In the case of remarriage with children. How do you explain the presence of children in a profile movie? How should they be introduced?

2023.08.22 published

A Profile Movie for a Remarriage...

We received this consultation from a follower on marry's Instagram.

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How do you express your life in a profile movie during a remarriage?

Should you mention that it's a remarriage?

Especially when there are children involved from the previous marriage, it can be quite confusing how to present them in the movie, right?

You may not want to emphasize "it's a remarriage!" but if you don't mention the previous marriage, the existence of the child becomes a mystery.

Since all the guests already know it's a remarriage, it seems unnecessary to state it in the profile movie; however, it still feels unnatural in the story, and I’m torn...

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This question comes from a bride who has children with her previous husband and is about to have a wedding again.

It is indeed a dilemma....!

Here are responses and experiences collected through a story call.

Response 1

I had a remarriage ceremony and reception, but I believe that people who don't know I'm remarried don't attend the reception in the first place.

Response 2

My husband is remarried (with two children). The children live with their previous wife, so we weren't a blended family, and I didn’t specifically announce it as a remarriage; only close friends are aware.

Nobody particularly brought it up, and if they did, I would just answer. There was no invasive questioning from anyone. 🙂

Response 3

I'm not remarried, but I had a complex about my upbringing, so I didn't include my childhood in the profile movie and instead added photos of trips after I met my husband, introducing "the personalities of the two of us"!

Since I couldn't find a suitable template for outsourcing, I made the movie myself.

Even if it feels a bit unnatural, I think attendees are surprisingly perceptive...!

It might be nice to include an episode of the children meeting the groom for the first time (→ I thought it might subtly convey that this is the bride’s child).

Response 4

I used to be a planner and have worked with couples who were getting remarried.

A profile movie isn’t essential, so if you have a fixed idea that you must make one, opting out might be a good choice 😊

Of course, if it’s something you want to do, that’s different.

Also, rather than focusing on the upbringing, it can be about your love story instead. 🙆‍♀️

There are no rigid formats for a wedding!!

You can be free; there’s no need to be confined! 💐💕

Response 5

I had a wedding ceremony with my husband (who is a first-time groom).

I’m a remarried mother, and I featured my 5-year-old son in the profile movie.

The flow was:

My upbringing ➡️ Giving birth to my son ➡️ Meeting my husband ➡️ The two of us

I didn’t specifically touch on my first marriage or divorce; I only mentioned that my son was born.

I didn't include any details about who the father is.

I didn't want to broadly publicize my first marriage and divorce at the wedding, but I thought it was odd not to mention my son (since he appears in many parts) so I included only the birth scene!

Response 6

At a friend's wedding, she had children with her previous husband, but they didn’t show a profile movie!

Admittedly, it can be challenging to find the right moment to introduce them.

In the profile book, there was a brief profile of the children as "the two of us’ child" (favorite foods, characters, etc.). ☺️

Response 7

A friend had a profile movie that talked about graduating from university, getting married, and giving birth to a cute daughter 🤍 but the marriage only lasted a year (laughs), after which she had a fateful encounter with the groom 🤍.

There might be superstitions about discussing divorce at weddings, but it’s part of her life, and since she invited guests, they all know, so I thought it was refreshing that she was straightforward!

Everyone knows, so it doesn’t seem necessary to hide it oddly.

Response 8

A friend got married, and the wife had children.

I had somewhat heard that the wife had children, but in the profile movie, they covered the pregnancy, childbirth, and life after birth, which made me feel a bit uncomfortable 💦.

I felt that there was no need to include hints about the previous husband in the profile movie...

Of course, the friend loves and cherishes the children, but I couldn’t help but feel a little pity in that scene.

Response 9

I’m also a remarried mother with children and had a wedding.

I made the profile movie starting from how we met.

My husband and I got married, and since he adopted my child, the child's father is the groom.

I asked the MC to ensure they refrain from repeating “the bride’s daughter,” as that might hurt a little, even if the child is still small.

They can represent the child simply by her name without saying “the bride’s daughter."

Of course, I appreciate my husband for accepting me and my daughter, but I don’t want my daughter to hear that.

Thank you for your responses!

The issue of how to present the children or express them in a profile movie for a remarriage...

✅ Some people choose to cut the profile movie altogether.

✅ Many opt to skip the bride and groom's upbringing and start from their love story, where they naturally incorporate the children.

This seems to be a common approach.

By the way,

Regarding whether to express "I’m actually remarried..." at the wedding (without questioning the magnitude of that expression),

Here are the results.

Whether or not there are children, many prefer "not to say anything."

When it comes to questions specifically about the profile movie, the outcome looks like this.

If there are children and a profile movie is made, the proportion of those who include elements suggesting that it’s a remarriage has increased.

I hope everyone has a wonderful wedding that becomes a beautiful memory for the whole family! ♡