"Lessons Learned: 8 Insights from Brides on Instagram's '#WeddingRegrets' Tag That Are Educational Just to Observe!"

A Wedding Without Regrets is Difficult

A wedding is a once-in-a-lifetime event. It takes months of preparation for just a few hours, and personally, it comes with a budget that is far beyond what one usually considers.

That’s why people put in a lot of effort. In terms of fulfilling a dream that has been held since childhood, in terms of the significant amount of money spent, and to recognize one’s own considerable achievements during the long preparation period, a wedding must be a great success to feel satisfied...!

Every bride-to-be likely feels this way.

However, weddings are accompanied by failures and troubles. No matter how much you simulate the day, it only happens once. You never know what will happen, and it’s common for guests who are supposed to attend to cancel on the day or the day before...

Former Brides, Please Share Your “Wedding Regrets.”

It's certainly better to have fewer troubles, but for those incidents that are unavoidable, one can only think, “That’s part of my wedding too! Let’s make memories out of it.”

Yet, there are definitely troubles that can be avoided with proper checks and sharing information with the staff.

As the saying goes, "Learn from those who came before you," it's best to refer to the voices of those with experience.

On Instagram, under the tag “#WeddingRegrets,” several posts are shared by former brides about what they regretted from their weddings.

If even a little of their experiences can serve as references for brides-to-be... let’s try to communicate any potential avoidable issues to your planner based on those regretful posts.

Here are some common regrets shared by former brides on Instagram.

Learning from Former Brides on Instagram: “#WeddingRegrets” ① Few Photos of the Bride and Groom Together!

On the wedding day, things can be very hectic. You also have to entertain your guests. Therefore, there’s no time to take pictures at a leisurely pace. That’s why services like post- or pre-wedding shoots exist.

A common regret is that there are few photos of the bride and groom together...! After the toast, the bride often leaves for a while, and during their re-entry, there are videos or performances, and the groom is busy taking pictures with friends at the head table or doing rounds at the tables...

With so little time to be alone together, it may be crucial to communicate the request to “Please take plenty of pictures of us together when you can!”

Learning from Former Brides on Instagram: “#WeddingRegrets” ② The Decorations are a Bit Sparse...?

One former bride mentioned her only regret was that "the welcome space was wider than she expected!"

Although she prepared various items to set on the welcome space table, it ended up looking a bit sparse as she simply placed them on the expanded table.

While it looks cute as it is, she thought later, "I should have put some tulle down...!"

It’s a blind spot to not check the table size because what you might think is plenty of items may end up being insufficient or, conversely, too much to fit on the table.

Learning from Former Brides on Instagram: “#WeddingRegrets” ③ Hair Set is Loose!

One former bride shared that her favorite hair set was already falling apart by the time it was presented to the guests.

She had iteratively discussed and perfected a carefully styled onion hairdo.

It was perfect during preparations, and she even confirmed that it was okay, but perhaps because the twists and pins were loose, it was already coming apart when she moved to re-enter, straying from her ideal…

Brides are quite busy. They walk, bend, and move around a lot, so they want a hair set that can withstand that activity without falling apart.

Learning from Former Brides on Instagram: “#WeddingRegrets” ④ The Skirt was Too High!

Wedding dresses use much more fabric than regular clothes, making them very luxurious, but also more challenging to walk in... While it’s cute to hike up the skirt a little for ease of walking, hiking it too much can inadvertently reveal your petticoat or wires, so caution is needed.

One former bride regretted that during the flower shower, she hiked her skirt up just a bit too much, making her wedding shoes visible at all moments.

If it's a cute, show-off wedding shoe, it might be fine, but in other cases, like wanting to keep it hidden, it’s important to pay attention to making sure the dress looks beautiful in photos throughout the ceremony and reception.*

Learning from Former Brides on Instagram: “#WeddingRegrets” ⑤ Photos Taken are Dark

There is a trend of handing out Polaroid cameras to child guests, creating “child photographers” at weddings. However, one former bride pointed out the cautionary note during this time.

The photos taken by child photographers were all dark because flash wasn’t used, and when developed, they all turned out poorly...! She wished she had left a note saying, "Please use flash while taking pictures..."

Since you want to preserve the unique perspective of those precious photos taken by children beautifully, showing appreciation to the kids who tried their best by saying, "Thank you for taking such beautiful pictures!" would be wonderful. It might also be helpful for adults to provide explanations or instructions.

Learning from Former Brides on Instagram: “#WeddingRegrets” ⑥ Placement of Accessories

One former bride was saddened that after putting in a lot of effort into creating her happy objects, they didn’t get displayed as she had envisioned.

Although she requested they be placed near the head table, they ended up being somewhere near the entrance.

She felt somewhat disheartened, thinking, “This just looks like an original part of the decor.”

It might be wise to be insistent about instructions for placing your personal items.

Learning from Former Brides on Instagram: “#WeddingRegrets” ⑦ Mistakes by the Other Party

One former bride shared that the cake topper on the wedding cake was improperly secured and was wobbly from the start, eventually falling over before it was placed on the table...!!

It was quite heavy and unstable yet very cute, a favorite topper of hers. However, it was not fixed well and was simply stuck into the fluffy sponge, resulting in her feeling so shocked that she thought, “I never want to see the wedding cake photos again!”

Thank you for sharing such unbelievable events that can happen...><

Learning from Former Brides on Instagram: “#WeddingRegrets” ⑧ Photos with the Planner

When reflecting on one’s wedding, many brides think not only of their beloved groom, family, and friends but also of the planner and venue staff who supported them through many months of planning.

Some kind brides want to capture the memories in a group photo with everyone involved in the wedding to cherish the moments with the planner who was attentive and worked hard toward realizing their dreams.

One former bride regretted not being able to take a photo with her planner on the wedding day, so she went back later to take a picture with everyone.

Being able to have memorable photos in your dress with the staff who supported your special day would be wonderful. Those who are close with their planner might consider adding this to their instructions.♡

Aiming for a Wedding With as Few Regrets as Possible...!!

We introduced eight "wedding regrets" shared by former brides on Instagram.

While some troubles are unavoidable, being prepared for various possibilities during the planning period can help you avoid issues on the day.

By effectively sharing information and conveying your needs to the venue, you can sidestep potential troubles, and for those that do occur, it would be great to be a lovely bride who can embrace them and enjoy a wonderful wedding day.

A wedding is a once-in-a-lifetime event. While anything can happen, I wish for it to be a day filled with utmost happiness!♡