Trouble on the Big Day! A Roundup of Unpleasant Experiences and Regrets from the Wedding Ceremony, and How to Handle Them

2016.06.12 published

A Once-in-a-Lifetime Happy Wedding ♡

A wedding celebrated with your beloved partner and surrounded by your cherished family and friends is truly one of the happiest days of your life, a peak moment filled with joy ♡

The day becomes even more meaningful as you dedicate substantial time to its preparation, filled with challenges and excitement.＊

But… unexpected things can happen.＊

A wedding can only take place for just one day. Yes, the fact that it cannot be redone is what makes weddings a bit terrifying!

I might be scaring you a little, but there are stories from past brides who faced unexpected troubles, which left them feeling unpleasant and full of regrets…

Isn’t it sad that a day that should shine the brightest in your life could turn out like this? ><

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\ But don’t worry! / Let’s take proactive steps to avoid such troubles! This time, I’ll introduce some actual issues that occurred and how to prevent them ♡

Let’s take some valuable advice from experienced brides as reference.＊

Actual Wedding Issues & Regrets #1: The train wasn’t properly arranged.

A common concern among brides was that their long train wasn’t properly arranged by their attendant.

Although the attendant’s role is to keep the train neat while the bride walks, there are instances where they didn’t manage to do so at the right time. Some brides even mentioned that both the front and the back of their dresses were lifted up, exposing their petticoat!

Since the attendants are professionals, it's generally fine to leave the basics to them. However, just to be safe, explain to your planner that you’ve heard stories like this and understand how the attendants will assist.

Particularly, those wearing long train wedding dresses should take care!＊

@rinange21

Actual Wedding Issues & Regrets #2: There wasn’t enough time for photos with guests.

During the wedding reception, the bride and groom are often quite busy with outfit changes and greetings, which leaves little time to take photos.

Friends may also feel hesitant to ask for photos with the busy couple, resulting in only 2 or 3 photos together.

The wedding generally proceeds according to the schedule decided by the couple. If you wish to have many photos with your guests, consult your planner in advance to allocate more time for photography!

It’s also a good idea to have the MC announce to guests, “If you’d like to take a photo with the bride and groom, please come to the front!” ♡

Actual Wedding Issues & Regrets #3: No family photo.

It’s common for wedding photos with all family members to be forgotten.

On the wedding day, parents are busy greeting guests or sitting far away from the couple, making it hard to find the right timing.

@nagisa_marry

Since it’s such a special occasion, you’ll definitely want a family photo. Many brides suggest scheduling a time for family photos in the preparation room where everyone gathers.

Additionally, you can also allocate time during the reception for family photos! ♡

@sonokinu_0718

Actual Wedding Issues & Regrets #4: The husband got utterly drunk.

One of the scariest things is when the husband, who is supposed to entertain the guests, drinks too much and gets drunk! Since the groom has important roles, such as giving the closing speech, it’s something that must absolutely be avoided!

Even amounts of alcohol that are normally fine can lead to becoming overly intoxicated due to the wedding's tension. It’s important to keep alcohol consumption light on wedding day. Ideally, you would want to refrain from drinking until at least the after-party! ♡

Actual Wedding Issues & Regrets #5: Guests caused too much ruckus.

Similar to the husband getting drunk, there are cases where guests have too much to drink and end up being disruptive.

They may be loud or perform overly enthusiastic skits, which, while genuinely appreciated, can also cause the bride and groom to become nervous… ><

To avoid such scenarios, wedding planners and waitstaff are very attentive. However, it’s a good idea to check in advance what precautions are in place. Many brides also prepare herbal drinks to help curb alcohol intake! ♡

@srsrycn

Actual Wedding Issues & Regrets #6: The speeches were excessively long.

I often hear stories about speeches from supervisors that were surprisingly long, taking up a lot of time. While heartfelt speeches are appreciated, weddings often have a tight schedule, and this can make the bride and groom anxious, as well as tire the guests.

The main guest’s speech and toasts are usually requested about 1.5 to 2 months in advance. During this time, it’s helpful to mention, “Just a few words will be fine…” or “Please keep it around X minutes.” This way, you can avoid any last-minute scrambles on the wedding day! ♡

Actual Wedding Issues & Regrets #7: Few photos of items and dishes.

At weddings, professional bridal photographers take a lot of photos. Many brides just leave it all to the photographers without creating a shot list.

However, some brides have been disappointed upon receiving their photos, finding that the shots they assumed would be taken—like the overall photo at the reception, their hairstyle, and food—were missing.

Notably, record-like photos often have to be specifically requested.

@riii_wed1020

If there are specific shots you want, it's best to communicate that clearly with your photographer in advance.

You don’t need a detailed shot list; a simple bullet-point list of essential items will do! ♡

@riii_wed1020

Wedding Troubles Should Be Avoided in Advance!＊

How was that? The issues we discussed today can largely be resolved with some proactive measures! ♡

Your planner is your best resource, so don’t hesitate to discuss your worries and uncertainties, and enjoy your day filled with happiness! ♡

@k_bride0212