"Does It Really Have to Be Only the Bride's Side? Can the Messages on the Back of Place Cards Be Just for Certain People?"

2018.02.04 published

Thank You Message on the Back of Place Cards for Guests

Popular as a form of hospitality, the "back of place card message"*

Writing a short message on the back of the place card to express gratitude to guests for attending is a staple idea for weddings♩

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Do You Have to Write a Message for Every Guest?

But...!

Do you really have to write a message on the back of the place cards for every guest?

For example,

☑ He doesn’t want to write a message

☑ It's awkward to write for a workplace superior

☑ Unsure what to write to relatives you don’t see often

☑ Simply running out of time to write for everyone

There can be many reasons why you might feel, "I want to write, but it seems impossible."

In such cases, what should you do??

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It’s OK to Write Messages for Specific People Only!

If you are a bride thinking, "I want to write a message on the back of the place card only for the bride's side or friends!" it is perfectly fine to write only for those you want to write for＊

There is no rule that you must write for everyone, so just write for those you can without any problem◎

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However, when writing only for specific individuals, there are some points to be cautious about, which we will explain!

Caution ① Avoid Having the MC Announce the Message

Messages on the back of place cards often go unnoticed, so it’s possible that the MC might announce, "There’s a message from the bride and groom on the back of your place card."

If you inform the MC in advance, they will mention it, and even if you don't tell them, if the MC notices the messages on the back of the place cards, they might take the initiative to announce it.

However, if only the guests seated near the MC have a message while others do not, and the MC happens to announce it, it could lead to an awkward situation.

When guests look at their place cards after the announcement and find theirs does not have a message…!

Therefore, when writing messages only for specific individuals, be sure to communicate in advance, "Please do not announce the back of the place card messages as they are only written for specific people."

Caution ② Ensure Consistency in Message Presence at the Same Table

Next, the important thing is that when writing messages on the back of place cards, you should at least make sure that everyone seated at the same table has a message.

Since guests at the same table often show each other their messages, it can create an awkward atmosphere if one person has a message and another does not…! ><

Therefore, make sure to unify the presence or absence of messages for at least those seated at the same table!

[This Will Solve It!] Use a Template for Everyone and Original Messages for Specific People♩

We have shared two points to keep in mind regarding place card messages＊

While it’s acceptable to write messages only for specific individuals as long as you are careful, it’s also possible that other table guests might see the messages and expect the same on their own place cards, only to find none…!

Therefore, we recommend the method of writing a standard printed message for everyone on the back of the place cards, along with handwritten original messages for specific people!

Pre-print a message aimed at everyone on the upper part of the back, and write a personal message by hand for specific individuals on the lower part♩

With this approach, everyone can check the back of their place cards regardless of whether they have a handwritten message or not!

Of course, if the MC announces it, there’s no issue as it contains a message meant for everyone♡

Let’s Write a Message on the Back of the Place Card♩

It’s okay to write a message on the back only for specific people!

However, since guests who have a message and those who do not might feel awkward, it’s important to be mindful so that there’s no noticeable difference.

Writing a message for everyone helps to reduce any confusion regarding the content♩

➡【Less than 10 yen per piece】Here’s how to make the simplest place cards in the world＊

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