Insights from Active Planners: What Kind of Bride is Considered "A Little Troubling"?

Recently, Instagram and bridal gatherings have become really popular ♡

Right now, Instagram and bridal gatherings are trending, aren't they? * Whether it's the same venue or the same date. It’s so much fun to gather with people who have similar tastes, talk about wedding preparations, hear about the experiences of past brides, or watch videos together at bridal gatherings and on Instagram ♡

As we grow older, it’s not easy to make new friends, but it's truly wonderful to bond with friends who share similar concerns and have the same goal of wanting to create a "wonderful wedding" *

What is a "slightly troubled bride"? Insights from active planners

While Instagram and bridal gatherings are very enjoyable and informative, some wedding planners have mentioned that they feel troubled by brides who frequently point out various things they see on social media.

This time, we'll introduce some insights from active planners regarding "slightly troubled brides" that arise from the existence of social media and bridal gatherings. Remember that while there are many enjoyable aspects to Instagram and bridal gatherings, there are also some who face difficulties! Build a good relationship with your planner and wedding venue staff ♡

According to active planners＊ "slightly troubled bride" ① Wants to lower the cost!

Many wedding venues offer discounts at the time of contract signing, right? * For example, the wedding cake might become free, the ceremony fee could be halved, or there might be no charge for bringing in items.

Wedding venue prices should not be viewed uniformly!

The discounts provided by wedding venues can vary widely. While some may change based on negotiation, many cases depend on factors like "date," "season," or "time," which can either allow for discounts or make them difficult to apply. *

For instance, which bride do you think would receive a higher discount: a bride getting married on a popular Saturday afternoon in October or a bride holding her wedding on a weekday evening during the winter in a less favorable time?

The answer is straightforward; the bride in the "weekday evening during the winter in a less favorable time" would likely receive a discount.

A wedding is customized depending on the couple and involves timing and content. No two weddings are identical, which is why prices cannot be uniformly calculated. Thus, wedding venues make suggestions tailored to each couple, considering the date, season, and time to help couples enjoy their weddings with less stress and more happiness. ◎

Voices from brides who attended bridal gatherings: "They gave XX-chan a discount."

The cost of a wedding is customized according to the preferences of the couple. While planners aim to propose the best options for each couple, recently, some brides who attended bridal gatherings mentioned, "XX-chan got a discount," and expressed their desire for "more discounts" in comparison to others.

I completely understand the feelings of the bride who thinks, "If they did it for XX-chan, why not me?" But let’s think about it for a moment: Are you and XX-chan having your wedding at the same venue, on the same date, at the same time, with the same number of guests, and under the same contract conditions…?

If by any chance, everything is exactly the same, then asking for a discount may seem reasonable, but it’s practically impossible to have the same wedding at the same venue on the same day and time.

Planners may have the discretion to offer some discounts or allow certain items based on various situations involving their own venue and partners.

When a bride at a bridal gathering tells others, "I got this done for me!" it turns the planner's discretion into a strict rule rather than a flexible option.

Many former brides publicly share on Instagram something like, "I saw that XX-chan got it, so please do it for me too!" presenting this as a 'savings method' or 'negotiation technique.'

No two weddings are identical, so not everyone can receive the same treatment.

It is extremely unfair for planners, who consider various factors and take actions they believe will be beneficial, to be expected to provide the same solutions to other brides under completely different circumstances.

While bridal gatherings and Instagram are convenient tools for brides, it seems they can't always be viewed positively by planners.

Ultimately, a wedding is a product with a standard price. Discounts are not the norm and depend on individual cases, so it might be better to consider any discounts as a lucky break.

Planners truly want to see the couple happy. Let's keep this in mind and avoid making unreasonable demands for discounts. ◎

According to active planners＊ "slightly troubled bride" ② Too detailed instructions on decorations!

The next "slightly troubled bride" we're going to introduce is someone who is incredibly good at gathering information. * For example, she has focused a lot on the placement of the welcome space and decorations on guest tables.

However, on the day of the wedding, many unexpected things can occur. For example, congratulations telegrams may arrive for the couple, guests might shift furniture around, or tables may be moved to accommodate guest movement.

While planners will do their best on the day to stick to the instructions, there are of course situations where things cannot go exactly as planned.

For instance, the fluffiness of tulle may look cute from different angles to different people.

On the wedding day, since the bride and groom may not directly see the welcome space or the guest tables, they might later look back at photos and think, "This doesn't match what I ordered!"

I completely understand the desire to have the welcome space beautifully and perfectly adorned. However, amidst the busy day of the wedding, let’s appreciate the decorations prepared by the planner. Guests typically don’t notice the slight differences in placement. * Even if things vary a little from the instructions, it’s nice to carry a feeling of gratitude rather than frustration toward the planner who decorated for you ♡

According to active planners＊ "slightly troubled bride" ③ Overly detailed shooting instructions!

The next "slightly troubled bride" we will introduce has concerns about "too many shooting instructions." The day of the wedding is a race against time! With limited time, we want to capture wonderful shots from great angles. *

From makeup scenes to the ceremony, flower showers, receptions, and after-parties, she prepared shooting instructions with a whopping 100 shots to capture!

I completely understand the desire to have many wonderful photos from the wedding, but being a wedding photographer is quite challenging. Managing the wedding proceedings while considering guests and capturing beautiful photos is no easy task.

It was mentioned that some instructions included angles that were impossible to shoot in the chapel where the bride was getting married. Especially during the ceremony, the space to move is limited, which makes it very challenging…

Moreover, if you focus too hard on getting every single shot perfect according to the instructions, you might miss out on capturing those spontaneous, beautiful moments of the day. While providing instructions is a good idea, it may be wise to select only the truly must-have shots and leave the rest to the professional photographer. ♡

Planners truly wish for your happiness ♡

How did you find the insights about "slightly troubled brides" shared by active planners? In an era where we can access so much information through bridal gatherings and Instagram, it’s natural to share various stories with friends and to have strong preferences.

However, it seems that active planners also encounter some challenges…

What is common among planners nationwide is their wish for their assigned brides to become happy! ♡ If you can express gratitude and consider the hard work of the planners who strive every day, you will build an even better relationship and create a more wonderful wedding experience together. *

Since we created this wedding together…♡ Here are 6 ways to express gratitude to the planners who helped us♡