A Comprehensive Report on Real Opinions from Brides! Summary of the Amounts for 'Transportation Allowances' Given to Guests

2019.07.10 published

How much do people give as transportation expenses?

"Oshuradai" is the transportation cost given to guests coming from distant locations to attend a wedding.

It is considered a matter of etiquette to provide "oshuradai" so that important guests traveling from outside the prefecture by plane or shinkansen do not bear an excessive burden.

≪About the amount given≫

Generally, "oshuradai" is said to be one-third to the full amount of actual transportation expenses, but it can vary depending on the distance and other factors.

While general rules are important, many brides are more interested in how much their peers are actually giving.

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This time, we'll provide a thorough report on the actual amounts of "oshuradai" that experienced brides have given to their guests!

Amount of "oshuradai". Actual cases ① Bride from Hokkaido

☑ Guests who arrived by plane from outside the prefecture: 10,000 yen

☑ Guests who arrived by shinkansen from within the prefecture: 5,000 yen

Amount of "oshuradai". Actual cases ② Bride from Hokkaido

☑ Guests who arrived by plane from outside the prefecture: 20,000 yen

☑ Relatives from outside the prefecture: 30,000 yen

☑ Guests who arrived by shinkansen from within the prefecture: 10,000 yen

Amount of "oshuradai". Actual cases ③ Bride from Gunma

☑ Guests who arrived by shinkansen from Tokyo: 5,000 yen

☑ Other guests who arrived by shinkansen: 10,000 yen

☑ Guests who arrived by plane from Hokkaido and Fukuoka: 20,000 yen + hotel expenses

Amount of "oshuradai". Actual cases ④ Bride from Ibaraki

☑ Guests from outside the prefecture: 10,000 yen

☑ Guests needing accommodation from outside the prefecture: 10,000 yen + accommodation costs

Amount of "oshuradai". Actual cases ⑤ Bride from Tokyo

☑ Guests from nearby prefectures: 10,000 yen

☑ Guests from Hokkaido: 30,000 yen

☑ Guests from Tohoku: 20,000 yen

☑ No hotel expenses provided

Amount of "oshuradai". Actual cases ⑥ Bride from Tokyo

☑ Gifu: Round-trip transportation costs & accommodation expenses

☑ Kanagawa outside the prefecture: 5,000 yen

Amount of "oshuradai". Actual cases ⑦ Bride from Tokyo

☑ Plane: 15,000 yen

☑ Shinkansen: 10,000 yen

Amount of "oshuradai". Actual cases ⑧ Bride from Chiba

☑ Shinkansen/plane: Round-trip expenses

Amount of "oshuradai". Actual cases ⑨ Bride from Kanagawa

☑ Relatives: Full amount

☑ Shinkansen/plane (friends): 10,000 yen + accommodation expenses

☑ For round-trips over 7,000 yen: 3,000 yen

Amount of "oshuradai". Actual cases ⑩ Bride from Kanagawa

☑ Hokkaido: One-way airfare

Amount of "oshuradai". Actual cases ⑪ Bride from Osaka

☑ Tokyo/Nagoya: 15,000 yen

☑ Hokkaido: 30,000 yen

☑ Okayama: 5,000 yen

☑ Other areas in Kansai outside of Osaka: None

Amount of "oshuradai". Actual cases ⑫ Bride from Hyogo

☑ For those requiring accommodation: 10,000 yen + hotel expenses

Amount of "oshuradai". Actual cases ⑬ Bride from Hiroshima

☑ Tokyo: 20,000 yen + accommodation expenses

Amount of "oshuradai". Actual cases ⑭ Bride from Kumamoto

☑ Plane: 10,000 yen

☑ Within Kyushu: 3,000 yen

Amount of "oshuradai". Actual cases ⑮ Bride from Nagasaki

☑ Flights from outside Kyushu: 10,000 yen

☑ Areas within Kyushu outside the prefecture: 50,000 yen

☑ For those arranging hotels: Only accommodation expenses

Amount of "oshuradai". Actual cases ⑯ Bride from Okinawa

☑ Everyone: Full airfare + full hotel expenses + for those traveling across prefectures, shinkansen costs

Tips for giving "oshuradai" to friends?

Many brides planning to give "oshuradai" to friends mentioned that they asked in advance about the type of transportation (plane, shinkansen, etc.) and whether there would be any need for accommodation.

The timing for asking these questions could be twofold:

☑ When checking if they can attend the wedding, ask: "I apologize, but would you be able to come if I cover about half of your travel expenses?" or "I would feel bad for the distance, but I would love for you to come if we cover both travel and accommodation expenses."

☑ When receiving the RSVP card: "Thank you for traveling from so far! What are your travel plans?" Then, either right then or later, mention how much "oshuradai" can be provided and who will make the reservations.

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The presence or absence of "oshuradai" for friends can lead to misunderstandings.

For example, "I wasn't sure if there would be 'oshuradai,' so I hesitated to attend," "I was going to give 'oshuradai,' but a guest I thought wouldn't expect it only gave me 10,000 yen as a gift," "I thought at least my accommodation would be covered, but I ended up covering all the travel and accommodation myself," "I had made an early reservation, but the bride suddenly said they'd handle it, resulting in cancellation fees."

There are various opinions from both guests and brides!

"Oshuradai" is an important matter regarding money. However, guests can't just ask, "Are you providing 'oshuradai'?"

Especially for guests coming by plane or shinkansen, or those needing accommodation, it's important to clarify:

☑ Whether the bride and groom will bear the costs

☑ How much they will cover

☑ Who will arrange what

It's reassuring for the couple to initiate these conversations in advance◎

Ensuring guests have a pleasant experience at the wedding

The amount of "oshuradai" can be a concern. While you want guests to come without feeling burdened, there are budget constraints that complicate the decision.

In such cases, it's helpful to refer to the actual amounts provided by fellow brides when deciding on "oshuradai"!

➡ How much is the average "oshuradai" for trips between Tokyo and Osaka? Let's think about it!

➡ How much did you give? Where did it come from? Experiences of "oshuradai" from 34 brides

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