When Good Intentions Go Awry... What Did the Bride Regret 'Because of Her Obsessions' at the Wedding?

What sad things happened because of being too particular about the wedding?

A wedding with my beloved partner ♡ A wedding serves as an occasion for the couple to announce their marriage to their guests, but nowadays, many brides emphasize "expressing gratitude to the guests." ◎

However, a wedding is a once-in-a-lifetime event. It's natural to want to be the stars of the day and celebrate in a joyous manner. Brides are gathering information and engaged in DIY projects to create a cuter, more beautiful, and wonderful wedding!＊

But in reality, there are brides who regretted or felt sad because they were too particular about their wedding... In this article, we will introduce actual stories of brides who experienced "sad events that happened because of being too particular."

Sad Event 1 Due to Being Too Particular About the Wedding: Guests Didn't Take Home the Paper Items

First, let me introduce a bride who was extremely particular about paper items＊ Despite being not very good with computers, she handmade a profile book consisting of nearly 20 pages＊

She also paid attention to place cards and menu lists, and on Instagram, many other brides commented, "That's amazing!", "I’d be so happy to receive this!", and "It seems like a treasure!" ♡

However, on the wedding day, some of the groom's colleagues and friends who got drunk did not take the profile book home. Some forgot them, and some even requested staff to return them to the couple as a keepsake because they felt it was too wasteful. After the wedding, about 20 profile books returned to the couple from the planner.

After spending a lot of time creating the profile book to make the guests happy, it must feel quite unrewarding to have them returned. It's really sad to think, "I worked so hard on it."

While paper items like profile books are important, some guests might see them as 'disposables'. The more effort you put into your wedding items, the more emotional attachment it creates, making it sad if they are discarded. If you are going to DIY with dedication, keeping in mind that "it's for my own satisfaction" can help relieve some emotional burden and create a more relaxed mindset for the preparation.♡

Sad Event 2 Due to Being Too Particular About the Wedding: Failed to Capture Good Photos

A bride who was very particular about her appearance, including her wedding dress, hair accessories, dieting, and beauty＊ She was able to welcome her wedding day in her best condition in her life♡ She even gave the photographer a directive sheet and carefully prepared everything.◎

Thanks to her efforts, the wedding day was filled with joy and happiness♡ But after the wedding, when she looked at the photos taken by the photographer…

She found that many of the photos were taken from angles different from what she indicated, some standard shots were missing, many had her eyes closed, and the train didn't show beautifully, resulting in very few good photos.

This bride had prepared herself to look her best for the wedding day, and it's really sad when there aren't enough good photos to reflect that effort.

Nevertheless, the wonderful and happy moments of the wedding day remain unchanged. While those memories might not be recorded perfectly, they are likely etched in the memories of the guests and the couple♡ It's okay if the photos didn't turn out as ideal! Try to maintain a generous mindset about it.＊

Sad Event 3 Due to Being Too Particular About the Wedding: Over-Dieting Affected Health

Here’s another story about a bride who was conscious of her appearance for the wedding＊ She was originally quite slender but had high beauty standards, setting goals to become even thinner and worked on her diet daily, aiming for a weight lower than that of a model.

Those who have ever dieted know that there are ups and downs. Losing weight is rewarding, but if you don't, it becomes very stressful, making it hard to diet successfully. With the fatigue of preparing for the wedding and dieting simultaneously, she ended up arguing with her partner or even got comments like, "You look a bit gaunt. Are you okay?"

Despite that, on the day of the wedding, she achieved her ideal body shape, but many guests expressed concern, asking, "Have you lost more weight?" Moreover, upon viewing the finished photos, she realized her spine and collarbones were too prominent, showing that her appearance wasn't 'beautiful' at all...

Everyone wants to look beautiful on their wedding day, but it's best to avoid extreme dieting. While the bride is concerned about her appearance, the guests are more interested in seeing a happy smile rather than just a pretty facade. If you plan to diet, do so healthily and within a range that feels comfortable for you.◎

Sad Event 4 Due to Being Too Particular About the Wedding: Excessive Decorations Were Cumbersome

For the wedding, a bride created decorations for the welcome space, guest tables, main table, and photo booth＊ There were so many wonderfully crafted items, but…

She gathered many items that she thought were "cute!" Since there was time before the wedding, she bought various things and did DIY projects, thinking, "This might be useful for the wedding!"

However, when she actually brought them to the wedding venue, the items had no cohesiveness, and placing them in the welcome space created a mismatched atmosphere. Additionally, the luxurious wedding venue looked cheap with the handmade decorations…

Eventually, the bride arranged the items in the welcome space to make them look good. It must be disappointing to find that the DIY items she thought were nice didn't blend well with the wedding venue. Moreover, she faced difficulties regarding the storage and disposal of those handmade decorative items afterward.

DIYing decorations and filling the welcome space with little items is trending, but is it really necessary? Surprisingly, it can involve more time and money than anticipated, and the sense of fit with the wedding venue can vary, so it’s wise to think carefully before proceeding with DIY.◎

I Want a Wedding That Reflects My Particular Style, but Being Too Particular Might Have Its Downsides

Every bride-to-be wants to have a "wonderful wedding," but there are also sad events that occurred due to being too particular about the details.

Having particularity can be good, but it often leads to stronger emotional attachment, so any little mishap can result in feeling sad. The important thing for a wonderful wedding is not “how to be seen” but “how to convey gratitude.” Regardless of anything else, the presence of your beloved partner, family, and guests makes for the best day possible! ♡ So, don't be overly particular, and prepare with a relaxed mindset. ◎