"Etiquette in Familiarity: 4 Adult Manners to Consider When Requesting Entertainment at a Wedding Reception"

2017.11.11 published

What Should You Be Careful About When Asking for a Performance?

Generally, the performances at the wedding banquet are requested from close colleagues or friends from school by the bride and groom.

Although many guests cheerfully reply, "Sure, I'll do it!," preparing for a performance requires time and can be quite challenging.

As the saying goes, "There is etiquette even among close friends," it is essential to keep proper manners while requesting a performance, to avoid causing any inconvenience to the invitees.

Therefore, this time, I will introduce four points to be careful about when asking for a performance at the wedding banquet.

① Ask at least 3 months in advance!

Depending on the content, preparing for performances can be quite demanding, such as buying props or memorizing songs and dances.

Therefore, asking "Please perform" just 2-3 weeks before the wedding is a big no! Even a month in advance might be too tight.

Be sure to ask at least 3-4 months in advance to give them plenty of time to prepare!

Whether in private or work, it’s crucial to contact and act early!

② Convey your vision for the performance!

Simply asking "Can you perform?" can leave guests confused about what the bride and groom are looking for, which can be quite frustrating for them.

Therefore,

☑ It’s good to express what kind of performance you would appreciate.

☑ Mention current popular performances.

Sharing this kind of information in advance will surely be appreciated!

While being too specific about the content isn't ideal, communicating the direction and atmosphere would be great!

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③ Discuss the costs as well!

Many wedding performances can incur costs, such as outfits or props.

Even without those, there are expenses like transportation to gather everyone.

It might be challenging for the bride and groom to cover all these costs, but it's a good idea to say, "Let me know if it costs anything for preparation."

While it's unlikely you'll get billed later, make sure to express your gratitude with a proper gift!

④ Share information about the venue's space and facilities!

The last point is to share information regarding the space and equipment available for the performance at the wedding venue.

For example:

☑ What if they made a celebration video but couldn't use the projector...

☑ What if they danced, but the space was unexpectedly cramped...

That would really be unfortunate!

It’s also the bride and groom's essential role to ensure that the guests can present their hard work properly.

Check what facilities are available and how much space there is!

Let’s make performances that deepen relationships with guests!

I have introduced four common-sense points to be careful about when requesting performances from guests at the wedding banquet.

No matter how close you are, you wouldn’t want to be a person who causes inconvenience or is inconsiderate, right?

Remember that you are the one making the request, and let’s ask and respond in a way that lets you deepen your bonds with the guests!