]

I actually felt embarrassed and never tagged the venue! 💦

Since I have a plain appearance, I was embarrassed at the thought of being found out that I’m trying hard on Instagram, and I worried about how the venue staff might react, so I never tagged them.

Since I live in the countryside, I hardly ever saw any bride accounts. I posted on the day of the wedding only, tagging the venue’s location without the tag!

Is it okay for the venue to see my bride Instagram? [Response 17]

I was posting without care at all! The staff didn’t approach me about it.

It’s true that if the staff saw it, you might feel embarrassed or worry about how they perceive you…💦

However, by posting those worries and financial situations, I think the staff can communicate better proposals to the planner during meetings, which can remove any uncertainties!

Is it okay for the venue to see my bride Instagram? [Response 18]

On the contrary, the staff seemed happy that I was posting! ♥

Since I had been careful not to write negative things, I didn’t feel awkward at all✨

In fact, since I was making handmade items for the welcome space that were themed around the venue, the staff said during setup, “I’ve been looking forward to it after seeing it on Instagram.” ♥

I think it also depends on the distance with the planner...

Is it okay for the venue to see my bride Instagram? [Response 19]

Actually, I followed my planner and the venue, so we were in a follower relationship!

Since the real worries were shared in a positive sense, I viewed it as one means of information sharing!

Whenever I posted something I was happy about, the venue or planners were able to see it, which helped build a good relationship😊

Is it okay for the venue to see my bride Instagram? [Response 20]

I have the venue following me! So they like my posts! (laugh)

I plan to post about financial matters in the future, with hopes of helping other brides!

I’m not writing bad things about the venue, just stating what happened as it is, so I think it should be fine!

Is it okay for the venue to see my bride Instagram? [Response 21]

I run a public account! I think it’s fine if I get found out! (laugh)

I don't think the staff would bring up "I saw this on Instagram" about any information learned from there.

Also, I used to be a bridal staff, but the staff doesn’t look at customer accounts as much as customers think! (laugh)

In my private Instagram, I want to see posts I like, so I’ve never searched tags.

By the way, only one staff member manages the Instagram. If that one person is assigned to me, they might look closely, but otherwise, to be honest, they don’t watch much!

Rather, they seem more interested in the accounts of other venues and decorators, than brides' accounts!

So, for the sake of information gathering, I’m more likely to check out the bride's accounts of those who signed with other venues than my own clients'.

I know my own venue better than anyone, including the good and bad aspects, so I feel like I don’t need to see that on purpose!

Well, if it's written about finances or similar topics, they might bring it up in the next meeting, but if they don’t say anything, I think that’s resolved.

From the staff’s perspective, I wish brides would speak their thoughts honestly. When consulted, my desire to help increases, so while it’s fine to write it on IG, I do think it’s important to convey it face-to-face!

Is it okay for the venue to see my bride Instagram? [Response 22]

I think I’ll write what I want regardless of being found out, and if they’re looking at it, they’ll understand how I feel and think, which is better. (laugh)

It’s a once-in-a-lifetime wedding, so I won’t hold back for the staff 😂

However, knowing that the staff might be watching makes me cautious not to write anything that could hurt others or be mere complaints. That’s just common sense. 👌

Is it okay for the venue to see my bride Instagram? [Response 23]

As soon as I created my pre-bridal account, I blocked acquaintances and accounts related to wedding venues. I wanted to post freely, so that worked out well. 🌟

The staff and venue surely have their private accounts as well, so avoiding being seen entirely is difficult, but I try my best. (laugh)

Is it okay for the venue to see my bride Instagram? [Response 24]

I blocked them!

At first, I didn’t block anyone, but when I was followed by the venue, I quickly blocked them.

Is it okay for the venue to see my bride Instagram? [Response 25]

I don’t worry about it at all!

Conversely, I think that if I’m going to post things that would cause trouble (like bad-mouthing the venue or breaking rules!), I shouldn’t be posting even on a locked account! ♡

Is it okay for the venue to see my bride Instagram? [Response 26]

I post about the staff without concern! I’m more focused on exchanging information with other pre-brides and brides ♩

To avoid being found out, I don't disclose anything I don’t want the venue to know, such as things I’m bringing in.

Is it okay for the venue to see my bride Instagram? [Response 27]

I didn’t worry at all! Rather, I asked all the questions I had about the venue I found on Instagram. 😳

If they know I’m on Instagram, I feel like there won’t be any secrets, right?

Speaking of secrets, I was unable to get a recommendation for a hair and makeup partner from the venue but was instead told by a bride who graduated from the same venue on Instagram, so when I asked if that was right, they confirmed it for me. 😅

Is it okay for the venue to see my bride Instagram? [Response 28]

I’m worried about being found out, so I don’t follow the venue and don’t use their hashtags in my posts.

However, I sometimes search for venue-related information online.

How to use SNS＊

I gathered opinions from brides who run bride accounts about whether they can make their accounts visible to the staff of wedding venues.

“How do I use Instagram? How do I perceive SNS?”

It's something we don’t generally consider, but when we think about it, we can recognize our individuality and philosophy, which can be interesting.

Thank you to everyone who responded.

@jewel_flower_antique