"If You Think You're Not Alone, You Can Keep Going: Common Wedding Day Surprises and How to Resolve Them!"

Weddings Are Full of Surprises＊

A wedding where you vow eternal love with your beloved partner, surrounded by loved ones celebrating your special day♡ It would be wonderful to have a wedding without any incidents and spend a happiness-filled day, but...

The truth is that mishaps are part of weddings. It's a fact that there are fewer brides who say, "Everything went smoothly on the day!"

With dozens or even hundreds of guests invited and many staff members involved, it's quite unusual for nothing to happen at all!

However, on Instagram, there are numerous posts like "What do I do if this happens?" or "With so many mishaps, I don't want to have a wedding anymore."

It’s understandable to feel that way, but surely everyone experiences some of these issues. If you can think, "I'm not the only one!" you will likely be able to get through it♡

Therefore, this time we will introduce some commonly occurring (and perhaps surprising) mishaps that can happen at weddings, along with their solutions, so please take this as a reference♡

Common (and Surprising!?) Wedding Mishap 1: Strict Venue Restrictions!

It's common to hear that the restrictions at wedding venues are quite strict.

For example, photography during the ceremony may not be allowed, no outside accessories or dresses may be permitted, and changing even a portion of the meal plan might not be allowed, among other restrictions...

It’s easy to think, "Why can’t I do anything when others at different venues or other brides can?" This feeling comes up quite often!

Especially with outside supplies, in strict venues, even if you pay a fee, it might still be difficult to bring things in, leading many brides to say they "regret it forever."

If the restrictions are too stringent, it's advisable to negotiate beforehand if you haven't signed a contract yet. After signing, negotiating can be difficult, but before the contract, many venues may be more flexible in their responses!

Even after signing, some brides choose to pay a cancellation fee and move to a venue with more flexibility. Depending on the progress of preparations and the time remaining until the wedding, it might be worth it for brides who want a wedding they won’t regret, even if it means paying a cancellation fee.

For brides who have little time until the wedding and are adamant about their wishes, sometimes all that’s left is to plead until the very last moment!

However, venues also have rules. If one couple is allowed exceptions, they must do the same for others, turning rules into meaningless guidelines. Sometimes it’s essential to accept reality.

Therefore, when choosing a venue, it’s good to check on all the details, like restrictions on outside supplies and photography! ♩

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Common (and Surprising!?) Wedding Mishap 2: Venue Renovation or Bankruptcy!

It’s also possible that the chapel or reception venue undergoes renovations, or, in some unfortunate cases, goes bankrupt!

Your favorite venue that you painstakingly decided on might get a complete overhaul and change to a completely different style, or you might have to hold your ceremony at another location during renovations, and sometimes a venue may go bankrupt, forcing you to hold your wedding at a completely different venue...!

This is something that the bride and groom have no control over. Some brides have experienced seeing a renovated chapel without any prior notice or discovered through the news that their chosen venue has closed...!

It can be incredibly disheartening to feel like all the effort put into preparations has gone to waste, but if your venue undergoes renovations or closes down, the first step is to think about what you want to do next.

While it’s tempting to critique the venue, it’s essential to first consider how to handle the wedding that has already been planned.

Criticizing the venue won’t change anything. It’s crucial to discuss with your partner whether to proceed in the renovated venue, shift to another venue, or find a completely different venue, and clearly communicate your decision to the venue!

Common (and Surprising!?) Wedding Mishap 3: Issues with the Planner/Changes

It’s also common to find that you don’t mesh well with your planner, or that the planner might leave the company midway through the planning.

As planners are the closest staff to brides and grooms, it's a reality that various troubles arise...!

A frequent issue in communication with planners is "not getting along."

For instance, you might express that you want to prioritize relaxed conversation time, yet the planner continuously suggests performances.

Sometimes, a bride may have thought their planner was female only to find out it’s a male planner, leading her to feel unable to express her thoughts.

Beyond compatibility issues, some brides feel that their planners are not adequately planning their weddings.

For example, the planner might say they will call in the evening but fails to do so or might forget to confirm with their boss, etc. While one mistake can be dismissed, repeated errors can certainly cause anxiety...

If you find that you don’t get along with your planner, or that they are not planning properly, it's usually best to consult with their supervisor. While it may feel awkward, many brides regret staying with a planner they don’t get along with.

After consulting with a supervisor, gently express your desire to change planners if possible. Even after a change, you might encounter the planner at the venue, so it’s a good practice to handle changes diplomatically.

Common (and Surprising!?) Wedding Mishap 4: Family Conflicts

It’s also quite common to have disputes with family or in-laws before the wedding...

There are instances where parents and children disagree or where in-laws have strong opinions, or even where grandparents hold the ultimate say, leading brides to feel, "It’s our wedding, but we can't decide anything ourselves..."

It’s truly hard when your once-in-a-lifetime wedding, which you want to make special, is clouded by family conflicts.

If you find yourself entangled in family disputes or arguments, it’s best to reconcile as soon as possible. Express your thoughts clearly, and sometimes getting support from your groom can help in the resolution.

If reconciliation proves to be impossible... you may have to either face the wedding day without resolution or relent, but there’s no right or wrong choice here. It’s important to consider carefully and make decisions that you won’t regret later.

Common (and Surprising!?) Wedding Mishap 5: Guests Cancelling

One of the most common mishaps at weddings (perhaps?) is guests cancelling their attendance.

It’s disheartening when guests don’t inform you until the day before or even the day of the wedding.

When you learn of a guest's cancellation, inform your planner as soon as possible! They can assist with matters like [cancellation of gifts/food/souvenirs/paper items, and changes to seating arrangements] among other details.

Detailed methods of handling these situations depending on timing are discussed in this article, so have a look! ♩

➡【Plans Are Thrown Off! How to Handle This?】 A Summary of Responses for When Guests Cancellation Happens!

It’s sad when guests cancel, especially when it’s close relatives or friends. It can feel more than just sad; it can be deeply upsetting...

Yet, the guests will also have their own circumstances. It’s important to manage your feelings and respond like an adult.

There Are Many Other Mishaps at Weddings!

There are really so many possible mishaps at weddings! Just from what I've heard:

A heavy snowfall or earthquake on the wedding day,

The photographer's lens breaking,

The hairstylist forgetting their makeup tools,

Losing a contact lens mid-event,

The groom getting drunk and collapsing,

A father going missing,

A groomsman getting drunk and collapsing,

Parents and relatives who opposed the marriage staging a protest,

A friend of the groom jumping into a pool,

Food poisoning at the wedding,

The groom injuring himself just before the wedding,

The groom hitting the ceiling during a celebrate toss,

A tragedy happening just before the wedding,

A scheduled performance not being ordered,

The chapel being in a different location,

More guests showing up than expected at the after-party, resulting in insufficient favors,

Quarreling just before the wedding,

The reserved dress not being available,

Spilling red wine on the wedding dress,

Finding a green caterpillar in the food,

and so on, there are truly numerous mishaps at weddings!!!

With so much happening, it’s quite possible to think that your own mishaps are minor by comparison!?

Mishaps Are a Part of Weddings! Rest Assure, You’re Not Alone♡

We’ve introduced some of the common (and perhaps surprising) mishaps that occur at weddings!

The brides before you have experienced quite a variety of mishaps, haven’t they...? Compared to them, your own may feel less significant. You might even feel a touch better about it.

Mishaps are part of the wedding experience. Rather than think, "There are so many mishaps, I don't want to have this wedding anymore!" approach the day with a broad heart, overcoming the challenges and enjoying the celebration! ♩