"Feel Free to Skip This! Aspects of Wedding Hospitality That Won't Offend Guests Even if They Are Omitted"

2019.06.13 published

Do I Have to Prepare Everything Perfectly for My Wedding?

There are tons of things to prepare for a wedding.

With so many decisions to make about paper items, decorations, and performance props, brides must be really busy with preparations.

You might think, "Should I prepare this item?" or "Maybe this item isn't necessary...!" and go through the many items to select what to include or exclude...

But, do you really know which items you can do without?

It's sad to think that if you decide not to prepare something and guests are disappointed, so deciding that standard items are unnecessary requires quite a bit of courage.

But then again, preparing everything perfectly is a lot of work!

So this time, I will introduce items that I personally felt were "not necessary and didn't bother me" when I attended a wedding.

Wedding Items You Can Do Without #1 Profile Introduction, Greeting Message, and New Home Information

First, we introduce profile introductions, greeting messages, and new home information, which are typically included in the seating chart or profile book.

At a recent wedding I attended, the paper items I received only contained the seating arrangement and menu, along with the place cards. There was no profile introduction, greeting message, or new home information.

However, I didn’t find it difficult at all that it was absent, and my friends didn’t even mention, "Oh, there's no profile introduction page," so I realized that it’s really okay to not have those items!

Brides who want to save money, feel shy about rewriting their profiles, or are short on time might consider cutting these items out altogether!

Wedding Items You Can Do Without #2 Intermezzo Dish

The next item that can be omitted from your wedding is the intermezzo sorbet.

In many French courses at weddings, there’s often an intermezzo dish between the fish and meat courses, but honestly, I didn’t think anything of it being absent.

During the reception, there are so many performances and photo opportunities that you don’t have much time to focus on the meal.

I remember thinking, "The food was delicious," and "I was full," but honestly, I can’t recall whether there was an intermezzo dish or not...!

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Brides who want to save money or want to focus more on the main dishes instead of the intermezzo might find it a good idea to skip the intermezzo.

Wedding Items You Can Do Without #3 Bouquet Toss

Next on the list is the bouquet toss.

I recently attended a wedding without a bouquet toss, and I didn’t even realize it was missing until I heard from the bride later about the reason for skipping it...!

While bouquet tosses are a classic performance, the number of brides opting not to do it has increased recently. It turns out you surprisingly don’t notice it’s missing because there are other performances.

Wedding Items You Can Do Without #4 Video Elements

When it comes to standard wedding videos, we typically think of the opening movie, profile movie, and end roll.

However, I've never felt "lonely" even when there were fewer video elements at a wedding.

Although I’ve never attended a wedding without any videos at all, I found that just having one video was enough to enjoy the visuals, and conversely, if there are too many, like the opening movie, profile movie, end roll, and a thank-you video for parents, then there’s not much time left to enjoy the food!

If a bride feels, "I can’t finish making the video in time...!" it’s probably perfectly fine to drop them.

Wedding Items You Can Do Without #5 Welcome Drink

Lastly, we introduce the welcome drink.

The welcome drink is served during the waiting time before the reception starts or at the welcome party.

Of course, it’s nice to have, but I personally didn’t notice it was missing, so brides who are unsure might consider skipping it altogether.

However, if it’s a welcome party outside in the summer, I think it’s definitely more enjoyable to have it, and if there are many guests who enjoy alcohol, serving drinks early on will likely make them happy, so it’s important to consider the guests' preferences as well.♩

Make Your Selections and Have a Wonderful Wedding＊

I shared items that didn’t particularly bother me when I attended weddings.＊

The items I introduced this time are all standard wedding performances and items, but when you actually go to a wedding, you realize that not having them doesn’t bother you at all.

There are various standard items for weddings, but as long as you can see the happy couple, your guests will be satisfied!＊

For standard items and performances, if you believe they aren’t necessary for your wedding, it’s perfectly fine to skip them. Considering the effort and costs involved in preparing, it would be great if you could make your selections to have a wonderful wedding!♩