"Must-See: A Compilation of Mini Gifts That Many Guests Find Disappointing"

2021.04.07 published

What Are the Petit Gifts That Guests Do Not Want to Receive?

Petit gifts given to guests who come to the wedding as a token of appreciation are the only present that can be handed out to all guests.♡ It’s important to give something that guests will be happy to receive, along with your feelings of "thank you"◎

Gifts that everyone, regardless of age or gender, would be happy with can be surprisingly difficult to choose, but there may be many petit gifts that people commonly feel "I didn’t want this."＊

This time, we will introduce the petit gifts that guests felt "didn’t make them happy." Of course, there may be some people who are happy to receive them, so please take this as a reference.♡

@haruno45

For Reference: Many People Wouldn't Be Happy to Receive Petit Gift ① Items with Limited Use, like Ear Picks

An example of a petit gift that many guests felt "didn’t make them happy" was an ear pick.＊ Are you an ear pick user or a cotton swab user? People have different ear types; some are wet (a little moist) while others are dry, so some people use ear picks while others use cotton swabs.＊

Therefore, those who usually use cotton swabs wouldn't use an ear pick, and conversely, those who use ear picks already own them and don’t need multiple! It might be best to avoid items that are divisive in terms of usage, not just ear picks.＊

(In fact, the act of using an ear pick is considered harmful by the medical community.)

For Reference: Many People Wouldn't Be Happy to Receive Petit Gift ② Items like Spoons That Are Better in Sets

Next up, the item "spoon" was mentioned as another petit gift that guests wouldn't be happy to receive.＊ Petit gifts typically consist of one or two spoons. Though spoons have a lovely meaning of "sharing happiness," many feel that they prefer to receive them in sets, so receiving just one or two can feel inconvenient.

While these beautiful "happy sharing" spoons have a good intention, surprisingly, not a few people end up not using them. Please consider the age demographics of your guests when giving them out!♡

@haruno45

For Reference: Many People Wouldn't Be Happy to Receive Petit Gift ③ Sweets with Large Photos of the Couple

Recently, it has become a trend to include sweets with the couple's photos for petit gifts.♡ However, many people have expressed feelings like "I can’t throw it away because it feels wasteful!"＊ While some feel happy, there were brides who felt uncomfortable thinking they were putting their guests in a bind!

If you're concerned about such opinions, consider arranging the image so that the couple's faces aren’t on the torn part or use back views or feet shots in the design. This is recommended!◎

For Reference: Many People Wouldn't Be Happy to Receive Petit Gift ④ Sexual Items Like Condoms

This might surprise many brides, but there was an instance where condoms were given as petit gifts at a wedding after-party! Especially with the couple’s face on them.

While this may have been intended to create a party atmosphere among friends (and it may have succeeded), some friends might not think positively of it. For instance, the bride's friends might even feel put off. Since some attendees may be undergoing fertility treatment, consider very carefully before giving out condoms or other sexual items. If it’s an idea from the groom, ensure to have a thorough discussion to ensure it is something that all guests would appreciate!◎

@haruno45

For Reference: Many People Wouldn't Be Happy to Receive Petit Gift ⑤ Difficult-to-Use Items like Keychains

Small keychains or charms are sometimes given as petit gifts at weddings, but many guests reportedly don’t feel happy about these. In the past, it was common to attach straps to mobile phones, and there was a time when keychains were attached to everything, from car keys to house keys and bags.

However, in this day and age, isn’t it true that only a minority of people attach straps to their mobile phones? There may even be those who don’t carry keys for their homes or cars! Given this situation, many people feel that receiving a strap is pointless because they don’t have a place to put it.

If you would like to give a strap or keychain, think about "where would they attach it?" and choose a design that won’t cause inconvenience to guests.＊

@haruno45

For Reference: Many People Wouldn't Be Happy to Receive Petit Gift ⑥ Items Like Bottle Openers That Are Not Often Used

"Bottle openers" were another item that many found to be troubling as petit gifts. A bottle opener is usually sufficient for each household, and many might not drink bottled beer or juice at home.

Given this, the likelihood of the bottle opener being used is low. While it might not be an eyesore and could be left in the kitchen, it may end up being something that is completely unused. It might be wise to avoid items that are sufficient with one per household or those that are infrequently used!◎

@nagisa_marry

For Reference: Many People Wouldn't Be Happy to Receive Petit Gift ⑦ Homemade Items Like Cookies

There were also opinions that "homemade items" like cookies or muffins don't make guests happy. Handcrafted goods, such as cookies or muffins, tend to provoke polarized reactions—some are thrilled while others are not.

Many of those who aren’t pleased express concerns like "I don’t know what’s in it" or "I find it hard to accept food made by others due to hygiene issues." When giving homemade gifts, it might be better to restrict them to closer relationships, like family-style gatherings!◎

It’s Difficult to Choose Gifts That Everyone Will Love, But You Want to Avoid Gifts That Many Won’t Appreciate!

How did you find the petit gifts that guests felt "didn't make them happy"? While what is a delightful petit gift can differ from person to person, it’s essential to avoid gifts that many feel are "not happy to receive."

Even if many don’t feel happy, some guests might feel very pleased! Think of all your guests while selecting your petit gifts.♡

＼For Reference／Heavy items or those with names… Four types of wedding favors that many guests feel "wouldn’t be happy to receive."