The groom's version of veiling down! 【A summary of the final preparation performance from parents to the groom】

2022.12.19 published

What Kind of Ceremony Performances Are There for the Groom?

In traditional wedding ceremonies, it's customary for the bride to have her veil lowered by her mother and to be escorted down the aisle by her father.

This symbolizes the journey from childhood to marriage, where parents who have nurtured their child since they were little are now helping them with their "final preparations" as they leave to start a new life.

@lisa1215wdg

In recent years, there has been an increase in ceremonies like the jacket ceremony and the boutonniere ceremony, highlighting that it's not just the bride being cared for, but also recognizing the groom's parents by giving them a role as well.

The items that can be prepared for the groom during the ceremony include [jacket], [boutonniere], [handkerchief], and [gloves]. It is common for the father to assist with the jacket, the mother with the boutonniere, and so on, with each parent choosing one item.

Let’s introduce each ceremony in detail.

@kana__wd

Groom's Ceremony Performance ① Jacket Ceremony

The first ceremony we would like to introduce is the jacket ceremony. This is when the groom is dressed in his jacket by his father and mother.

@hmmt_e_wd

During the jacket ceremony, the groom enters wearing a vest, which makes guests wonder, "Why is he in a vest? Where is the jacket?" Then, when the ceremony begins, it becomes visibly clear.

It's an emotional performance, leaving a memorable image of a dashing groom quickly donning his tuxedo. ♡

@hmmt_e_wd

Groom's Ceremony Performance ② Boutonniere Ceremony

The boutonniere ceremony involves the groom having a boutonniere placed in his chest pocket. Since this is an arrangement that uses flowers, it is often requested from the mother.

While it is common to prepare the boutonniere to match the bouquet, selecting flowers that the mother loves is also a wonderful idea.

@cam_yana

If you are planning to have a bouquet and boutonniere ceremony as part of the couple's performance (where the groom presents 12 roses as a proposal, and the bride takes one to make the boutonniere to give back to the groom), you should consider having the parents choose the jacket or handkerchief instead to avoid overlapping performances.

@cam_yana

Groom's Ceremony Performance ③ Handkerchief Ceremony

The handkerchief ceremony involves the parents placing a handkerchief in the groom's pocket. It would be delightful to prepare matching handkerchiefs with initials as a gift.

Conversely, it would also be lovely to have the parents select the handkerchief themselves.

@lisa1215wdg

Groom's Ceremony Performance ④ Gloves Ceremony

The gloves ceremony involves receiving gloves from the parents. Gloves symbolize "protecting the bride" (historically said to replace swords).

Therefore, many people ask their fathers to give them the gloves with a sentiment like, "Just as you've protected your mother, now it’s your turn to protect your bride."

@fuwafuwa_hanpen1

Groom's Ceremony Performance ⑤ Finally ♡

After this ceremony is completed...

Hugging or shaking hands is a lovely way to express the bond between parents and children.

And as you begin to walk, it is a touching moment as both parents gently push your back to see you off.

It’s an emotional moment.

@k_riho09

Final Preparations for the Groom That Express the Bonds Between Parents and Children

In the past, it was said, "Once you marry, do not cross the threshold of your parents' home again,"

but in today's world, marriage is primarily about the couple.

While the sense of marrying off one's daughter may be fading, it is still both a happy and slightly bittersweet moment for parents who have raised their beloved child.

Similarly, the groom's parents likely feel a lesser sense of 'bringing a bride into the family' and more of a joyful sentiment of "You two will build a new home together."

In that regard, I believe the final preparations for the groom are a ceremony that fits the times.

It’s a wonderful performance that expresses the bond between parents and children, so please consider incorporating it! ♡

@k_riho09