"Confessions of Mistakes: Important Troubles to Know About 'Attendants and Helpers' Before You Regret"

The Importance of "Attendant" at Weddings!

On the day of the wedding, the one taking care of the bride in her wedding dress is not the planner with whom she has been meeting for a long time, but the "attendant" or "aide."

The attendant takes care of everything around the bride. For instance, if her hairstyle gets messy, they will fix it before snapping a photo. Since walking in a dress can be difficult, they help carry the petticoat and adjust the train during the ceremony…

The reason the bride can spend the entire day smiling is because of the attendant. Trusting the attendant is the key to a successful wedding.

The Work and Skill of Attendants Varies by Person!

While attendants help the bride, their work and skill levels differ. Most wedding venues have a rough idea of "what the attendant's duties are," but unexpected situations can occur during weddings.

Even without any mishaps, each bride and groom is unique. Therefore, attendants are required to respond flexibly according to the couple's needs.

Since all attendants are professionals, it's generally best to leave things to them with peace of mind… However, there can be instances where the attendant does not operate as expected, causing the bride to have regrets.

Thus, it is important to properly communicate your wishes and preferences to the attendant in advance. So, what complaints have previous brides had? Let me introduce them!

Wedding Day Mishap with Attendant #1: Didn't Fix Hair

First, let’s talk about a bride whose hair was messy, but the attendant did not fix it.

During the wedding, there are not many opportunities to check a mirror, so you might not notice if your hair is messy right away. A common issue is that bangs can split. If the bangs are split, it can really diminish the feel of beautifully styled hair.

Bangs splitting is something attendants might not notice easily. Many people don’t mind if their bangs are slightly parted, and sometimes they just leave it as is if it’s not completely split.

Additionally, flyaways can be bothersome. While some might not mind, there are definitely brides who care.

Brides who want perfect bangs or cannot tolerate flyaways should express these points clearly to the attendant. Since it’s hard to notice on the day, many brides end up regretting after looking at the photos later.

Only you know "what you want." Make sure to communicate your concerns about your bangs splitting or flyaways to the attendant.

Wedding Day Mishap with Attendant #2: Over-Fixing Hair

Next, we have the opposite issue where the attendant fixes the bride's hair too much.

While on the surface, this may seem like a "good thing," when the attendant is busy fixing the bride's hair, it prevents photos from being taken. Adjust hair after every single photo… If this continues, the limited time for the wedding will be gradually taken up by hair adjustments.

Avoiding situations where you miss the photos you wanted or the wedding gets delayed because of hair adjustments is crucial.

Sometimes there are attendants who fix hair excessively, so if you feel like "there's no need to fix it that much," clearly express "You don't need to worry about it that much."

Wedding Day Mishap with Attendant #3: Not Being Nearby

The next issue is when the aide is not nearby to the bride. The aide's job is to help with everything around the bride, but they may also need to communicate with the planner, MC, or the banquet captain to ensure the ceremony runs smoothly.

During mingling or specific performances, the attendant might not be asked for assistance and be positioned a bit further away. However, it can be inconvenient if you want to speak to them and can’t find them.

If you ever feel during the ceremony that "the attendant is not nearby," it's a good idea to request that they stay close or remain in a clearly designated spot. For example, when you need to ask about the upcoming proceedings or if you suddenly feel unwell, not having the attendant present can be quite an issue.

Wedding Day Mishap with Attendant #4: Over-Correcting (or Not Correcting Enough) the Train

Finally, here’s a story about the attendant concerning the train during the ceremony. During the ceremony, the bride bends over to lift the veil, exchanges rings with the groom, or faces the officiant.

So, the train moves each time. While we might think that the attendant will fluff the train to make it look beautiful…

Some venues have rules that prevent attendants from stepping onto the sacred aisle during the ceremony, which means they can't adjust the train.

Since guests are all watching the bride and groom, an aide adjusting the train can stand out and can be captured in video and photos, prompting some venues to avoid this.

Conversely, there are brides who felt their attendants over-adjusted the train. The aide would frequently adjust it to keep it looking beautiful, but it seemed that the frequency was so high that in most photos, the aide was also captured.

How the attendant will handle the train during the ceremony is unknown until the day itself. However, brides who prioritize the train when choosing their wedding dress should definitely inform the attendant: "I chose this dress because I love the train, so please ensure it looks beautiful."

If you mention this in advance, even if the venue has rules that the aide cannot go on the aisle, they should be able to respond flexibly.

Build a Good Trust Relationship with Your Attendant for a Wonderful Wedding

The mishaps experienced by previous brides with their attendants are unfortunately quite common.

However, if you can build a good relationship with your attendant, your wedding will definitely be a wonderful and satisfying event. Although you often can't meet with your aide beforehand, it's recommended to relay your hopes to the planner in advance or make requests on the morning of the wedding when greeting them.

Build a good relationship with your attendant and have a wedding without regrets!