"Can You Explain the Reasons for the Difference from Your Ideal? How to Communicate When You Feel the Hairstyle You Got Isn't Quite Right."

2021.04.05 published

I Want to Approach My Wedding with My Ideal Hairstyle!

As a bride, I definitely don’t want to fail with my bridal hair.

If I can achieve my ideal hairstyle, I feel like it will make for a fantastic day! ♡

Conversely, if I end up with a hairstyle that doesn’t satisfy me, I might regret it every time I look at the photos.

That’s why it’s important to gather reference images and create guidelines, ensuring I communicate clearly with the hairstylist.

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It Feels Off, but I Can't Quite Explain...

The hair and makeup rehearsal held about a month before the big day is the time to convey the image I've shared with the stylist and see it come to life.

It would be reassuring if they could get the ideal hairstyle right on the first try...

However, many brides feel something like, “It’s just not quite right...”

But if I can’t articulate exactly what feels off in that moment, I might become anxious thinking:

“Will everything really be okay on the day?”

“Are they understanding the points I care about?”

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In this article, I will introduce three common reasons why there is often a gap between the ideal and the reality, along with real-life hair and makeup rehearsal photos from previous brides.

When you feel “something is different!” be sure to mentally prepare how to convey exactly what is off.

Reason #1 for a Less-than-Ideal Hairstyle: The Way It's Loosened is Different

The first reason is that the “loosening method” is not communicated effectively.

How the braided updo is loosened is a crucial point that determines the bride's impression.

Be cautious of scenarios where the loosening is insufficient and the result differs from the image!

In the ideal (left), a soft and large bun is created by loosening it richly at a high position, providing volume, but in the rehearsal (right), the stylist tries to replicate volume solely with the size of the bun without loosening the hair, resulting in a heavier impression.

Even though my ideal is a fairy-like and delicate vibe, it surprisingly turns out more glamorous...

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For hairstylists who have been engaged in bridal hair arrangements for years, the trending soft and fluffy hair could sometimes seem:

"Isn’t that too messy?"

"Are there too many loose strands?"

If you want to emphasize the fluffiness and messiness, consider expressing that point clearly.

Reason #2 for a Less-than-Ideal Hairstyle: The Volume Feels Off

A classic bridal hairstyle is the chignon.

The amount of hair pulled out from the top and the bun can significantly change the atmosphere.

The trend is to create a style with tightly curled hair, pulled out finely to finish in a large, wavy form.

The ideal (right) has a bumpy texture at both the top and the bun, whereas the rehearsal (left) has a more subdued volume.

It doesn’t convey the party vibe like the ideal (right), instead appearing as a more subdued chignon.

Additionally, the side hair not falling over the ears might contribute to the sense of “something is different.”

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Because the chignon is a standard hairstyle, it may be necessary to articulate the silhouette and volume you envision clearly.

Reason #3 for a Less-than-Ideal Hairstyle: The Way the Curls Are Done is Different

A common issue with down styles is the difference in how the curls are styled.

Curls can create various expressions depending on the thickness of the curling iron, whether they are inward or outward curls, and where you start curling, making it easy to end up with a gap from the ideal.

The ideal (right) features large curls with a mix of curling styles, while the rehearsal (left) ends up with finer vertical curls.

It gives a luxurious impression, slightly deviating from the girly vibe I’m aiming for.

Additionally, the twist on the half-up style is somewhat different from my ideal.

It’s best to clearly convey what specific aspects of the reference images you like for an ideal arrangement.

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I Hope Every Bride Can Approach Their Wedding with a Gorgeous Hairstyle!

Of course, since hair types and lengths vary, it’s impossible to achieve an exact match to the prepared reference images.

(It’s rare to get the exact hairstyle shown in a catalog at the regular hair salon, right?)

However, to ensure that the nuances important to me are conveyed as clearly as possible, consider keeping the three reasons I introduced in mind as you approach your hair and makeup rehearsal.

I hope you can capture all the key points during the hair and makeup rehearsal, leading to a satisfying hairstyle on the big day! ♡

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