"Tell Me, Senior Brides! What Are the 'Regrets' You Had About Your Wedding?"
2018.02.10 published
A Once-in-a-Lifetime Wedding, I Don't Want to Regret It.
A wedding where you vow a lifetime of love with the one you love so much. It's full of happiness as your loved ones celebrate your union, but...
Because you’ve worked hard to prepare, even small mistakes can become bothersome, and after the wedding, you might think, "I should have done this" or "I should have done that" and feel regret.
So, what do past brides regret?
To help future brides avoid the same regrets, we will share "wedding regrets" that senior brides have shared.
Let’s keep these in mind!
Regret #1 from Senior Brides
The first regret involves the candle lighting ceremony.
There were seven candles aside from the main one, and each was lit by one of seven designated guests. However, they later thought, "I should have asked couples to light the candles together!"
Having couples light the candles together would have added an exciting collaborative element. It would surely be an unforgettable memory for guests attending the wedding as couples.
When you have a performance that requires guest participation, take your time to think carefully about who you will ask.
Regret #2 from Senior Brides
A bride who displayed the congratulatory cranes she received from guests in the welcome corner.
After the wedding, she regretted not bringing the cranes with her when she entered wearing her colorful kimono.
It's hard to be quick on your feet when you receive congratulatory items right before the wedding.
If you receive congratulatory items or balloon decorations, consider how to utilize them beyond just display.
Regret #3 from Senior Brides
Newlyweds who wrote messages on the back of name cards for all guests.
They stayed up all night writing together, which resulted in their handwriting being messy, and they regretted it!
Writing messages on name cards often gets pushed to the last minute, and handwriting dozens of messages in one night can be more challenging than anticipated.
Many brides end up with hastily written or generic messages and regret their choices.
However... the groom also wrote by hand, and guests were pleased to receive comments from him for the first time!
The sentiment is more important than neat handwriting, but brides who are concerned about this should finish early.
➡ Examples and tips for name card messages*
Regret #4 from Senior Brides
A bride who regretted not creating a photo instruction sheet for the wedding day due to lack of time.
She assumed the preparation shots would be taken without needing to ask but ended up with none.
Even at the same venue, whether the photographer captures certain moments can vary, so be cautious!
Regrets about photos are common, so creating an instruction sheet is recommended.
If you find yourself without time to create one, have the staff take photos with your smartphone when the photographer isn't around.
➡ References for instruction sheets*
Regret #5 from Senior Brides
A bride whose hands became rough right before the wedding.
She ran out of her usual hand cream and used a new one that didn’t agree with her skin, causing her fingertips to peel!
Since hands are often shown up close in bridal nail and ring photos, any roughness can be noticeable.
Brides with sensitive skin should ensure their regular skincare products are well-stocked.
Regret #6 from Senior Brides
A bride who regretted two things during the ceremony.
The first was that she crouched too quickly when lifting her veil, causing the groom to adopt a low stance.
The second was that the groom was so focused on not stepping on her dress that their kiss ended up being far away.
At this bride’s venue, there was no proper rehearsal on the wedding day.
There was a chapel seminar explaining the flow of the ceremony beforehand, but the groom couldn’t attend due to work, so they ultimately had no rehearsal before the big day.
To avoid regrets, it’s essential to simulate the actions of the ceremony.
Make sure to communicate the importance of practice to the groom, so both can rehearse together and perform perfectly on the day.
➡ Three important points when lifting the veil during the ceremony*
➡ Popular articles on posture and photo appearance at marry*
Regret #7 from Senior Brides
A bride who chose not to hire a videographer, thinking "No one will watch it anyway."
However, after the wedding, she regretted not having video captured for every scene.
While desired photos can be re-taken later, wedding videos are unique to that day.
Prior to the wedding, you might think it's too expensive, but later you will likely appreciate that you did hire one. If you're hesitating, it’s better to take the plunge.
Regret #8 from Senior Brides
The last bride we’ll mention was disappointed that the position of the flowers on her colored dress was different from the fitting.
The flowers were removable and were placed at the waist during the fitting, but on the wedding day, they were positioned at the center top instead.
When there are removable accessories like flowers or ribbons, they may be placed differently due to the preferences of those in charge of the attire.
If you have removable accessories, it’s reassuring to request that they confirm the placement before dressing up.
Take Note of These Valuable Insights from Senior Brides!
We shared the regrets of senior brides with you. Many of the stories may make you think, "Did that really happen?" and are very informative.
Keep these in mind, so you don’t share the same regrets.
➡ A variety of other regrets from senior brides during weddings