"When Times Get Tough: 6 Moments When I Knew I Wanted to Marry Him xoxo ~ Featuring My Dependable Partner ~"

2016.04.02 published

I felt "I want to marry him" when he responded to my own difficulties or those of my family. Selected 6 episodes*

① He just silently nodded and listened to me.

② He cried for my family as if it were his own.

③ Grandma, I found a wonderful person♡

④ This person understands me.

⑤ I don't want to be a person unrelated to Yuki.

⑥ My grandpa who loved cherry blossoms.

It is at difficult times that one's true character is revealed.

I felt "I want to marry him" when he responded to my own difficulties or those of my family. Selected 6 episodes*

Thank you so much for answering the many questions from the marry Instagram girls' meeting project “#The moment I wanted to marry this person xoxo”!

So many people have shared various moments, and I never get tired of reading them.

When you encounter difficulties, consider what kind of response you would want from him and what you would want to do for him as you read each bride's episode.*

① He just silently nodded and listened to me.

@yukko20160402 (Congratulations on your wedding today, April 2!) What was your ‘#The moment I wanted to marry this person xoxo’???

This was about two years ago. I was shocked when my chronic illness worsened and my doctor recommended treatment.

The treatment required surgery, three hospitalizations, and nearly a year of medication.

The side effects of the medication included a moon face that could make my face round, and I couldn't become pregnant while on the medication. I was 29 years old at the time.

After leaving the hospital, I called him while crying on the side of the road. (I feel embarrassed thinking about it now…)

He came to me right away. I cried for a while then too (it's really embarrassing at my age).

He just listened to me, didn’t try to cheer me up or be pessimistic, just nodded like usual and waited for me to calm down.

His actions were so good for me.

I felt like he was accepting reality together with me, and talking to him helped me calm down.

Then, I naturally felt motivated to do my best with the treatment. I guess after crying so much, it felt refreshing… LOL

I didn't tell him at this time, but I thought, "I will definitely get better, marry this person, and start a family."

Even though we hadn’t talked about marriage, I had already decided that I was going to marry him, LOL

And that dream came true♡The picture is of the preserved rose I received during the proposal.

I have now completed my treatment and am living healthy, so please rest assured!

I wanted to write this to remember my original intentions as I post this for the wedding on April 2.

② He cried for my family as if it were his own.

@emi.marry What was your ‘#The moment I wanted to marry this person xoxo’???

The moment I wanted to marry him most was when my father collapsed.

I was worried about what would happen for a while, but fortunately, my father was fine and was only diagnosed with a bit of severe anemia.

However, I was very upset and caused him a lot of worry.

On the day he collapsed, my father didn't need to be hospitalized and was able to come home quickly, and when he saw my father’s seemingly healthy face, he cried out, "I'm so glad!"

Seeing that made me cry too. (LOL)

Watching him take care of my family like they were his own, taking care of my friends like they're his own… it made me think about wanting to marry him( ¨̮ )

There’s still a long way to go, but I want to cherish not only my family but also his friends...♡

③ Grandma, I found a wonderful person♡

@yama_mai67 What was your ‘#The moment I wanted to marry this person xoxo’?

I wanted to marry him about three months into our relationship.

I am an only child, the only girl among the relatives. My family and relatives were looking forward to me getting married and seeing me as a bride.

I told my grandmother that I had a boyfriend around February and shared photos while talking about him.

However, on March 6, my grandmother passed away.

She had a heart attack in the bath, and it was an unexpected goodbye.

I was really sad and cried. I think I cried until I ran out of tears.

On that day, he had a night shift. But when I called, he answered. After hearing the situation, he told me about the police coming and what would happen next to help me feel at ease.

The next day, a wake was held, and relatives and neighbors gathered.

We had planned to meet that Sunday, but that was the last thing on my mind. In the evening, when things had calmed down, I contacted him.

He said that if I wanted to meet, he would come right away.

When I said I wanted to see him, he came in about two minutes. It seemed like he was waiting nearby after finishing his night shift.

He held me tightly while I cried continuously and couldn't stop.

I unexpectedly cried so much that I got tired, and feeling safe with him, I fell asleep then.

He kept watching me gently as I continued to cry and talked about my grandmother, and after considering everything, I found it hard to believe I wouldn't be able to see him.

Looking back at how he gently spoke to me even when it was difficult to find the right words, I wanted to marry him.

He has this perfect sense of being a kind person who can consider others' feelings‼︎♡

Grandma! I found a wonderful person♡

④ This person understands me.

@0611ma.yuu What was your ‘#The moment I wanted to marry this person xoxo’?

My husband was a nurse in the ward where I was hospitalized＼(^^)／

We spent a fresh and cute time together like in a manga, and we started dating when he changed jobs!

A year passed, and I was hospitalized for the second time… It was supposed to be a simple surgery, and I would come back to my room in about 30 minutes…

But after the operation, I had respiratory failure. I was fully conscious but completely unable to breathe. The operating room was cold and frightening.

After being put back to sleep with anesthesia, I woke up in a daze, not knowing where I was or what time it was. I was on the verge of panic.

And then, the person who came beside my bed was my husband, who looked like he was about to cry.

He held my hand and said, "I was worried… I'm so glad."

Until then, I had been extremely anxious, but with just that one phrase, I felt incredibly comforted.

I want to be with this person forever. He would understand my physical problems.

I strongly thought, “I won’t let him see that crying face again.”!!!!!!!!

During my pre-marital hospitalization and after a five-hour surgery, when I was struggling due to medication side effects…

He would come after work and stay until I fell asleep, and during my four-month hospitalization, he came to visit every weekend, supporting me during an incredibly tough time.

He is just a kind husband. Sometimes he annoys me, but I want to create a happy family with him forever ♡

Sorry for the long story, but this was my ‘#The moment I wanted to marry this person xoxo.’

⑤ I don't want to be a person unrelated to Yuki.

@sywedding912 What was your ‘#The moment I wanted to marry this person xoxo’?

There is a free cervical cancer screening in Ota City every two years.

So, while I was at the dermatology clinic, I thought, “Let’s try it casually,” and received it without thinking too much.

I almost forgot to go get the results, but about a week later, I got a call from the hospital saying, “Please come as soon as possible to hear the results!!”

I thought, "Could it be me?" as I went to a major hospital for a detailed examination… Until I was told by a gynecologist at a general hospital, “You already have cancer, and it would be better to remove your uterus.”

(In fact, if I removed my uterus, I would have a complete hysterectomy, so for now, there is no problem with my life! I was told in a good way, which didn’t feel good at all and my mind went blank.)

I spent time blankly at a nearby park and returned home in the same daze.

Until now, I had never had a significant illness and had lived happily. I loved children and obtained a teaching license for elementary school. I had never considered that I couldn’t give birth to children…

I didn’t want to worry him, and thought it would be fine, so I hadn’t reported anything to him until now.

At this point, I finally thought, "This is bad," and made the decision to break up.

He also loves children, becomes friends with other people’s children easily, and often plays with his niece. I wanted him to have a life with children.

I tried to say that I wanted to break up without giving a reason, but he didn’t understand at all.

He came to my house several times, asking me to tell him why, so finally I explained everything over the phone…

That night, he came to my house with a very scary face. (He looked so scary, and I've never seen anyone look like that, LOL. I might have been weak and wanted to rely on someone. I had intended to break up, but let him in.)

And then he proposed to me.