"Scary Yet Necessary: What Types of Weddings Have Guests Disliked the Most?"

2018.06.29 published

I Want Everyone to Say "What a Great Wedding!" ♡

To all the brides-to-be♡ You definitely want your guests, who are coming to your wedding that you’re preparing for so diligently, to think "What a wonderful wedding!"＊ A wedding is not only a celebration of the two families becoming one, but also a place to express gratitude to all those who have been involved in your lives♡

〔A Bit Scary〕There Are Actually Weddings That Guests Have Disliked!

Yes, it’s true… there are weddings that were supposed to express gratitude but ended up making the guests feel uncomfortable. What was intended to be kind could actually be bothersome for someone else… or in the joy of the day, the focus might have turned solely to the couple, leaving guests feeling sidelined. If later they talk about how they wished they hadn’t attended, that would be the worst, right…?

This time, we’ll introduce 〔Episodes of Weddings that Guests Found Unpleasant〕! Although hearing negative stories is frightening, it’s definitely important information that you should know＊ To avoid the worst scenarios, I hope you can use this as a reference☆

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It’s Scary but You Should Know! Wedding Guests Disliked the Following① The Timing Was Too Late

There was a wedding that started at 9 PM, and the after-party began at midnight＊ It was a very late wedding, but it seems there were no hotel arrangements…! When having a wedding at such late hours, it’s good to provide transportation or hotel arrangements to make it easier for guests to return home＊

It’s Scary but You Should Know! Wedding Guests Disliked the Following② No Favors & Cheesy Gifts

While I don’t think this happens often, there has been a wedding where there were no favors given. Even when there were favors, they could just be a single hand towel, which didn’t match the monetary equivalent of the gift. Since it’s a celebration, I don’t want to talk much about money, but the favors are also a source of enjoyment for guests, so you’d want to prepare something they would appreciate＊

It’s Scary but You Should Know! Wedding Guests Disliked the Following③ Named Bouquet Toss

During the bouquet toss, a single woman was called out by name by the emcee and was told, “Alright! Please come forward!” and stood in front of everyone＊ While bouquet tosses can be a popular activity, being single or married can be a sensitive issue for some. Even if you do the bouquet toss, avoid calling out individuals by name＊

It’s Scary but You Should Know! Wedding Guests Disliked the Following④ The Table Guests Were Awful

At one reception, the bride was told, “I mixed single men and women together♡” and found herself sitting at a table with four unknown men and four unknown women. A table full of strangers can make guests uncomfortable, and a blind date type of setup is unnecessary for a wedding. The idea of mixing guests because “they are single” should be avoided at weddings＊

It’s Scary but You Should Know! Wedding Guests Disliked the Following⑤ Although There Were Performances...!

Some guests were asked last minute to perform at the wedding and rushed to prepare everything. However, during the wedding, the bride and groom were too caught up in chatting and didn’t pay any attention to the performances, leading to a disappointing outcome. It’s essential to contact people for performances well in advance＊ Also, it goes without saying, but it’s essential to express gratitude to those who performed with a heartfelt “thank you.”

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It’s Scary but You Should Know! Wedding Guests Disliked the Following⑥ The Venue Was Too Small

There was a wedding where the smallness of the banquet hall was so ridiculous for the number of guests it accommodated! The service staff trying to carry the food looked overwhelmed, and as expected, one guest ended up being drenched in beer from above…!! While financial considerations may be a factor, always try to select a venue that matches the number of guests as closely as possible＊ If you have many guests you’d like to invite, consider hosting a second party.♡

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It’s Scary but You Should Know! Wedding Guests Disliked the Following⑦ Hearing Complaints from the Bride

After the wedding, when meeting the bride later, a guest heard complaints like “There was someone who only gave 20,000 yen as a gift,” “Some didn’t compliment my looks,” “I asked for photos but only got the negatives without prints,” or “No one praised the handmade items.” This really put a damper on the mood. It’s absolutely unacceptable to air complaints about the wedding in front of guests who took the time to attend＊ Even though you may express gratitude to guests, be sure to avoid any negative remarks.

It’s Scary but You Should Know! Wedding Guests Disliked the Following⑧ The Prizes of the After-Party...

For a second party with an entry fee of 8,000 yen for men and 7,000 yen for women, there was a situation where the prizes for game competitions were just movie pair tickets. In another after-party, the prizes were said to be cheap snacks… With high entry fees, it would have been better to offer a more lavish selection of prizes to please the guests! Disney tickets and gourmet food items are popular as prizes♡

Absolutely Ensure Guests Have a Good Time!

How was it? These are very sad episodes, but they’re definitely useful as references＊ If you keep in mind that “Our happiness is thanks to everyone around us,” you will naturally be able to provide wonderful hospitality. Let’s aim for a wedding where the bride and groom, their families, and all the guests can be truly happy together! ♡