"Struggling with 'Non-DIY Complex'? Consider the Benefits of Not Handcrafting Wedding Items"

2021.04.18 published

Common Concerns for Future Brides? The Complex of "Not DIYing"

Congratulations to all future brides♡

How is your wedding preparation going?

A friend of mine recently became a future bride and is in the midst of wedding preparations.

The other day when I chatted with her on LINE, I asked, "By the way, how's the wedding preparation going?"

She replied, "I'm anxious because I haven't been able to DIY like the other brides around me."

@nagisa_marry

I totally understand that feeling!

When I was preparing for my own wedding, I would often feel anxious or down when seeing other brides' DIY items on Instagram.

A wedding is not something to compare with others.

Even though I know this rationally, seeing other brides' posts makes me feel:

"They're so much more stylish than me."

"I can't replicate such amazing DIYs."

"This person's wedding is so much better."

Those dark feelings can easily bubble up.

Recently, there has been a notable increase in brides who handcraft everything from welcome items to videos and paper items like professionals.

@haruno45

I wondered if many other future brides besides my friend are struggling with this "complex of not being able to DIY." So I decided to write this article.

Having observed weddings for the past five years since marry was established, I want to share the "benefits of intentionally choosing not to DIY."

If you think you might have a DIY complex, please give this a read.

(This isn't an article that denies DIY＊)

Benefit of Not DIYing at Weddings 1: Keeping the Wedding Simple

The first thing that comes to mind is getting closer to the original simple purpose of a wedding, which is a declaration of love.

I once attended a wedding of a friend who hardly looks at Instagram or the internet, and it was a simple ceremony without any original performances or items. It was fresh and incredibly moving.

Of course, carefully crafted DIY is wonderful, but such weddings can become a full display of their worldview.

I think it's perfectly okay to prepare a wedding focused on the simple purpose of "having a wedding" without pouring so much energy into preparing items.

@nagisa_marry

Benefit of Not DIYing at Weddings 2: Being Refined and Stylish

If you don’t DIY, you will naturally end up using wedding items ordered from professionals.

Whether it's welcome boards, ring pillows, paper items, etc...

Unless you have extraordinary taste, it is indeed quite challenging to surpass a professional’s work.

A wedding equipped with professional items tends to generally have a higher design quality compared to a handmade wedding.

Moreover, when you're preparing with DIY as the basis, you tend to get distracted by "this and that" regarding various items, but with an ordering basis, there's a tendency to not increase the number of items due to budget constraints.

As a result, it will likely lead to a sophisticated wedding atmosphere that isn’t cluttered.

@haruno45

Benefit of Not DIYing at Weddings 3: Not Feeling Outdated Over Time

One of the good things about DIY is the ability to create new items that haven't been available in the market yet.

But conversely, something that hasn't existed before is not a conventional choice.

It’s quite common to look back at DIY items that were trending during that period and feel they are slightly outdated a few years later...

It's a matter of whether to focus on the "now" or place more emphasis on "always."

By intentionally avoiding trendy DIYitems, your wedding can become a classic one that doesn’t feel outdated no matter how many years pass.

@wakana522

Benefit of Not DIYing at Weddings 4: Less Likely to Regret

I feel that satisfaction with a wedding is often a matter of mindset.

Even if others think, "What a wonderful wedding!" the bride herself might be having regrets.

One of the benefits of not DIYing is that it can make it less likely to have thoughts like:

“I should have done this differently.”

With DIY, since you can do everything exactly as you want, you might later think:

"Maybe this color should have been something different."

"The size was a bit off."

"I should have gone with a different design."

However, when you purchase ready-made items or ask a professional, the choices are limited from the start, making it less likely to have such regrets.

This reminds me of whether you bought a pre-built house or commissioned a custom one; those who built custom homes often regret the finer details more!

Benefit of Not DIYing at Weddings 5: Focusing on Self-Improvement

One of the things that comes with deciding not to handcraft wedding items.

That's "time"!

Not dealing with overwhelming DIY stress leading to sleep deprivation and stress eating is definitely a big benefit.

You can spend time on diets or visits to the salon.

Taking it easy and dedicating time to self-improvement so you can elevate yourself into the most beautiful bride is indeed a joy.

@_ra_wedding_

Benefit of Not DIYing at Weddings 6: Staying Close with Your Partner

Wedding preparations are often said to be the first major project tackled as a couple.

The unusual tasks and decisions can lead to clashes between partners.

By deciding not to DIY, the potential for conflicts decreases, allowing for more time and emotional space for both.

Instead of pushing tasks onto each other, it would be great to spend the future bride period happily cooperating in a shared manner.

You can continue to date and travel with the same frequency as before getting engaged, enjoying a lovelier preparation period for the wedding♡

@nagisa_marry

Breaking Free from the DIY Complex!

I've been thinking about the benefits of not handcrafting wedding items.

If you find yourself in a situation of not DIYing or being unable to, it's a waste to dwell on it.

Instead of comparing yourself to other brides, focus on the positives of your own wedding and preparation, cherishing your own happiness.

A wedding should inherently be about that!

Whether you DIY or not, your wedding will be one-of-a-kind and filled with joy♡

@haruno45