Heartwarming Moments at the Venue♡ Tips for Asking Grandma to Escort During the Intermission＊

2019.07.06 published

Who Should Escort You for the Second Outfit Change?

Have you decided who will escort you during your outfit change? It's common for brides and grooms to have someone special walk with them during this moment.

While many brides choose their mothers, siblings, or friends as their escorts…

@k_bride0212

Scenes with Grandmothers During the Second Outfit Change Are Quite Common ♡

Recently, many brides have been asking their grandmothers to be their escorts. Parents have roles during the wedding ceremony, and friends are often asked to perform entertainment.

However, grandfathers and grandmothers typically don't have specific roles at weddings. Yet, brides often want to express their gratitude to their grandmothers, who have lovingly raised them since childhood, by asking them to escort them during the outfit change ♡

@yco_wed

However, caution is necessary when having elderly grandmothers as escorts. Therefore, we will share some points to consider when asking your grandmother to escort you during the outfit change *

Precautions When Asking Grandma to Be Your Escort ① Be Careful with Surprises

The first point to consider when asking your grandmother to escort you is to "be careful with surprises!" It’s common to make the escort a surprise.

However, when asking an elderly grandmother for this, it’s essential to be cautious about surprises. If a surprise occurs, the grandmother may be startled when suddenly called out during the wedding, struggle to react, or in some cases, freeze up.

Even though the grandmother would be happy to be asked, she might feel sad if she's too shocked to respond properly. While younger individuals can often handle surprises well, it may be challenging for grandmothers over the age of 70 or 80.

If you plan to ask for a surprise escort, it would be reassuring to inform your parents and others around you in advance. Alternatively, you can also omit the surprise and inform her beforehand. Just saying “I want you to escort me during the wedding” in advance could be a lovely surprise in itself ♡

@nagisa_marry

Precautions When Asking Grandma to Be Your Escort ② Be Aware of Walking Distance

The next point to keep in mind as you plan the escort is to be aware of the walking distance. For grandmothers who are not accustomed to wedding settings, moving around can already be quite challenging.

In such cases, walking alongside the bride, observed by many guests, can be a test of stamina. Usually, grandmothers sit far from the main table, so when it’s time for the outfit change, they will need to walk from the main table to the exit, which can indeed be quite strenuous.

Thus, consider if your grandmother can walk the necessary distance when asking her to be your escort. This is particularly important for brides in large venues.

If it seems like walking would be too difficult for the grandmother, it’s advisable for the bride to go and greet her, escorting her directly out, or to stop by her seat while walking with someone else during the outfit change to give her a gift.

@nagisa_marry

Precautions When Asking Grandma to Be Your Escort ③ Be Careful with One-Line Messages

Finally, the last point is concerning one-line messages. There might be moments when the emcee asks the person you're asking to escort you to share a message with the bride. This can also be a surprise, but being asked suddenly to say something can lead to confusion. Many brides have experienced their grandmothers feeling overwhelmed by this request.

Grandmothers likely want to say something nice, but if asked unexpectedly, they may not know what to say. While it’s okay if they don’t express it well, the grandmother might be concerned about it.

Therefore, if you are planning to receive a one-line message, it’s wise to ask in advance or consider not asking for a message at all during the outfit change. Be sure to think about your grandmother's usual demeanor when deciding whether or not to request this ♩

@shigeayu_wedding

A Little Consideration and Care is Necessary! Let’s Ask Grandma to Escort Us Out ♡

When asking an elderly grandmother to be an escort during the outfit change, a bit of caution is necessary. With age, it’s natural for both mental and physical abilities to decline. The nimble movements you experienced when playing together as a child may be challenging now…!

Nevertheless, your grandmother remains an incredibly important person in your life ♡ She will surely feel proud to walk alongside her grandchild on such a special day ♡

When you ask your grandmother to be your escort for the outfit change, please keep various considerations in mind to ensure a wonderful escort moment ♩

@tamu_wedding