Don't Forget to Thank Those Who Couldn't Attend Your Wedding: 4 Etiquette Tips for Giving "Uchiwai" Gifts

2016.04.04 published

It Was a Day Like a Dream: Our Wedding Ceremony ♡

Since being proposed to, the newlyweds have worked hard through the introductions to parents, meeting of the families, searching for a wedding venue, preparing for the wedding, and finally the big day itself… Thank you for all your efforts, dear newlyweds! ♡

After such a wonderful day, while you might want to take a break… there’s one last big task remaining: “Thank-You Gifts” ♡

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"Thank-You Gifts" for Those Who Celebrated Your Wedding ♡

"Thank-You Gifts" are items given to those who couldn't attend the wedding but sent congratulatory money (gifts) as a way to express gratitude for their well wishes. ♡

Think of it as a substitute for the "wedding favors" given to those who attended the ceremony! ♡ However, it's important to note that there are established manners for choosing and sending these gifts, so be cautious!

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This time, let's learn about the manners of "Thank-You Gifts" that you should be mindful of after the wedding! ♡

Manners for "Thank-You Gifts" to Be Mindful of After the Wedding① Timing of Sending

The timing for sending Thank-You Gifts is not just anytime!＊

The appropriate timing is decided to be "within one month" after the wedding ceremony.＊

If you take too long, it can leave a bad impression, so even though you might want to relax and enjoy after the wedding, let's send Thank-You Gifts to those who celebrated with us as a show of gratitude! ♡

Manners for "Thank-You Gifts" to Be Mindful of After the Wedding② How to Choose Thank-You Gifts

When selecting Thank-You Gifts, it’s customary to choose items worth about 30% to half of the amount of the congratulatory money or the value of the gifts received.＊

Generally, common choices include towel blankets, catalog gifts, and snacks, but make sure to carefully select items that would be appreciated, considering the recipient’s age as well! ♡

Manners for "Thank-You Gifts" to Be Mindful of After the Wedding③ Include a Thank-You Note

When sending Thank-You Gifts, be sure to include a Thank-You note along with the item!＊

The content of the Thank-You note typically expresses gratitude for the wedding congratulation and conveys the message of looking forward to future interactions! ♡ It’s best to keep it simple and easily understandable! ♡

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Manners for "Thank-You Gifts" to Be Mindful of After the Wedding④ Always Include "Noshi"

Since marriage is a celebratory occasion that should not be repeated, we use "musubikirikiri" noshi.＊

The types of noshi are well-understood by department store staff or shopkeepers, so don’t forget to mention that it’s for a wedding thank-you gift when buying thank-you items! ♡

On the upper section of the noshi, write "内祝" or "結婚内祝."＊

In the lower section, it’s common to write the names of the bride and groom together, either using the last names or just first names like "Groom’s Name, Bride’s Name." ♡

Bonus ♡ / Marriage as an Opportunity to Send New Year Cards ♡

Marriage is a beautiful occasion that connects families.

Many people who had never sent New Year cards before have started doing so after getting married! ♡ Why not send out New Year cards as a way to announce your marriage? ♡

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As you grow older, sharing news like the birth of children and expanding your family is also wonderful! ♡ It could become a delightful tradition to exchange New Year cards every year! ♡

How was it? ♡

Even after getting married, the connections with the important people around you continue! ♡ Let’s always remember that the happiness we have now is not only built by the two of us, and carry that feeling of gratitude as we move forward in life! ♡