"Unforgivable Mistakes to Avoid: Seating Arrangement Etiquette to Keep Guests Comfortable"

2018.03.12 published

Mistakes in Seating Charts Are Not Allowed...!

The seating chart is an important paper item that informs guests on the wedding day, "Your seat is here."

Guests are grouped into categories such as company relations, friends, and family relations, and from there, the seating is carefully decided together with the planner and the groom, taking into account each person's position and their relationships with others.

@0625.tn.wedding

There are numerous basic manners regarding seating that must be strictly followed at a wedding, and care must be taken to avoid any offense. If there are any mistakes, even if unintentional, simply saying "I didn't realize it, sorry" is not sufficient...

It is possible to make guests feel uncomfortable, and both the groom and bride, along with each other's families, may be perceived as rude.

Therefore, creating the seating chart requires utmost caution and proper knowledge.

@tomomi_wedding1210

Here are some common mistakes to keep in mind when creating a seating chart.

Mistake 1: Incorrect Kanji for Names

For example, "菜" might be mistakenly written as "奈," "崎" might be confused with "﨑," and "裕" could be miswritten as "祐."

Mistakes with similar kanji are actually quite common. They occur more often than you might think...!

According to those who have had their kanji incorrectly written, they often feel "It's unavoidable, but it hurts a little," or "I'm disappointed that my name wasn't remembered."

It is recommended for both the groom's side and the bride's side to confirm the names about three times each.

@Weddingaya617

Mistake 2: Incorrect Seating Arrangement

Another common issue, aside from kanji mistakes, is misarranging the seating.

At weddings, the seats close to the high table where the bride and groom sit are considered "upper seats," and those farther away are regarded as "lower seats."

It would be problematic if a colleague were seated in an upper seat while a boss was in a lower seat at the same table...!

This would undoubtedly make both the boss and the colleagues uncomfortable.

Especially for tables with company-related guests, pay attention to their ranks when deciding the arrangements with the planner.

By the way, if the ranks are the same, the older guest should be seated in the upper seat.

@1224.a.wd

Mistake 3: Forgetting to Include a Guest's Name

Finally, there’s that spine-chilling mistake of forgetting to include a guest's name altogether...

You may wonder, "Is this really a thing?" However,

- While trying different seating arrangements, one person was accidentally left out.

- The RSVP card arrived late or was overlooked.

- An additional guest was invited but not added to the chart.

Such factors can occasionally lead to this mistake.

For guests, arriving at a wedding and finding their name missing is shocking, leaving them anxious about where to sit. Be sure to check that all guest names are included once the seating chart is complete!

@sr_wedding_1123

Confirmation Work Should Be Done with Extra Care!

We have introduced three mistakes related to seating charts.

Just thinking about the possibility of a mistake in the seating chart at a wedding makes you feel apologetic and distressed towards the guests.

Make sure to perform the confirmation process concerning guest names and seat arrangements multiple times with extra caution!

@_____sayawedding_____