"5 Tips to Avoid 'Narita Divorce' and Ensure a Peaceful Honeymoon"
2019.10.31 published
I Never Want to Experience "Narita Divorce"…!
Have you ever heard the term "Narita Divorce"? It refers to a situation where, during a honeymoon, frustrations with each other explode, leading to a strained relationship, and upon returning home, one starts to think, "Was this really the right person for me...?" resulting in a quick and irreparable divorce.
Many brides might find it hard to believe that a supposedly joyful honeymoon could escalate into divorce, but there are couples who have gone through a "Narita Divorce," and it's not just someone else's problem.
In 1997, "Narita Divorce" even became a drama featuring popular actors and actresses like Tsuyoshi Kusanagi, Asaka Seto, Eri Fukatsu, Hiroshi Abe, and Kazuki Sawamura. The fact that it became a drama shows how pervasive this issue is, and it's quite a serious matter, don't you think...?
Anyway, during a fun honeymoon, we definitely want to avoid arguments at all costs* However, since overseas trips can be different from what we are used to, even trivial matters can lead to conflicts. This time, we will introduce things to keep in mind to avoid having a Narita Divorce during your honeymoon♡
Precautions for Your Honeymoon #1 Lack of Research
The first thing to be mindful of is to research the destination thoroughly* While it's obvious, going on a trip without knowing anything about the local area not only deprives you of enjoyment but can also expose you to potential dangers.
Additionally, it's not good if only one person (either you or your partner) does all the research. It can lead to situations where your partner feels embarrassed because they weren't aware of something, or you may find yourself at a loss because you didn’t know something.
While generally, it's important to act together, you never know what might happen. Make sure to confirm things together, such as local tourist attractions, restaurants, climate, manners, and precautions◎
Precautions for Your Honeymoon #2 Forgetfulness
Forgetting something is another point that can easily lead to a Narita Divorce* When you forget something, it can cause trouble, and even if it doesn’t, it can dampen your mood…
Special attention should be paid to items related to local activities or honeymoon photos* An example could be “He forgot his swimsuit and couldn’t go in the pool, which meant we had to buy one. I had prepared matching ones.” This scenario is common, and if you asked him to pack his items for honeymoon photos, it could be “I don’t have shoes, there’s no shirt, no belt, no accessories…” and various things could go wrong.
It’s truly sad when something you were looking forward to cannot happen. Forgetting items can also become a point of argument, so it’s important to make an organized packing list and clearly outline who prepares what◎
Precautions for Your Honeymoon #3 Losing Items
Losing things can be extremely challenging when traveling. Careful management of valuables such as passports, visas, and wallets is crucial.
Especially if you lose your passport, you might have to go to the Japanese embassy, which could significantly disrupt your honeymoon plans and lead to frustration over the loss…
Moreover, you might find yourself exasperated by your partner’s response when something is lost. You might see the less appealing side of him, such as “He was unreliable, even though it’s his fault, he got grumpy, and he was too optimistic during an emergency.”
Be particularly careful with your items, and it’s essential to jot down emergency contact information in case something is lost◎
Precautions for Your Honeymoon #4 Perfectionism
Many people tend to set very detailed schedules for their trips* However, travel often comes with unexpected occurrences. Delays in flights or trains and shops being closed are commonplace. A too-detailed schedule can sometimes become a disadvantage.
It’s absolutely great to decide on places you want to go, things you want to see, and food you want to eat, but if you plan every detail, you might get frustrated when things don’t go as planned or be unable to adapt flexibly.
Therefore, not overthinking your schedule to perfection is also a secret to having a successful honeymoon♡ Make sure to list your desired spots and create a rough schedule, allowing you and your partner to enjoy a relaxed honeymoon together♡
Precautions for Your Honeymoon #5 Separate Activities
Engaging in separate activities during your honeymoon is another pattern that can lead to a Narita Divorce. For instance, if the groom wants to relax at the hotel while the bride wants to go shopping or if the bride wants to watch the sunset while the groom wants to drink at a bar.
There are various ways to spend a trip, but accommodating each other is especially important during a honeymoon◎ If you prioritize your individual activities over spending time together, the meaning of the honeymoon will be lost.
The best approach is for both partners to show consideration for each other during the honeymoon♡
Spend the Happiest Time in the World with Your Loved One♡
This is your first trip as a married couple with the person you love* Whether you choose to spend time leisurely and relaxed with him or actively enjoy World Heritage sites, this trip while talking about your upcoming fun new life together and the long journey ahead of you will surely become invaluable experiences♡
With the opportunity to take a break, spend money, and look forward to a honeymoon with your beloved partner,
make sure to create enjoyable moments that will erase the concept of "Narita Divorce" from your dictionary by being considerate of one another and having a wonderful time together♩