Labor costs, utility costs, and food costs are all rising. Since a 30,000 yen congratulatory gift results in a deficit, there are opinions that in reality, they would like to receive around 50,000 yen.

2023.07.27 published

About the Amount of Wedding Gifts (Goshugi)

A message of concern arrived in the Instagram DM of Marry.

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I’m a future bride!

Recently, when I went out with a friend who works at a wedding venue, we talked about how:

"Labor costs, food ingredient costs, electricity bills, and procurement costs are all increasing, while the money required for weddings is going up, yet the wedding gift remains at 30,000 yen. What do you think? To be honest, it's tough for both the groom and bride as well as the industry... I wish wedding gifts would increase."

I personally feel that burdens have indeed increased compared to the past... and I can imagine that corporate sales and profits are decreasing as well.

But is it really feasible to raise wedding gifts or fees to 40,000 yen...? 40,000 is a round number, so maybe 50,000 yen...? There was also a discussion about adjusting the gift amount based on the venue rank.

What do you all think...?

Here are some opinions collected from Marry’s followers ✨✉️

[1]

I understand your feelings!

I myself appreciated wedding gifts a lot, but in the end, I had to cover several million yen out of my own pocket 💦

However, I don’t think wedding gift amounts should be raised at all. I believe that wedding gifts are not subsidies for the couple having the wedding but rather purely a gesture of celebration.

I think the bride and groom should choose venues that suit their financial circumstances, and even if there were no wedding gifts, I believe it's important to have the will to manage your wedding within your means.

While I appreciate the wedding gifts, I think increasing them to achieve a satisfactory ceremony for ourselves, along with added options, is not quite right.

[2]

I'm having my ceremony and reception this November. With prices going up, even the lowest rank food costs 38,000 yen per person, so 30,000 yen results in a deficit... To be honest, I hope wedding gifts go up too.

[3]

I understand the bride's side very well… Wedding gifts have indeed not changed, right? But the costs for attendees, such as salon bills, outfits, and transport, have also increased similarly.

I think it’s mutual, but what matters most is that everyone comes out of their own will for us, right? 🥰

[4]

Honestly, I think raising the amount of wedding gifts is out of the question 🤔

- Wedding gifts are fundamentally gestures of celebration.

- Costs like guest transport and accommodation are also rising, creating an even larger burden.

- Wedding gifts are "not directly" related to venue labor costs and procurement, so they should be thought of separately.

*I understand that many couples allocate wedding gifts to cover venue costs, and I am one of them...

[5]

I saw your story. I had my wedding five years ago. My husband’s coworker put 30,500 yen in the wedding gift envelope, and we both laughed. It was heartwarming and became a really good memory.

It might be hard to enforce an increase in wedding gifts, but it's a crucial matter for both the venue and the couple getting married...

Recently, there haven’t been many weddings amongst my circle, and I honestly hadn’t considered the impact of price increases on weddings until I saw the story, which made me think, "That's true."

Maybe it would be nice to put in amounts like 35,000 yen or 40,500 yen and attach a short note to the inner envelope or memo. It would be wonderful if media and venues could encourage the fact of rising expenses, which would naturally lead to an increase in wedding gift amounts shared by everyone.

However, there might also be participants who are facing financial difficulties, so enforcement would indeed be strict, and I would like to ensure that couples receiving 30,000 yen do not feel uncomfortable. I hope there can be some resolution!

Feelings of understanding about the guidelines were expressed in multiple comments.

Most respondents seem to express that while they comprehend the tough situation for both the couples and the industry, seeking support through increased wedding gifts from the guests feels unrealistic... It reflects the broader economic strain many are feeling collectively, and the wish for someone to lighten the burden at least.

I sincerely hope for a quick recovery in the economy...!!