"Dealing with Delayed Weddings: Solutions for Staying Positive and Boosting Motivation!"

2020.08.09 published

It's difficult to maintain motivation...

We receive numerous messages from brides who are uncertain about when they can return to a "normal" life without worries regarding weddings, honeymoons, and fertility activities due to COVID-19...

A common concern is, "I prioritized safety and made the bold decision to postpone my wedding by a year, but since this is the second or third postponement, I'm worried about maintaining my motivation... How can I keep my motivation up?"

I've thought a bit about possible solutions for this, so please bear with me*

@haruno45

【Solution 1】Have pre-wedding photo shoots regularly

If there’s a year, how about setting milestones and spreading out your goals every 4 to 3 months?

By setting enjoyable activities (ones less likely to be postponed), you might be able to live each day looking forward to them.

Since the pre-wedding period has been extended, it would be lovely to take location photos each season!

Why not take this opportunity to purchase your dream dress, and invite your husband to take lots of photos since you bought it!

Getting a tuxedo for your husband as well might make him happy.

@justmarried0906

【Solution 2】Avoid discussing topics with people who have different opinions

When you have concerns or unresolved issues, spend time with people who accept your decisions and current situation or who can support you.

Everyone has their own views on the coronavirus, and there’s no hierarchy or right or wrong answers.

Therefore, a good method to avoid trouble and relieve stress is to NOT discuss topics with people who have a different stance!!!

For instance, if your wedding is in 4 months and your mother is sensitive to COVID-19 news.

Avoid bringing up discussions like, "The number of infections is increasing every day... Will our wedding be okay?"

Limit those conversations to only when you need to seek advice or make a joint decision and try to enjoy different topics, even if you are very close.

Some people even say that the topic of COVID-19 should be avoided just like political discussions or baseball talk...!

@haruno45

【Solution 3】Avoid looking at social media

When anxious, it’s easy to gravitate towards social media. However, during these times, firmly separate the online world from reality.

Searching for "wedding still happening" or "wedding postponed" will yield many results, especially on Twitter, but you should assess whether these will positively influence you.

If you think you'll become negative from seeing search results, stop those searches entirely, close your social media, and talk to your fiancé, family, friends, or planner!

(Basically, those who support you in your life!)

Also, it’s time to change your search keywords!

If you are moving forward with plans to hold a wedding, should search for "wedding COVID measures" or "event COVID measures" instead of "wedding absentee" or "don’t want to attend the wedding".

The internet is an ocean of information. Choose wisely and find out what you can do moving forward♪

@haruno45

【Solution 4】Consider domestic honeymoons first

With overseas honeymoons uncertain, many people are advised by their companies to avoid dining with large groups, and may also be advised to avoid international travel.

While it’s sad that you can’t easily take your ideal overseas honeymoon now, look for the possible solutions.

How about planning a luxurious domestic trip instead?

Stay at nice places and dine at upscale restaurants. Enjoying luxurious time that differs from the usual could create lasting memories.

Popular places are easier to book right now, making it an opportunity.

If the airline ticket to your overseas honeymoon costs 200,000 yen, that amount could cover 3 to 4 meals of delicious sushi for both of you〜♡ Does that brighten your mood?

Instead of waiting indefinitely for a comforting world to return, I prefer taking the initiative to devise and implement solutions.

@haruno45

Think positively about what you can do now ♡

There are many reasons and incidents in the world to feel down, and it’s quite rare for life to go as we wish.

But while we accept the situation heavily, I believe it’s a time to cultivate the ability to find what we can do and what we enjoy during these moments!

It’s difficult to do.

@haruno45

Feeling down is natural, but if you don't like that side of yourself, take some time—even a little—to explore other solutions and increase your cheerful emotions.

Everyone is struggling now.

Let’s do our best for a better future!