"Three Key Considerations for a Memorable Wedding Day You Won't Regret"

2018.03.07 published

Wedding, Will You Really Have No Regrets?

It's a once-in-a-lifetime wedding. You are likely preparing a lot to ensure it becomes a wonderful day, but...

Will you really be able to have a wedding without regrets?

Graduated brides who had their weddings generally say, "It was a super fun and amazing day!" However, aside from that, most of them have at least a minor regret about something.

What exactly are these regrets? This time, we will introduce three things to keep in mind for a wedding without regrets.

Things to Keep in Mind for a Regret-Free Wedding ① Don't Over-Save

First, let's talk about "not over-saving."

What was the image of your dream wedding when you first imagined it?

・A chapel with a large stained glass

・A glamorous reception and chapel filled with flowers

・A beautiful wedding dress with an embroidered long train

・Chic table settings reminiscent of foreign countries

・Dishes made with luxurious ingredients like truffles and foie gras

Among other things, I believe you had various dreams.

Once you start preparing for the wedding, you realize that planning such a dreamy wedding actually costs significantly more than average...

It's often the case that while you have an ideal image of your wedding, it feels unrealistic financially.

However, a wedding is something you do only once in your life. Birthdays and Christmas come every year, but a wedding only happens once.

Is it really okay to give up on your dreams for that wedding?

Of course, there may be times when you have to compromise.

However, many fellow brides end up saying that after cutting costs gradually across all items, they found themselves far removed from their ideal wedding...

You can earn enough money together over the decades that follow. But a wedding can only happen once.

Many stories circulate where couples end up regretting, "I really wanted to have a wedding that I was satisfied with" after saving too much, causing friction in their relationship...

While saving money is important, it’s essential to remember that this is a once-in-a-lifetime wedding.

Don't just focus on saving; surround yourself with things you think are wonderful and heart-fluttering, and don't forget to hold a beautiful wedding＊

Things to Keep in Mind for a Regret-Free Wedding ② Don't Overdo Handmade Items

Next, let’s discuss "not overdoing handmade items."

Creating handmade wedding items can lead to:

・Cost savings

・Memorable experiences

・Original items that are unique to you

There are many positives to handmade items, which can be great for brides who enjoy crafting and can create items they are satisfied with.

However, there are also many stories of fellow brides who have faced:

・Attempting handmade items despite not being good at it, leading to low quality and embarrassment from guests

・Spending too much time making items, which left them unable to prepare for other parts of the wedding

・Thinking they were saving money by making items, only to find the material costs were actually expensive in the end

Many such stories exist among previous brides.

While there are many benefits to handmade items at weddings, it’s also common to find it overwhelming or not save as much as expected.

Furthermore, it seems that disagreements can arise between brides who want to save and grooms who prefer to hire professionals.

While it’s wonderful to spend time making handmade items during wedding preparations, the preparation phase is also a time for:

Discussing future plans with your partner

Traveling with friends to create lasting memories before marriage

Spending quality family time

Visiting bridal estheticians to enhance your beauty

And many more experiences that can only happen before becoming a bride.

It’s great to enjoy the crafting process, but it’s also beneficial to leverage professional help to move wedding preparations along smoothly◎

Things to Keep in Mind for a Regret-Free Wedding ③ Don’t Overthink

Lastly, the point to keep in mind to prevent regrets after the wedding is "don’t overthink."

During the wedding preparation phase, various things can overlap, leading to what is commonly referred to as "marriage blues."

You might encounter issues such as:

・Your partner being unenthusiastic about the wedding

・Delays in RSVPs from friends

・Differences of opinion with parents regarding the wedding

These kinds of things can happen.

You may feel anxious about your partner's behavior, be hurt by minor comments from friends, or be more sensitive than usual to your parents' words...

Pre-brides often find their mental state is different from usual.

And rightly so. Getting married means shifting from living alone (or with family) to building a new life together with your partner.

While you might have walked a somewhat predictable path up to now, from here on, you will need to pave a new path together with your partner.

When you're facing such a significant turning point, it's easy to feel apprehensive even if you think you’ll be okay, and minor behaviors can trigger anxieties.

In moments of anxiety, it’s easy to become hurt by the words of friends or family, or to think too much about things, but remember that friends and parents’ behaviors are often just as usual as they’ve always been.

For instance, it’s common for friends to take too long to respond to wedding invitations (sometimes even past the deadline).

The bride might think, "I haven't heard back from XX," or "I thought they were a close friend...,” "Are they not looking forward to it?" "Maybe they don’t consider me a friend anymore?" and start to overthink, but

The truth is, friends are likely just busy with their own lives and have simply forgotten to respond. It’s usually not that they aren’t looking forward to the wedding or that they no longer consider you a friend.

If you become overwhelmed and end up misunderstanding or creating tension with friends, family, or your partner, you’ll likely regret it later.

It’s better to keep a degree of optimism and not overthink when issues arise; that will likely lessen your mental burden◎

Let’s Have a Wedding Without Regrets＊

We shared three key things to consider for a wedding without regrets＊

① Don’t Over-Save

② Don’t Overdo Handmade Items

③ Don’t Overthink

Many brides feel regrets about various things pertaining to their weddings, but when traced back, most of those regrets stem from one of these three points.

During wedding preparations, it’s easy to become so focused on the immediate tasks at hand that you lose sight of everything else, but it’s essential to think about the wedding day and future together, allowing yourself some mental leeway as you prepare for your special day◎