Unexpected Moment! What to Say When Asked for a "Comment" at a Wedding? [Sample Phrases Included]
2021.12.19 published
When Asked to Record Comments*
Have you ever been asked to record comments as a guest at a wedding you've attended...?
Comment recording is when the photographer goes around the tables during the reception, filming each guest's congratulatory message in a few seconds.
This often happens when the bride and groom include "video recording of the day's events" in their plan, and the recorded footage is sent to the couple afterward.
However, due to time constraints, not all guests present at the venue will be included.
It seems common to decide in advance, during a meeting with the photographer, which tables to record messages from, typically choosing about 2 to 4 tables.
It’s standard to choose tables with friends or colleagues rather than family.
(If it's a small-scale wedding and time allows, it may be possible to record comments from everyone too.*)
I have also experienced comment recording several times at weddings I've attended, but isn't it quite nerve-wracking...?
Obviously, there's no notice given, and when the camera is pointed at you, you get nervous and your face stiffens! I wonder what everyone around me is saying—besides congratulations, I need to say something clever! That always troubles me.
So, if you’re asked to record comments at a wedding, what should guests talk about? I’ve thought of some example sentences.
For those feeling anxious, please prepare in advance.*
There is no correct answer*
First, the premise is that the recorded comment video will be sent to the bride and groom after the ceremony, so generally, it's something only they will see.
Therefore, rather than hastily saying, "Congratulations. Wishing you happiness,"
it’s surely more enjoyable for the viewing bride and groom if you share personal stories, anecdotes, commonalities, or connections that are unique to you.
You can speak as if you’re always chatting, and it’s perfectly fine not to use formal language and be stiff.*
Example 1 of a congratulatory comment: "Including Wedding-Related Stories"
Congratulations, ○○ and ○○.
When I saw ○○ enter in her wedding dress earlier, I was moved to tears by her cute, beautiful appearance as a bride. The entrance song was also a song by ○○, and I thought, “Of course, it’s ○○!”
The wedding cake was adorable, and I thought ○○’s wedding would definitely be stylish, and I’m genuinely impressed.
Next time we hang out, let’s talk a lot about the wedding, okay~♡
Truly, congratulations!
Example 2 of a congratulatory comment: "Talking About Memories"
○○ and ○○.
Right now, I'm enjoying a wonderful wedding~! Thank you so much for inviting me today!
I met ○○ through a university club, and it's already been 10 years.
I still remember when we traveled together and ○○. We had such a great time back then.
Just like back then, I hope you two continue to be super happy and get along well.
Let’s keep in touch~!
Example 3 of a congratulatory comment: "Directed Towards the Partner"
Congratulations, ○○ and ○○.
○○ (the groom) has been really cool, kind, and a great guy since we were on the high school soccer team together.
At drinking parties, I always talked about you, ○○, and was so delighted to hear you were getting married to ○○.
Please continue to take good care of our dear friend, ○○!
Wishing you both lasting happiness.
Having a Theme Might Make It Easier to Talk About*
Comment recording at receptions comes quite unexpectedly, so there usually isn’t much time to think about the content...
(If there is time, it’s usually while the photographer is busy shooting others and you're waiting your turn!)
"Talk about the wedding or compliment them"
"Share memories"
"Talk about the partner, regarding the groom (or bride)"
By deciding on a theme (direction), you won’t be too template-like nor will you struggle with what to say.
If you are asked to record comments at a wedding in the future, please use this as a reference***