Is This Also the Bride's Role?! 10 Strategies to Boost the Groom's Motivation for the Wedding

2018.01.15 published

It's a special wedding preparation, I want to enjoy it with him!

Preparing for a wedding is fun but also a lot of work >< Going to bridal fairs, deciding on gifts for guests, creating wedding items DIY, there’s a ton to do! Sometimes you even need to cut into your holidays to prepare!

@mimi.baby050

In the midst of all this, there are many men who are not enthusiastic about the wedding or its preparations. It's tough for women to handle all of it alone, especially when there's so much to do ><

A wedding is for both of you, so collaborating with him to enjoy the preparations is probably the wish of every bride-to-be＊

@nanamin.wedding

Raising his enthusiasm for the wedding is an important duty of the bride!♡

To make that wish come true, it's key for women to guide men skillfully ♡ If you understand a man's heart and learn to move him well, not only will the wedding preparations go smoothly, but married life will also be better ♩

Let's acquire methods to raise his motivation towards the wedding and become a wise bride！＊

@yuri08225249

By raising his enthusiasm for the wedding and collaborating together, the demanding wedding preparations can turn into fond memories, strengthening your bond ♡

For wise brides who want to know! Here are 10 ways to boost his feelings about the wedding ♩

@yuiwed

Method ① Make your boyfriend's friends and coworkers feel a little more welcomed

Many men place great importance on their male friendships, so they often have good feelings towards women who value their friends＊

Therefore, just making the treatment of your boyfriend's guests a little better can significantly increase his interest in the wedding ♡

@a.bride9

It doesn’t have to be anything extravagant; incorporating ideas like “upgrade the gifts for his friends” or “create moments to take pictures together” might make him excited to help with the wedding preparations ♩

@sr_wedding_1123

Method ② Seek help from parents

Men tend to prioritize their social status. It’s a bit sad, but there are times they might prioritize work over their girlfriend ><

Hence, they can’t help but respect those with more social standing, like your parents＊

So, let your parents talk to your boyfriend about the wedding ♩ Instead of scolding him with, “You need to cooperate with the wedding!”, they can simply say, “How’s the preparation for the wedding going?”

This will surely draw his attention back to the wedding＊

Method ③ Discuss at a café instead of at home

Are you discussing the wedding at home? In fact, this could be a reason the preparations with him aren’t progressing smoothly ><

That’s because many men tend to just want to relax and take it easy at home＊

@hro0808

So, it’s recommended to discuss at a café like Starbucks or Doutor! When you’re out, there are people around, and there are no distractions, which allows you to focus on the wedding planning ♩

As you seriously discuss, his feelings towards the wedding are likely to increase ♡

@a.bride9

Method ④ Play songs that evoke happy marriages

During a driving date or while relaxing at home, playing songs that evoke happy marriages can lift the mood ♩

This is an idea you might want to use when you want to subtly get him excited about the wedding＊

@chao.wedding

By skillfully using music that conjures wedding imagery like GeeeeN's “Kiseki” or Yuna Ito's “Precious”, you might be able to sway his feelings in a positive direction ♡

@nkt1022.m.t.ywd

Method ⑤ Convey that you rely on him

If a beloved girlfriend expresses that she relies on him, any man would surely want to do their best ♡ Being relied upon by women is a great joy for men and it boosts their motivation to pour their energy into the wedding preparations ♩

Convey your reliance through words and actions＊

Method ⑥ Ask specifically

When you need his cooperation, it's important to convey your request clearly with specific words ♩ Unlike women, many men have a vague image of the wedding, so they often don’t know what to do as soon-to-be-grooms＊

Furthermore, men tend to be more motivated by tasks that have clear goals ♡ So instead of expecting him to “get the hint,” make sure to express it in words＊

@shiho4_1wedding

For example, try asking him, “I want to go to a bridal fair, can you help me search for venues together?” or “I'm struggling to decide on the song for the wedding; it would help if you could think of some good options!”

@marica_wedding

Method ⑦ After asking, try to leave him alone as much as possible

Once you’ve conveyed your gratitude and clearly stated what needs to be done, the key is to leave him alone as much as possible!

Women often tend to give unsolicited advice, but for men, that can come off as “not being trusted” ><

Respect his way of doing things and let him handle it as much as you can ♡

Once he can manage the wedding preparations in his own space, there's no doubt that he will start to look forward to the wedding more ♡ He might even start doing DIY projects on his own!?

@wedding69karin

Method ⑧ Express gratitude

To enjoy preparing for the wedding together, expressing gratitude is fundamental ♩

Even if it seems like something that should be taken for granted, saying “thank you” lets him see value in his actions and makes him happy ♡

It’s important to express “thanks” for any little thing＊

Method ⑨ Praise, praise, praise

Even if you ultimately decide together, and even if you initially thought it was a good idea, praising it as if it were entirely his achievement boosts his motivation towards the wedding ♩

If he feels that by actively helping out with the preparations he will be praised again, he will want to contribute more actively ♡

One of the easiest moments to praise during wedding preparations is at the “suit fitting”! Since this is a look you don’t see often, it's the perfect moment to shower him with compliments ♡

If he hears from his beloved girlfriend how handsome he looks, his excitement for the wedding will surely soar ♩

@aya_marry

Method ⑩ Reward with saved money

Men tend to think practically, and many prefer to spend money on practical items rather than experiences＊

If you successfully save money during the wedding preparations or negotiations, consider promising to buy him something with the saved money ♩

Having a reward can motivate him to engage seriously, and he will likely take the initiative in negotiations that women might find difficult, like securing discounts ♩

@aya_marry

Simple methods will surely elevate his feelings♡

Complimenting him whenever he does something for you or expressing gratitude can all be done casually during preparations＊

Just by being a little more mindful, a bride can elevate her partner's interest in the wedding, allowing for a joyful and enjoyable wedding preparation experience ♡

The preparations for the ceremony are the first step towards a long marriage! Let’s work together in harmony on the wedding preparations to deepen your bond ♩

@miyu.w.d