"For Those Who Don't Want a Wedding: 5 Reasons Why You Should Still Consider Having One"

2016.08.31 published

Is it really okay to have a wedding-less marriage...?

Recently, it's said that there are more and more couples opting for wedding-less marriages. Indeed, about half of the couples around me are choosing not to have a wedding. Interestingly, even couples who seem well-off and might not simply be saying "we don't have money," often only go for wedding photos without holding a reception, or choose not to take any photos at all, selecting a "no wedding" option instead.

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This trend might be influenced by the increasing average age of first marriages and the rise in marriages after unplanned pregnancies. Moreover, as people marry later, by the time they are ready to tie the knot, they've usually already attended several weddings of acquaintances and spent money on gifts, which might lead them to think, "Let’s just keep it simple this time...".

But! Couples who have had weddings all seem happy＊

However, couples who have had weddings all say in unison, "It was the best day ever!" Even with the rise of wedding-less couples, those who did have a wedding always shine with smiles and say things like, "The wedding was great! I want to do it again!"

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For those who think, "Even if they say that, I don't want to do it, it's embarrassing, and I think it's meaningless...", here are five reasons to consider still having a wedding＊

Reason 1 to have a wedding: It makes your family happy

The biggest reason to have a wedding is probably that it brings joy to your family, especially your parents! No matter if you are in your 30s or 40s, you will always be their important son or daughter. Showing up in a dress on the stage of a wedding and expressing your gratitude is truly a wonderful form of filial piety.

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Reason 2 to have a wedding: It gathers people who matter

As we age, opportunities to meet relatives, classmates, or old acquaintances decrease... and that can feel a bit lonely >< But precisely because of this, don’t you think it would be wonderful to gather the people who matter in your life at your wedding and reminisce about old times? Connections with others are truly important at any age.

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Reason 3 to have a wedding: It reduces the divorce rate

Did you know? There is data indicating that "couples who didn't have a wedding are more likely to get divorced within three years than those who did." The reason is that without a ceremony, there is less public acknowledgment, which can make it easier for minor misunderstandings or quarrels to lead to divorce.

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Of course, some may say, "I don't believe that data!" or "I'm fine; we won’t get divorced even without a wedding!" But still, a wedding can help reaffirm your love for each other and deepen the bond between families, contributing to a less divorce-prone environment!

Reason 4 to have a wedding: You understand each other's views on money

Preparing for a wedding comes with the significant challenge of managing finances within a limited budget. Everyone has different views on money, but overcoming this challenge together can cultivate trust, allowing you to start your married life with a clear understanding of each other’s financial perspectives!

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Reason 5 to have a wedding: It marks a milestone in life

The fifth reason why it's good to have a wedding is that it serves as a significant milestone in life! Especially, having a wedding can bring about a change in mindset that you are going to live a life together as a new family, which instills a sense of responsibility as husband and wife rather than just being boyfriend and girlfriend. Having a wedding can be seen as a declaration of intent, and that can be beautiful too＊

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How about considering having a wedding?

Still, there may be those who say, "I really don't want to have a wedding...". However, are your family, relatives, and even your partner's parents truly okay with the decision to pursue a wedding-less marriage??? Please consider having a wedding as a way to honor those who have helped you and as a significant life milestone. Couples who were initially against weddings often find that after the ceremony, they say, "I’m glad we did it! It was truly wonderful!" with delightful smiles...♡

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