"Should Wedding Invitations Be Mailed or Handed Out? Etiquette and Tips for Conveying Your Feelings to Guests"

Should Wedding Invitations Be Delivered by Hand or Mailed?

Do you know how to deliver wedding invitations to guests? The basic method for wedding invitations is "hand delivery." However, of course, there are many people who cannot be delivered to by hand...!

This time, we will introduce the manners and points regarding the [method] of delivering wedding invitations.*

Manners and Points for Wedding Invitations ① The Basics of Invitations is "Hand Delivery"

The basic method for delivering wedding invitations is "hand delivery." Weddings invite guests, and for those who have been kind enough to come despite the cost and time, you want to express as much gratitude as possible. When handing over the invitation, make eye contact and say "Please come."*

Of course, if you are going to hand deliver, it's good manners to inform the guest in advance about the date and time of the wedding and that you would like to deliver the invitation.*

Hand delivering allows for a face-to-face conversation, helping your feelings to come across, and it also saves on postage costs, making it a win-win situation! ♩

Manners and Points for Wedding Invitations ② Cautions When Hand Delivering

There are three things to keep in mind when hand delivering invitations, so let’s introduce them.♡

Caution ① Do not write the address ⇒ When handing over an invitation, do not write the address. Simply write the name in the center of the envelope and hand it over.* If you hand it over with the address written, it may lead one to think, "Did you originally intend to mail it?"

Caution ② Do not seal it ⇒ When handing over invitations, do not seal the envelope.* If it is unsealed, the recipient can look inside immediately, saving them the trouble. If you're concerned about the contents floating around too much inside the envelope, consider using a small sticker to secure it.*

Caution ③ Affix a stamp to the reply postcard ⇒ One often forgets to place a stamp on the reply postcard. Some might fill it out and hand it back to you right away, but to avoid any rudeness, ensure that you attach a stamp regardless, as they may choose to mail it back later.*

Manners and Points for Wedding Invitations ③ When to Mail Invitations?

The basic method for wedding invitations is "hand delivery," but there are many cases when hand delivery is not possible, such as if guests are far away or cannot make it for some reason.

In such cases, it is best to mail the invitations.* When mailing, it is also good manners to inform your guests in advance about the date and time of the wedding before sending the invitation.*

Manners and Points for Wedding Invitations ④ Cautions When Mailing

There are two main points to keep in mind when mailing invitations.♡

Caution ① Check the postage rates ⇒ The cost of postage for wedding invitations varies depending on the weight of the contents, such as 82 yen, 92 yen, etc. Be careful to avoid situations like, "I put on an 82 yen stamp, but it actually costs 92 yen!"*

Caution ② Use an auspicious date for the postmark ⇒ The postmark is stamped when the post office receives the mail, and it has a date on it. It's preferable to use dates considered auspicious, like "Daian" or "Tomoibiki." Since postal items can get dirty or may not be collected until the next day if dropped in a post box, it’s better to take them to the post office directly.*

Besides Daian and Tomoibiki, there are other dates considered good luck, so sending it on one of those days may be even better! ♡

＼Let’s Make It the Happiest Day in the World／ Did you know there are good dates for weddings and registrations other than {Daian}?

Manners and Points for Wedding Invitations ⑤ Things to Do When Mailing Invitations

When mailing invitations, you may also want to pay attention to stamps and postmarks.* Be sure to refer to the following when you mail invitations.♡

Original Stamps ⇒ You can create your own original stamps at the post office.* It’s popular to include pre-wedding photos or a wedding logo! ♡

⇒ Create your own unique stamps here.*

@maco__95

Bulk Rate Mail ⇒ When mailing more than 10 items, you can send them without stamps by marking them at the post office.* Many brides seem to like DIYing their favorite mark! ♡

⇒ More about bulk rate mail can be found here.*

@ryui0402

Scenic Stamps ⇒ Special postmarks that can be obtained at places like Disneyland or tourist spots.* You can either deliver them directly or send them to a post office (Yuurai) to get the marks.*

⇒ More about scenic stamps here.*

Let’s Keep the Manners and Rules for Invitations So Guests Can Look Forward to the Wedding!

How was this information on the manners and rules for hand delivering and mailing wedding invitations? Wedding invitations are the first hospitality towards guests.* Be sure to hand over a wonderful invitation while adhering to the manners and rules! ♡

@m__wdding