Beware of Wedding High: 4 Dangerous "Don'ts" Brides Should Watch Out For to Avoid Drifting Apart from Friends!

2019.06.29 published

Absolutely Be Careful of Wedding-Related Friendship Troubles

A wedding is one of the happiest events in life! The preparation period is filled with fun activities such as choosing dresses and flowers.

However, a wedding that should be joyful can sometimes lead to cracks in relationships. I have actually heard firsthand stories of people who have "cut off ties due to interactions during the wedding."

It's too sad to become distant because of a wedding. To prevent such situations from happening, I have summarized the NG actions that brides should be careful about.

Be Careful! NG Action Related to Weddings ① Over Updating on SNS

Have you ever heard the term "Wedding Terror"? It refers to SNS posts related to weddings that make viewers feel uncomfortable.

A simple announcement saying "I got married" is not a problem, but if you post long texts, a lot of photos, or repeatedly show the preparations for the wedding, it may be perceived negatively as "pushing happiness" or "bragging."

Even if you don't mean any harm, you might be seen as overly excited or in a bridal high, and could unknowingly be avoided.

During the bridal period, there are many things you want to post on SNS, like trying on dresses or DIY items. It’s important to enjoy this in moderation by using a bridal account instead of your real-life acquaintances' account.

Be Careful! NG Action Related to Weddings ② Talking Only About Wedding Preparations

Similarly to SNS, you need to be careful not to dominate conversations with wedding topics in real-life situations. For friends coming to your wedding, it's a spoiler, and it can make friends who aren’t invited feel uncomfortable.

Also, marriage is a very delicate subject. Some people feel hurt when constantly hearing about a proposal or wedding while they are still searching for a partner. Try to avoid bringing up wedding topics more than necessary.

It's recommended to share your joys, concerns, and complaints with fellow brides or those who have recently gotten married.

Be Careful! NG Action Related to Weddings ③ Not Considering Guests’ Circumstances

It's a natural feeling to want all your important friends at your wedding!

However, there may be times when friends can’t attend due to work or family matters. While it's understandable to feel disappointed when someone says they can't make it, it’s important not to react emotionally and think, "Why aren’t you coming!?"

No matter how close the friend is, there may be circumstances that cannot be helped.

Additionally, for guests who are raising children or are pregnant, they may plan to attend but could suddenly cancel due to feeling unwell on the day of the wedding. Guests also feel sad about not being able to attend. Getting angry or blaming them will only deepen the sadness.

If you hold back and say, "Put your family (or work) first," you can maintain a close relationship even after the wedding.

Be Careful! NG Action Related to Weddings ④ Making Unreasonable Requests

Many brides ask friends to help with the entertainment during the reception or organize the after-party. It’s important to be cautious and not make unreasonable requests in the excitement of wanting everything to be perfect.

Friends are helping out of goodwill amidst their busy schedules, so if you ask for too many things, it’s understandable if they think you’re "selfish" or "brazen."

Ask for things that are manageable, and let them celebrate with you from the heart, which is the happiest thing for everyone.

Check out articles on how to ask for entertainment and recommendations for hiring a company to manage the after-party!

Be Careful! NG Action Related to Weddings ⑤ Not Showing Gratitude

A wedding is not only a place to showcase your marriage but also a chance to express gratitude towards your guests. You must thank everyone who supported you, whether they helped with registration or entertainment, as well as all the guests who attended.

The average gift from guests is around 30,000 yen, and combining the cost of food, drinks, and gifts, it’s not uncommon for more than that to be spent per person. However, having a mindset of "I’m incurring more costs than the gifts" is absolutely off-limits! It’s not about the amount.

Taking participation fees from friends who helped with the after-party or failing to return a gift to those who gave you one are considered very rude actions. It's important to have a sense of gratitude and maintain the spirit of "even among friends, etiquette matters."

To Avoid Friendship Troubles…

I have summarized the NG actions of brides that can lead to cracks in friendships during weddings. During the preparation, brides can become so busy that they lose sight of their surroundings. Thus, it’s essential to be mindful of your behavior.

After marriage, both parties should care for each other and build an even closer relationship. Wouldn't it be wonderful if everyone could have a happy and perfect wedding?