"How Do Newlyweds Handle Household Chores? Tips on Division of Labor from Working Couples for a Harmonious Married Life"

Is Newlywed Life Going Smoothly?

To all brides who are moving in with their partner due to marriage or plan to do so! How is your newlywed life going? (Does it seem like it's going to start smoothly? ♡)

Whether you've been living at home until now or have been living alone, it's the start of a new life together!

Let's create a wonderful newlywed life while being considerate of each other ♩

Common Arguments in Newlywed Life: "Division of Household Chores"!

Looking at Instagram, one of the most common complaints from newly married brides is about the "division of household chores."

Nowadays, it's rare for women to stay home after marriage, and more tend to continue working even after getting married.

However, the societal expectation that women should do household chores is still very deeply rooted. Many brides seem to be struggling with the fact that their partner doesn’t help out at home despite both partners working.

So, how do modern dual-income couples actually divide household chores?

We Asked Members of Marry! *

This time, we asked members of Marry! The members are mainly brides who have recently gotten married or are planning to marry within the past year.

We frequently hear stories about their homes and partners, but we hardly ever hear complaints about their husbands—everyone seems happy ♡

Of course, the members of Marry, like their husbands, are dual-income couples, but we don't hear about issues like their husbands not helping out with chores.

When we asked the members, we found a common trait!

A Characteristic of Modern Dual-Income Couples: They "Do Not Divide Household Chores" *

When we asked Marry members about the division of household chores, many said they "do not divide chores."

We didn't find anyone who had role assignments like "laundry is done by the husband, cooking and cleaning by the wife" or "the husband on weekends, the wife on weekdays."

So, how do they actually manage daily chores?

How Modern Dual-Income Couples Handle Cooking

Cooking is probably the most challenging and necessary chore that needs to be done every day.

When we asked Marry members, most said that the one who comes home early does the cooking! Since dual-income couples often have varying return times, the one who gets home first usually ends up cooking.

Also, if the husband cooks, the wife does the cleanup, and if the wife cooks, the husband does the cleanup—many couples divide it this way.

There were also responses about prepping meals for the week on weekends. Meal prepping allows easy access to food even when both return home late during the week, which is quite convenient ♩

Additionally, it seems that going out for dinner during the week is also common! Many members have the impression that they eat out with their husbands or friends one to two times a week. After all, they want to enjoy delicious food while they’re dual-income ♩

How Modern Dual-Income Couples Handle Laundry

Opinions varied between doing laundry as they notice it and doing it individually.

Many women prefer to wash their own clothes because women's clothing is often delicate. It might indeed be better for them to handle their own laundry to take care of their delicate clothing.

Those who handle laundry as they notice it mentioned that they do a load when the washing machine is full. With a drum washing machine that dries clothes simultaneously, it's really convenient ♡

Since there's no hassle of hanging clothes, dual-income brides looking to buy a washing machine were advised to definitely go for a drum type!!!

Items that save time and reduce effort seem to be popular among dual-income couples.

How Modern Dual-Income Couples Handle Cleaning

If you live every day, your home will inevitably get a bit dirty. Cleaning is important too.

Many seem to clean together on weekends! It appears that since they cannot do it during the week due to late returns, many couples clean together during the weekends ♩

What was surprising (！？) was that most said their husbands handle the toilet cleaning!

While other chores and cleaning tasks are usually managed by one partner or the other, many couples do have the husband take care of cleaning the toilet.

Some also mentioned using cleaning robots like Roomba or Braava.

The Braava, in particular, has received high praise among Marry members for being more affordable than Roomba and maintaining cleanliness with daily mopping ♩

By the way, in the Marry office, Braava is also used, actively contributing as a staff member (？！) ♩

➡ You can buy Roomba here *

➡ You can buy Braava here *

Cooperation is Essential in Dual-Income Households

When we asked Marry members about the division of household chores, most said they "do not particularly divide" the chores.

It seems that they cooperate when they can, enjoying life every day ♩

If chores are divided, it tends to lead to feelings like "I was in charge but didn't do it" or "He didn’t help me."

It varies by couple, but it seems that all members of Marry happily coexist with their husbands without dividing chores ♡

Brides entering newlywed life should talk to their husbands about not establishing rigid rules; instead, they could say, "Since we are both working, let’s cooperate and get things done together!"

Surely, even husbands who are not good at household tasks will join in! *

➡ Curious! How does everyone manage finances in a dual-income relationship?

➡ What did members’ husbands say were the best things about marriage?