Tears Overflowing: The Peace of Mind in Requesting a 'Proxy for the Bride's Letter' in Case of an Emergency*

2017.01.26 published

What if I cry too much and can't read the "Bride's Letter"...!

The climax of the wedding reception. The "Bride's Letter," where the bride expresses her gratitude to her parents. These days, there are more brides who choose not to read this letter, but such occasions are rare for conveying gratitude to parents.

Among brides who are concerned about the letter, some may have the fear of "What if I cry too much and can't read it..."

Additionally, even brides who decide to read the letter may wonder what to do if they end up crying during it.

Let's think of measures for the worst-case scenario where you might cry and can't read the bride's letter!

For such brides, it's reassuring to come up with a plan in case you are unable to read. Having the mindset that "It's okay if I cry" will allow you to approach the letter with relaxation. So, how can you prepare in advance? Let's take a look! ♩

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What should you do if you cry and can't read the bride's letter? ① Ask the host to read it on your behalf

To avoid getting too emotional and unable to read the bride's letter, it's a good idea to ask the host to help in advance.

As a professional, the host will be ready to step in immediately if the bride starts to cry.

If you ask the host to read the letter, you need to give them a copy of the letter since the podium and the couple are usually far apart. You might think, "It's embarrassing to give a copy of the letter!" but don’t worry, they’ll have to read it anyway. Besides, the host is used to reading bride’s letters.

Depending on the venue and the host, they might already handle this without you asking, but it’s still reassuring to discuss it ahead of time.

What should you do if you cry and can't read the bride's letter? ② Ask the groom to read it on your behalf

Next, let’s introduce the method of having the groom read the letter on your behalf. The groom might actually know the bride's feelings towards her parents better than anyone else.

Be sure to tell the groom in advance, "If I cry and can’t read it, please take over."

One downside is that the groom might get nervous thinking, "What if I have to read it?" and may not be able to concentrate on the emotional letter from the bride.

Additionally, if you switch mid-way through the reading, it could be unclear where to pick up from, so the bride needs to follow the letter closely while reading.

What should you do if you cry and can't read the bride's letter? ③ Let the host support you and simply pass it to them

Finally, the last method is to give up when you can no longer read and pass the letter directly to your parents without finishing it.

If you cry and can't read it, you can have the host say something like, "It seems that the bride's feelings for her parents have overflowed too much. Let’s wrap up the expressions of gratitude for today and continue expressing them slowly moving forward. I’ll pass the letter directly to the parents."

This method allows you to skip having someone read it on your behalf, which is recommended for brides who feel embarrassed to have others read their letter. Be sure to discuss in advance with the host about how they will communicate this.

It's okay to cry! Let’s convey your gratitude to your parents with all your heart!

When reading the letter to your parents, it's perfectly fine to cry. There are times when your feelings of gratitude overflow or when you might be unable to express everything you want to say.

However, the most important thing is the feeling of gratitude towards your parents themselves. Although you may worry about crying too much to read, if you've prepared in advance, you should be able to approach the letter without any worries.

Even if you think, "I’m definitely going to be fine," you never know what might happen on the wedding day. It’s good to consider what to do in case you can't read the letter, so make sure to prepare in advance.

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